When i was very young i was raped by my older brother... =[ I shut myself off and recently everything sorta caught up with me and i have bee opening up more about it. Is it too late to tell my parents? sould i just never tell them?
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don't tell your parents' but talk to your brother' tell him how it changed your life, make him sorry for what he did,
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you should def tell your parents, it's never to late! this has changed your life and you don't need to do anything to spare his feelings or to hide any longer. Put it out there so you can try to work thru what you've been feeling all this time and finaly get help!
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Have you talked about with with a professional? Doctor, counseler, clergy. Your circumstances can't be that unique and someone who routinely deals with these kind of issues can probably help more than your typical answerbagger.
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Depends on how you feel about it personally. My brother abused me and my sister mentally, physically, and emotionally... and I blocked out most of what he did to me, so I'm really not sure if he raped us or not. I told my family, and it was hell for the first couple of years afterwards. None of them believed me (even though my sister backed me up, she didn't really want to talk about it much, so they weren't sure what to believe), and they all accused me of trying to break up the family, etc. Now that my mom has gone to a couple of counseling sessions with me, she believes me. My grandma still tells me 'it wasn't as bad as i made it out to be' (which is completely bullshit). Almost everyone in my family seems to not be sure if everything I told them was true or not (because trust me, some of it was sick shit), but atleast most of them don't outright accuse me of lying anymore. So, depending on your family, it could go different ways. I chose to tell them, and even though I have to put up with alot of B.S. now, I'm glad I did. It helped me heal.
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Recently caught up with you? I'm surprised that you can sit, stand, or walk, let alone sleep at night. Yes you NEED to tell your parents. Child rape is the most heinous of all crimes. You're a prime candidate for psychotherapy. And I am your friend.
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It's never too late to tell your parents, but you have to be prepared for their reaction. Some people can't handle those kinds of truth's. I come from a long line of women who were abused by male family members, and when they told, no one wanted to believe them. If you are emotionally strong enough to accept their denial, then tell them. For your self, you should get it out. Scream it, cry it, get it out, so it doesn't eat away at you. I have tried for so long to reconcile the idea that if I know the truth that is all that matters, but no matter how hard i try... it still kills me to know that others do not know the truth.
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I understand you worry. I have never told my mum. She know some about a person, but not all about another. It would really kill her to find out. I can't see myself ever telling her, even when the person dies. It might help me a little, but I think that if the person has already destroyed my life, why should I let them destroy my mums too. I just carry on, pretending I love them and hating them every second. It's up to you. Do you have young children around your brother, does anyone need protecting from him and can you do it from a distance or do you need help.
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