He's probably worried about the typical thoughts soldiers have about their wives having affairs back at home. Understandably to some extent, because of the length of time away, and how unfaithfulness in marriages has risen so much recently. HOWEVER, verbal abuse is NOT something you should be subjected to just because he's insecure. You should talk to him about it, give him that chance to stop it, before you make that difficult decision to leave him. Good luck.

did you argue constantly, he verbally abused you and had no trust before you married him??? marriage is TRUST also....LOVE< TRUST< RESPECT< I mean what was the POINT of MARRIAGE?? in his situation it is most normal for people of his character...you have to realize there are lots of men in his same situation who do not have his PROBLEM....and most do not see "themselves" as having trust, jealousy,or self guilt, ISSUES because of selfishness and insecurity and "i think or do it and she might!!" problems.... so,if he has always been this way before marriage and deployment he always will be..... if you want to LIVE this ...then NEVER ever give any reason for him to be jealous and not TRUST...thats all you can do , BECAUSE you can't FIX him , only he can , IF he wants too.... jealousy has been here since satan and cain....it is a horrible heart condition and very hard to stop ourselves...the green eyed monster!!! I was married 18 yrs.( he worked overseas, gone a month and home a month) to a man I LOVED,TRUSTED, ADORED...yet was constantly ACCUSED ..cheating was never on my mind, I loved him too much....even after i found out he cheated several times , I still trusted and loved him and not once ever threw it up....but I guess LOVE IS BLIND..and he gradually KILLED the LOVE< TRUST AND RESPECT, I had..i left because i did not want to live the REST OF MY LIFE THAT WAY.. my only regret was MAKING MY KIDS LIVE THIS WAY...we never grew together, he kept us SEPARATED....i was never anywhere without my kids, a family member(his or mine) I can only use one EXCUSE, he was an alcoholic...but my son in law is not and he is WORSE than he was!!!! jealousy will EAT YOU UP .... Jealousy is kinda like pediphelia, it is HORRIBLE...they say there is no cure, but YES there is, IT IS CALLED SELF CONTROL... so, take from been there done that...LIVE IT or GET OUT....he can only do to you what you allow...most importantly PRAY for help, for yourself and your husband.

First, try to place yourself in his position. He is in a strange country. Does not want to be there. Hates the heat, the dirt, the country. Is terrified he will be next to die. Wonders whats going on at his home and his wife. This is enough to make anyone "not normal". Do not give up. Try to endure and be faithful, until he returns. Hopefully, things will be better. give it a chance.

he is who he is...there are lots over there in the same shape....thank goodness they dont act his way...selfish and immature.... we should always look "inwards" FIRST but this is his PROBLEM, not hers, IF she is giving him NO CAUSE ....to act as he does... Quote: "There is NO EXCUSE for BAD BEHAVIOUR!"

I would say try and grin and bare it. He will most likely act different when he gets back. There is alot of emotional bull shit he is going through over there. They are draining him of all emotion and trying to make him run on logic alone. So when he can think for himself at the moment he does not know what to think. I would suggest doing some research on psychological stress for milatary. I do not think he can explain what is going on and I think if you have it better explained you will feel better.