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  • If either of you values your careers you will both forget about it. Co-workers dating is one thing, but two people who are alligned as manager and employee is quite another. It might even be against company policy for him to date you or for you to accept an invitation for a date. Think about it, if the relationship goes sour you will both be in an extremely awkward position. Or if others in the office sense favoritism because of your personal relationship, that is equally as awkward. Don't even entertain the notion that you can "keep it a secret". It rarely stays a secret. I speak from experience. I dated a military officer in my division and I was a government employee. He was not my superior nor did he have any supervisory roles in relation to my job. Both government and military policy at this location did NOT prohibit us from dating. It did not stay a secret. We were spotted out for dinner several times by co-workers. It did go sour and it was a nightmare. We both felt like we were on display when it did. I transfered to another division, but that didn't help much. We still passed each other in the halls and we were both uncomfortable. He ended up being assigned to an AFB out of state and I eventually quit (though not because of this situation). Mixing work and pleasure is risky at best, but since you have a manager employee relationship that ups the risk significantly. Forget it and find someone else. Quite frankly, I think your manager is way out of line by even sending signals. He should know better.
  • I once liked a manager too. I tried showing him I liked him in calm, appropriate ways, if he doesn't advance past that, I would give up, he isn't going to do anything. If you flirt more obviously and he does back, I would probably become friends with him first, and ask him if he wanted to hang out (in public places). I say become his friend first, because then if the relationship wouldn't work later, you wouldn't be jepordizing your career.
  • Office romances are NEVER a good idea. Why? Because sooner or later the relationship fails, then you're left dealing with a difficult situation and egg on your face. What's worse, you may find yourself without a job, if your boss decides to fire you, or if your co-worker were to become your boss, then he could fire YOU! Bottom line: Don't date bosses or co-workers because if the relationship sours, then you may find yourself in the unemployment line. Good luck!
  • DONT FORGET ABOUT HIM, THERE IS A SOLUTION FOR EVERYTHING, YOU CAN GO OUT AFTER WORK. IF YOU TWO LIKE EACH OTHER THEN YOU SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT YOU JUST MET HIM IN THE RIGHT TIME BUT WRONG PLACE.
  • Are you sure its just interest and not his position over you? you have to be careful in this type situation. Remember, if it turns into sexual harassment, it can be a felony offense. I would find someone else, outside your employment. i smell trouble down the road.
  • SWEETIE, IF BOTH OF U ARE SINGLE, THEN USE YOUR WOMANLY GIFTS! IF ONE OF U I MARRIED THEN FORGET ABOUT IT!
  • Workplace romances rarely work out and almost always lead to prosecutions when they breakdown.
  • i would forget about it since youre not supposed to go out with your manager anyways

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