Assume I'm in high school (or equivalent) in your town, about 16 y/o. I'm gay. I am heavily attracted to another kid in my year. What do I risk where you live by telling them this?
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Where we live, from some people a lot of bullying.. but many would just accept you as who you are
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Please dont say a thing while you are still at school,my son stupidly told one friend (female) that he was gay and in no time it spreaad through the school his life was made hell by the other students(males)in the end i pulled him out of school.
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From what I have read and learned from being here the past five months, being gay is not a big deal in Belgium, and gay marriage is even legal. I don't think you would risk anything more than the usual teasing from your fellow classmates when teens have crushes, no matter what the sexes.
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You risk nothing, we are a gay community and its ok here. come on over. lol
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It would be a good idea to just not say anything to anyone and keep it a secret. I made the mistake of being open about it, because I didn't think it would be too much of a problem, but, without going into a lot of detail, it was.
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I asked my son (he's 15) and he says he has a couple of out-of-the-closet gay friends, and knows a few others in his school, and it's no big deal. You get the odd a**hole, but it's not the norm. I asked him what would happen if a guy told him he was attracted to him and he surprised me by saying someone already had!!!! He had turned him down, and explained he liked girls. No big deal. (((I'm sooo proud of my son))) Thanks for the question! It gave me the opportunity to get to know my son a little better!
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You would get plenty of female friends and the guys end up getting jealous and turn to A-holes and you would get teased and picked on.
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I'm pretty sure no matter where you live, you risk getting your ass whipped, AND in extreme cases possibly killed. Do a little research on this dude and find out if he has a girlfriend, has had a girlfriend, or has at least attempted to ask a girlfriend, because it won't be in your best interests to tell him you like him if there's already evidence of him liking women (or vice versa if you're a girl.)
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Well, depends on the city. In some rural areas I wouldn't suggest it. We are only a state away from where that poor Shepard boy was murdered, after all.
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Only rejection from the guy. My area is pretty open about sexuality. My high school used to have a gay club.
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Usually now and days people are acceptive to it especially the youth. I know at my highschool we had a pretty big gay population and we had no problem except the occasional "fag" remark while walking down the hall way. For myself since i am gay i was never ridiculed or dehumanized the entire time i was there. For telling your friend that you have an attraction for him my suggestion would be to first (when you ready) tell him that your gay. Cause most of the straight people have the thinking of "im cool with you just dont hit on me" attitude. so dont just say oh "i have a crush on you" infact if he isnt gay or bi dont say that at all unless you know FOR SURE he is cool with it.
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Nothing, you'd get a date.
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Back in my day, the biggest insult you can give to someone is to accuse them of being gay. You know the exact words in which I am speaking. Seeing now I am not really affiliated with any 16 year olds, I really have no idea how it works today. I do read in the paper, though, that students do fight for the right of gay couples to go to prom. I have, however, got into my fair share of scraps after being accused of being gay. Funny, though, if you think about it -- I'm gonna prove to you I ain't gay by rolling around on the ground with you a while, all while trying to hit, touch, and slap any part of your body I can reach.
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our high school had a Gay club that was filled with kids, you'd be fine here!
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Considering I'm in high school and 17, where I live, you would risk your entire reputation, social standing, and respect from everyone you know.
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I live in the Bible Belt of Canada, on the prairies, far away from the saavy cosmopolitan centers like New York or San Francisco. The people here are quite conservative. If you exposed yourself, there would be a lot of talk and staring. Yes, unfortunately, no matter how modern a city I'm living in, it's still a narrow-minded society. Give my place another 20 or so years. As for me, I feel I'm 50 years ahead of most of the people here. :)
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It really depends and where you live, how big the town is, and how accepting everyone is within. In a small rural town, you might get your butt kicked. In a larger, more open-minded/liberal city, you might find more acceptance. But, there are still bigots in big cities...I've met quite a few of them. But, when I was a teen, that was in the late 70s, early 80s. Back then, it was simply not talked about favorably. I didn't come out until years later.
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In my town, homosexuality is rather common and largely tolerated here. You wouldn't risk a whole lot.
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Not a lot, and if it didnt work out, there are quite a few prospects in my town, Richmond, va ;-)
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umm. at out school (middle) people would tease and make fun of you but you would have some people like me to help you out! plus, people would forget and move on to another topic.
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I live in L.A., but there are as many homophobes as their are LGBTQ supporters. You'd definitely have people making fun of you, but I doubt you'd lose any friends and would be able to survive high school with their support.
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You'd just get made fun of.
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Well, I'm not sure about in my town, but if you were in my school, and were open about it, about 50% would make snide comments, and mock you behind your back, 25% would ignore you, and 25% would be quietly impressed by your bravery.
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Mostly people asking if it's true. Though the constant enquiring about your private life does get annoying, there's really no homophobia round here.
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getting surrounded by me and my friends who love gay people. seriously, nothing where i live, in herefordshire. i havent met a gay person who's had any problem. at least not in my crowd
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