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Why exactly do teenage girls like older guys so much? Is it because they can drive?

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by anonymous on Oct 23, 2006 at 4:49 am Permalink

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Ok, I'm a teenage girl, and I'll tell you why I like older guys. I don't know if you have ever dated a teenage boy? If so, you will know that they are usually disgusting. Seriously, if I wanted someone to talk to my tits, I would hire a midget. My face is up here thank you very much! Then, they can't keep their hands to themselves. Most are rude, obnoxious, self centered and can't keep it in their trousers. At least some older men show some respect (though in my experience also find it hard to keep their hands to themselves). This is why I have decided that I just don't want a boyfriend, and will live out my life as a crazy cat lady spinster. If a guy can't go for more than 5 minutes without trying to grope you, I personally don't want to know

(Oh, feel free to rate this down, it was just getting some things off my chest)
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Avatar TanyaH Nov, 20 2009 at 02:02 AM
ahhh mattie! i kinda know what you mean with the "some people are surprised im not gay" part! cuz i grew up with my dad and i kinda am a guy sometimes lol. but not as in the sex talk and jokes, just the guy-ish personalities that exist. well, i kinda wished i grew up with my mom o.O. but it's getting there now somehow xP
Avatar mattie Nov, 20 2009 at 09:26 AM
lol. your cool we should talk more.
Avatar TanyaH Nov, 22 2009 at 05:10 AM
lol xD ok well then lets get it going haha xP. what do U do for fun =P. in free time i mean hehe.

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by lady fuschia on Oct 18, 2006 at 6:08 am Permalink

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You really need to get a teenage girl to answer this for you, but seeing as I used to be a teenage girl, I'll give it a go.
Most of the reason I preffered slightly older men was because 19- 25 year olds, I'm afraid to say, are generally a lot better looking than 13 - 16 year olds. When I was a teenager the boys my own age were generally spotty, scrawny, badly dressed, and obsessed with computer games, Baywatch, and terrible music. Most of them spoke in grunts and started acting like idiots when their friends were around. Most of them I couldn't perceive having very much in common with. In truth I probably didn't have very much in common with the older guys either, but because I wasn't around them on a regular basis I could convince myself that I did have something in common with them without having to find out otherwise.

I think there's also a certain amount of prestige in going out with an older guy at that age, it somehow makes you feel as if you must be more mature. Maybe the car is part of it, but I know plenty of guys without cars who are the subject of teenage crushes, so I'm guessing that's a relatively minor issue.

You should also note that even amongst adult women its quite common for the man in a relationship to be a few years older than her. Perhaps for the same reason most women prefer a partner who's taller than them - it gives them a feeling of being protected. (Just a theory)
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Avatar Cammmm May, 24 2008 at 08:01 AM
im not drunk all the time, nd i never got spotty, scrawny, badly dressed, tho i do love the computer games and only watched baywatch before puberty, and the music i like isnt terrible at all. also i wasnt a gropin kinda guy, only when drunk, or so im told. Oh never acted like an idiot lol and still no girls ever liked me. :'( probs too weird.
Avatar NaughtyRupet Apr, 15 2009 at 04:35 PM
I totally agree with you Lady Fushchia !
Avatar TanyaH Nov, 20 2009 at 02:07 AM
lady fuchsia, i agree with you to a high extent! but, in a way, if guys of 13-16 were such pigs back then, then wont they also be when they are older? i mean, i think you are lucky you grew up back then, because i think back then people we're still 'developing'(like there was no emo or something and all that) and i think people were still more 'nice' and 'innocent'(i don't really know how to explain haha xD) back then. i think it's just the guys themselves. and im sure that in 10 only about 2-3 guys would be the good ones... bad but that's that =/

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by Hatchet ryda on Feb 8, 2008 at 3:20 pm Permalink

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Because the guys are more mature then the younger guys. But still girls still dont like juggalos that well..

If there is any fam here...
woop! woop!
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Avatar goodies Apr, 08 2008 at 08:20 PM
yo wuddap dog crazy aint juggalo rida/ninja fo lyfe son.
Avatar BittenAngel Aug, 07 2009 at 11:23 PM
yeah but girls don't know what they miss out on lol
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Avatar TanyaH Nov, 20 2009 at 02:09 AM
what does mmfwkl mean? i never heard that before o.O. and bitten angel, i actually KINDA agree with you! xD but in the end it's always better to have someone that's actually more like mr.right =P. wouldn't want to live your life with a 'rapist' lol XD ok that might be a BIT to exagerrated haha

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by BadJuice420 on Dec 10, 2007 at 8:49 pm Permalink

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Well, first off, women mature 2-3 years ahead of men, so already that sets a girl up to want a guy at least a couple years older. Also, since they achieve sexual maturity earlier than men, those boys that are in the same age range still look childish, and often act childish too, where as older guys tend to look more masculine, act more sensibly, etc. There's also the caregiver mentality, that is, a woman usually wants a man that can take care of her, and a rough indicator of that could be age. Also, there is the society factor, that is, society puts emphasis on older men being more attractive on all levels.

Case in point: I matured early. By the time I was 13, I was shaving, and by the time I was 16, my hair was graying. My voice finished cracking by 14, and I was through puberty by 15. At the time, I was shy, but talking to former class mates, it turned out that many girls had crushes on me because they thought I looked distinctive and also thought I was alot nicer than the other guys my age. Unfortunately, I was too shy/conservative/naive to capitalize on my assets, so to speak, and spent high school lonely. Now at the age of 23, I have a head of hair that is about 25% grey, and look like I am 30. Consequently, most of the women I date are actually 25-26, as they usually think I'm 30 or so until I tell them my actual age (which is always a surprise to them). It's not really an age thing, but more of a physical/mental/emotional maturity thing. Because of my life, I appear to and have matured to what I think is about the level most guys are at when they are 30. Already, I'm majorly toying with the idea of settling down and raising children in the near future. This mentality seems to attract women in their late 20's, even though I'm actually young to them.

If you are a guy trying to get together with girls your age, but they are all dating older guys, or that seems to be the trend, here are some suggestions:
Maturity. Cannot be stressed enough. Listen when they talk. Help them with anything they seem like they want help with. Play the quiet and supportive role. Take long walks with them. Talk about your future and your life with them. Don't let forceful emotions phase you, and always maintain control over your composure.
Appearance. Not so important, but worth mentioning. Stand up straight. Look them in the eye when you talk to them. Try to appear confident (confidence, bar none, is the sexiest thing a guy can have). Be assertive with your posture, lean forward slightly when they talk.
Mentality. Big one here. Remember, you aren't trying to be her next guy, you are GOING TO BE her next guy. Don't come out and say it bluntly, but do make it part of your general mentality. Try to be caring and supportive, almost father-like, young girls tend to like guys that appear protective, supportive, and genuinely concerned about them. Also, don't give in to your emotional side and confess all sorts of love for them, not at least for the first 3 months or so. The second the girl in question starts seeming and hinting like she likes you, don't be dumb and don't turn the throttle up full blast, that may scare them. Recieve their affection in a non-chalant way, while still appearing like it means something to you. You don't want to seem like you want them as much as they want you, that would make you 'lose the game' so to speak.

But if you really want my advice... Shut up and be yourself.

And if you are a girl asking this, you should ask yourself 'why does it matter?' Mostly because it doesn't. Just try to be with whoever makes you happy, but don't appear obsessive.
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by penaltybox on Jan 27, 2007 at 10:28 pm Permalink

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choose to believe it or not... but girls mature, both physically and emotional, faster than boys.

Personally i've never been able to stand guys my age... there immature and perverted (not that all guys arn't, lol, but you catch my drift). I've always been attracted to older guys because i can relate to them more, and actually have a meaningful conversation with them. They may physically be "older", but mentally they are on the same level as me...

[being able to drive is a bonus though, lol :P]

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Avatar violet182nemo May, 13 2007 at 08:29 AM
nice. hav a point
Avatar Wiseguy Oct, 24 2007 at 01:06 PM
some of the girls I knew and dated liked the feeling of safety, experience, having the ability to date someone who was financially stable or in college. They wanted a real night at good restaurants, treated like ladies, and I personally liked the feeling that I would be the one to protect and defend her.

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by luminessence on Dec 24, 2007 at 2:19 pm Permalink

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Being a 16 yr old teen i prefer the older men 18+ because they are more experienced in how to act around a girl, they also have this charm about them. They know what they want and due to this they are definitely more confident in themselves. When a guy is confident the girl will not doubt him, and this makes the girl like him much more as a sense of security/safety.
I think money might have an impact, but not a big one as it is the confidence and experience which is the main point of why girls like older men.
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Avatar Im BACK Jun, 19 2008 at 04:17 PM
I agree with you. Great Answer!!

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by cupcakexcutie on Dec 10, 2007 at 8:47 pm Permalink

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i am currently dating an older guy, but it's not because he can drive [and it wasn't when i didn't have my license either]. i lean toward older guys because i find that teenage guys, or younger guys/guys my age, are, as a whole, rather immature. also, they are very "bros before hos." now, i don't mean to say that one should ignore their friends completely, but there comes a time in your life when your significant other is more important than your retarded friends.

for example: my ex boyfriend was only a month older than me, but he was very into his friends and video games [and drugs] and not me. a healthy balance between friends and your girlfriend is important, and a lot of times, younger guys don't get that/can't do that.

frankly, i think that older guys have a better understanding of what girls want; they've had more experience and have made more mistakes, and therefore know what to do and what not to do. they also have a better appreciation for the sweet things their girlfriends do, because they have either had shitty girlfriends or have had girls get mad at them for not being grateful.

it's a trial and error thing. they have tried, and erred, and are the better for it. experience. it all boils down to experience.
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Avatar cupcakexcutie Jul, 20 2008 at 05:35 PM
right.
i understand that.
some guys are like that (like i said, as a whole, not ALL OF THEM... just in general). i'm not trying to personally offend you, i am just answering the question using my experience and my opinion.
that's great that you appreciate your girlfriend... don't ever lose that appreciation for her...
you're ahead of the curve!
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Avatar that guy Jul, 20 2008 at 05:50 PM
lol thanks, i really should have posted that as an answer than a comment. . . if only i could write that much for an essay question it would get me somewhere .. ;) i hope i never mistreat her, but due to me being male it seems inevitable that i somehow will, lol,
i do wish most lads would wise up about relationship related issues but it seems that the inner child can sometimes never be outgrown by some. ..:(
Avatar cupcakexcutie Jul, 20 2008 at 08:48 PM
either that or girls expect to much.
it's give and take.

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by pepe09 on Oct 18, 2006 at 5:48 am Permalink

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A lot of young girls want to be mobil and get out of the house. A guy with a car can mean independence for them.
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by jrbowler on Oct 20, 2006 at 1:01 pm Permalink

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Girls mature faster than boys, physically and emotionally. Most teenage girls probably consider most boys anywhere near their own age hopelessly juvenile, and they are probably right.
Someone, I can't recall who, once said that a fourteen year old male is a little boy, but a fourteen year old female is a young lady.
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Avatar Anonymous Aug, 14 2009 at 03:53 PM
i totally agree

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by Anonymous on Oct 29, 2006 at 7:27 am Permalink

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being a teenage girl i would have to say that an older guy makes the girl feel more safer. The car is an added bonus. There are more than one reason though to go for an older guy but it depends what kind of girl you are talking about, for example one girl might like an older guy because he has more experience. Others would go for one to feel safe and protected and others go for them because guys their own age act like complete idiots.
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Avatar latinalover Sep, 18 2007 at 10:30 AM
U think older guys r not idiots than I am sorry to say it but alot of guys r very stupid but there r some guys out there who is smart like me cauze I am 17 but I act like a 27 year old guy
Avatar Smoke Jan, 22 2008 at 04:24 PM
u type & spell like a 7 yeer old though.
Avatar Dilaudid Apr, 01 2009 at 05:38 PM
u spelled year wrong haha


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