Whats wrong.. talk to me, I'll try to help

Have you been able to talk to your girlfriend since yesterday? I don't know what happened but it sounds like she needs a lot of space. Give it to her and let what happens...happen. I bet you didn't get any sleep last night did you? Sadly you can't make her come back but with time she just might want to.

Thoughts and prayers going out to you Itchy!!! :)

Itchy, how you doing sweetheart?

Itchy, I'm so sorry you are feeling so bad. There is so much pain in the world, so much confusion, so much sadness. We have to make it through these days that are full of sorrow and pain because we will feel good again, when? I wish I could say. We can unite in spirit and hold on to each through prayer, and believe we will make it through.......this time too!

Itchy... My grandmother died in April, last year. My father was with her for most of the time she was in hospice care. She died at 91. My father was 73. She held on until all three of her boys had spent the day with her, then she died that night. When I knew she was dying, I wrote her obituary, and when she did die, I sent it to the boys to make changes or suggestions. And then I wrote a tribute page to her on my website. It was what I felt I could do. (I was also a pallbearer - me with bad feet and a bad knee. Luckily, my son walked by me, and if I looked like I was losing my balance, he steadied me. My father couldn't sing at her funeral (was afraid of breaking down in the middle of it), but he'd made a cd with a friend of the song she wanted (she knew it was coming), and played it here. It took a LOT out of him for a while. He'd moved her into her own apartment adjascent to his, so they could talk any time they needed to (his house, btw). He'd been calling her every night, just before bedtime before he moved her and this way, he could just go to the door and tell her goodnight. Death is not fun. I don't believe it's meant to be... For the dying, or their family. But people DO get through it. You don't say anywhere what she's dying of, but it doesn't really matter. I know you don't want to let her go. You're bargaining with God for a miracle. Miracles have happened before, but they are rare. As hard as it is, you have to let her go. (If she's in pain, remember that she will no long HAVE that pain, and that's a GOOD thing.) Then you must grieve. When she goes, mourn her. Don't obsess on mourning, and remember that funerals are not always somber things, but celebrations and rememberances of the deceased's life. Celebrate all she was to you and yours. You WILL be sad, of course, and no one will fault you for that, except the most uncaring. You will remember EVERY LITTLE THING you knew about her... ALL of the good things, for sure, maybe some of the bad (if you knew them). Write them down. Believe me... It's at least a bit cathartic. You can read it over and over again. Also... BELIEVE ME, YOU will not, nor will any other member of your family who knew and loved her, forget her. Your life, itself, can be a tribute to her. Just live as she would have wanted you to. Be the person she wanted you to be (that doesn't mean the job - IT takes care of itself.) That means the loving, caring, husband and father... The happy man who named himself ItchyPenumbrax on AB... The person who is joyful that you had those years you had with her. You have my deepest sympathies. If you need to talk, my email is in my profile, as is my website with another way to contact me.

I hope you are ok, Itchy.....