That depends on the individual to some degree. Some general things are common, though: people want to be appreciated for their good qualities. Whenever you interact with another person, you're sending all sorts of subtle signals which aren't necessarily spoken explicitly. Most of us are very sensitive to interpreting these signals, and when we detect that we're not appreciated we often bristle, withdraw, get upset, or react in some other "negative" way. Generally there's no good way to "fake" respect -- either you appreciate someone and that comes through in your interactions, or you don't and at best you're able to disguise your disrespect. Sometimes we manage to fool ourselves or others briefly, but its really a waste of time to even try most often. While you can't fake respect, you can learn to listen. Most of the time we don't listen to others very well: we're preoccupied with our own thoughts and opinions, just waiting to get our chance to talk. But if you can interrupt that and actually listen to the other person, that can become the entry point for genuine respect. Pretty much everyone has some good qualities that are admirable, and listening to them well tends to reveal what those are.

I would say that respect is earned. If a guy treats you poorly he does not deserve it. If he is respectful to you, show the same courtesy in return. Be kind, honest, dont judge or name call.

The way that many people throw around the word "respect" today, it is as if they are asking for their ego to be cuddled. When you say "by a man", do you mean as if in a man/woman romantic relationship? Do you mean man as in mankind in general? If a man a woman is starting to date goes into some spiel about "needing more respect", then I feel that it sounds as if that guy has some self esteem issues or has an overblown ego. Many people accept that respect comes with time from other people. After we have been given a chance to prove ourselves. Regarding mankind in general, the best way to dignify or show respect to them is to apply the "Golden Rule" One of the most famous pieces of counsel in the Bible is the so called Golden Rule: “All things, therefore, that you want men to do to you, you also must likewise do to them.” (Matthew 7:12) If we all followed this rule, the world would clearly be a better place. But even if humans in general do not follow the rule, it is better for you individually to do so. Why? Because we were made to care for others and be concerned about them. (Acts 20:35) A psychological study conducted in the United States to find out how people reacted when they helped others reached this conclusion: “It appears, then, that caring about others is as much a part of human nature as caring about ourselves.” Matthew 22:39