If he keeps thinking that something will happen just do what he is afraid of so that he can finally be put to rest

Bear with him. does the good, in your marriage, outweigh the bad? if so, be thankful. This may be just a phase and he will get over it. i believe everyone goes through this insecure stage at one time or another, in a marriage. it will pass. The second phase of your marriage, is the time you really realize that its you and your husband, as soulmates, forever. its the deepest devotion a man and woman can commit to each other. Hang in there. there are just so many good people left out there. if he is one of them, you two will work this out. TALK!

Well he probly just dont wanna lose you to anyone. I would say that its a sign that he loves you alot. I think as time goes on he'll get over it and be cool with it. But most men don't trust other men around the ones they are in love with. Its a guy thing!

You can't stop other men from looking at you or your husband from getting angry when they do. Perhaps some professional counseling will help him recognize how he is endangering his marriage and how to turn the situation around.

You husband has insecuritie issues. Both of you need to seek professional counseling, if you don't, your going to get tired of his not trusting you. What he is instilling upon your programming is a type of "method of control" by showing you his displeasure in verbal ways that in the future may escalate into physical confrontation or violence. First you must admit that you have a problem, and Secondly you must admit to him that you have a problem with his jealousy. He more than likely, being a male, will not admit to the problem but you can. You are in your right to confront his negative behavior.

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blindfold him

Thats kind of like what im going thro im doing serious reconsidering because im about to get married...Im pretty sure you thought of your options just go with what your heart is saying.

How do you define "great"? How does he fit that definition? Does he get mad at the men, or mad at you?

A marriage is built on trust and he needs to know that either you're in or you're out. If he cannot get over his jealousy I would encourage him or both of you to seek counseling. It will only get worse and pretty soon it will become an obsession. It's actually an insult to you, him acting that way. He is in a sense saying he does not trust you. Good Luck...

Just remember it is extremely painful to be in his situation. Getting rid of a case of insecurity as bad as the one your husband has is almost IMPOSSIBLE. In order to achieve detachment from this there needs to be reinstated into him a sense of security which is very difficult. It takes a lot of time, love and energy. But you can do it. Good luck.

I think you're looking for attention. You on one hand are saying that it bothers you but when somebody give you any critical advice that may indicate there is a problem deeper than superficial I notice that person is hit with all negative points. I offered an opinion that comes simply from experience and I was honest and tried to give honest heartfelt advise and I get rewarded by you giving me negative points. I have looked at every other response here and anything that scratched the truth there is ether no response or negative feedback. Is this how this works here? I can see if a person leaves disgusting feedback or answers then it may warrant a negative response but if somebody actually takes the time and puts forth the effort to attempt to give you positive feedback then I feel they should be at least rewarded with a thanks but no thanks reply. I am sad for you because I think the problem is deeper than you chose to see. Maybe the problem is you? ever think of that? I know you're going to give me negative feedback for this too but I realized that when I wrote this. I wonder if the admin of the site views the responses and agrees with the negative feedback system. Perhaps I'm the one that does not understand the way this site works. An answer may be good but it may also not what you want to hear. Don't chastise a person for trying to help you. I don't know all the facts, none of us do. All we see is what you tell us so don't be so critical of the answers you don't agree with. By the way, I hope for both of your sake you get the answers you need because a marriage is sacred. Good luck to you and your jealous hubby.

be careful 9 out of 10 men who are insecure are cheating themselves... i learned this the hard way

I think your husband has either been in a bad relationship where he was cheated on or he has been the cheater in a relationship. You need to be open with him about how his behavior makes you feel and urge him to go through couples counsling together. Alot of people are resistant to counsling especially alone and for the first time. No one wants to admit they have a problem they cannot fix themselves so be supportive and show him how much you really love him. If he is absolutly unwilling then you may need to rethink your relationship status.

I agree, talking is the best way to reach a conclusion.

Answer his questions re-assuringly without becoming upset.

tell him his over-protection is becoming paternal and that it bothers you. That will start a serious dialogue.

Learn to live with it; he will never change (well, maybe when you both are old and gray)

Find a good therapist. It will help so much.

This is a major sign of an unhealthy relationship. He is insecure, and it will probably get worse if you don't deal with it now. My suggestion is to first tell him, that you love him, he is a great man and you want the relationship to be everlasting. Then express concern that there may be things you BOTH could work on to ensure a healthy lasting relationship. See if he agrees and go to a few counselling sessions, or couples workshops. If not at least read some books on building healthy relationships...good luck :)

Without trust, there is no healthy relationship. Add jealousy on that, and you have yourself a problem. Either he was in a relationship before you came along that ended in betrayal, or he sees you as such a prize, that he's afraid other men will be attracted to you too and try to take you away from him...either way, the insecurity needs to be dealt with. I'd strongly suggest talking to him about it, see if you can find out what caused this to happen...Is it a specific person? Men in general? My cousin had a girlfriend who would be so jealous when he talked to other women, even his sister! If that's the case, you guys really need to book yourselves an appointment with a counselor. Good luck with your marriage, and good luck with your lives :)

Tell him he doesn't love you because he keeps insulting you and proving he doesn't even know you, by expecting you to be a cheating lowlife. Tell him he's killing the relationship and you have to take this to therapy now.

Trust is one of the top three most important things in a relationship and if you are lacking one of the fundamental qualities it takes to make a good marriage you need to discuss this with him

if i was in your situation i would go and talk to him about it. Tell him you need his trust and that you would never try to hurt him no matter what.stay faithful and keep truckin. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship.

your obviously an attractive woman and he's just gonna have to get over his insecurities... i use to beat pick fights with evry guy that look at my girl and then i found out what a compliment it have so many guys envying me:)

he should be gloating that other dudes are checking you out. There isnt anything you can do about your husband going mental. I guess ask him to get some help so he can come to terms with his jealousy.

a relationship is based on trust, may be in the past you have hide something from him that makes him feel insecure. you must re-assure him that the you love him a lot, he counts much for you so that he doesnt feel insecure

Is this insecurity or possessiveness. Does he possess you? I had a friend who consider his wife as a possession and was not letting her do any hard work or do not like others mingling with her etc.

He's insecure, jealous...a bit immature. You can be supportive and reassuring but if that's not enough, suggest counseling. If not addressed, this issue can not only break your marriage; it can make your life miserable. Do not delay.

Cheat on him with me. I mean come on the guy sounds like a loser. Let me explain something I have a 14 inch penis I just got finished measuring it with a yard stick.