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by blnksbbygrl on October 19th, 2006

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I just recently found out that my boyfriend cheated on me, so I dumped him. He feels no remorse at all, and doesn't even feel bad for hurting me. What can I do to get over the hurt and what he's done to me?

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  • by Anonymous on January 5th, 2007

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    Whatever you do, don't do anything you'll regret. Take the high road, stay strong, and make him realize what he's lost by NOT calling him, that is a great satisfaction. After time, you will be proud of yourself for doing so well, and the time will fly when you're extra busy. Focus on yourself! What I found to help, was to form a crush, it sounds lame, but it will give you something to daydream about, rather than your ex.

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  • by Osteon on October 20th, 2006

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    First of all, I would like to say that I'm sorry for the pain you have to go through. I know how it feels because somebody once close to me cheated, so I know how difficult it is to cope with.
    The best thing you can do for yourself is to do something for yourself such as working out or buying new clothes. Try not to have too much animosity towards him because that's negative energy that you don't need to waste, and it will only bring you down. Think of yourself as fortunate in that you found out how selfish he is before you became very commited to him such as marriage and children.
    Be aware that most relationships don't work. I say that because we go through life actually looking for somebody we feel is right for us, and we go through different relationships until we find that special person who we can love and trust.
    I promise you, with time, you will get over that painful feeling. In the meantime, keep it in mind that there are good men out there who deserve a chance to prove it.

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  • by Azraff on January 5th, 2007

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    It is good you ended the relationship before he could hurt you any further, but keep in mind, he may feel remorse and not show it. Males often will not reveal their feelings, even though they are suffering and want to apologize. The tougher the exterior, the more fragile the inside. So, it may help you to know this. If you could see it more as his issue, not yours, this could help. Perhaps you could also try to analyze the situation, what issues he has that caused him to do this. I hope this helps.

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  • by Anonymous on November 22nd, 2006

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    being cheated on feels so shit and brings u down, maybe he dont feel bad because hes embarrased or ashamed and he knows he wont be able to say anythin dat will make u change ur mind bout tings. for e.g my x (hu cheated on me afta 3 yrs) neva spoke 2 me for two mnths because he had nothin 2 say dat cud excuse himself. but be strong, enjoy ur freedom now because im sure u'll find sum bloke dat deserves u, go shoppin, go get ur hair done, enjoy being wit ur m8s... at the end of da day these things hapen for a reason, think positive and say 2 urself dis will make me a stronger person! i know things are easier sed den done but ur not loosin out, gud luck!

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  • by JUSTNORMAL on October 19th, 2006

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    Sorry, cheating is a betrayal that makes someone lose self esteem and become sad, angry and without answers. It is what it is, if he cheated, at least you found out before it got too serious. Grieve the relationship, try to do fun things, and focus on positive thing. Lastly write things down, whether on paper or an email (DONT send it) and tell him off royally over and over. That tends to help with the pain and anger.

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  • by Anonymous on November 23rd, 2006

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    nothing is better than revenge in my mind.

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  • by Halskiisaklink on January 5th, 2007

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    I could give you all sorts of deep, philosophical answers, but the best way to get rid of this sort of hurt is to get something you can physically beat up on and release all of your inner pain. Get a punching bag, and rip the shiesse out of it with a sickle. Or just punch it until you feel the immediate hurt has left you.

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  • by Anonymous on February 18th, 2008

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    I found out that my boyfriend cheated on me for a year and a half of our 3 year rshp. I felt so hurt that he lied to me but i managed to forgive him, at least I thought I could. We got back together but for the last 4 months I felt paranoid and constantly kept thinking he was lying. This made the relationship worse and I started to hate him. Problem is I forgave him but I couldn't forget. I now have ended the rshp because deep down I know I deserve someone honest and trustworthy, I know I will miss him but there is a constant reminder of what he did. Truth is if he really respected me he would have been honest and he couldn't. If he feels no remorse he definately isn't wrth it. Men are very good at making you feel bad but honestly think about what you deserve, if he can't be bothered to beg for your forgiveness he truly isn't sorry. My boyfriend said he was sorry but during the last 4 months he hasn't shown how sorry he really is. Trust me it's hard at first but you will move on. I only dumped him yesterday and I am finding it hard but after a long hard think I know I deserve sooooooo much better!

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  • by Junk Yard Dog on January 5th, 2007

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    Sleep with his brother or best friend, he will feel things then.....

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