Hell yeah...fortunately I'm willing to remain alone and have found ways to enjoy solitude :)

Yep, more and more here lately! : )

All the time. But then I remember there are so many people in the world, there is BOUND to be someone out there for me. And you too. :)

yeah, I was just thinking that today actually...

Yeah... But when I stopped worrying so much about it and trying so hard to find them, they found ME. ;-)

I have felt like that before but maybe you are searching for a perfect person and people are not perfect they will make mistakes. But you should try to find that special person for you life is too short to spend it alone without a soul mate.

once you read twilight (stephanie meyer), it will be a LOT harder to find someone. hopefully i've found my edward already.

yeah...but then i remember that if i keep thinking that way, that i'll come off that way to anyone who might be looking...and so i try not to think about it, as hard as it is to not do it

Yes, and I gave up for a while and stopped looking, and we kind of..found eachother. (sad smile) I miss him...

Oh, hell yes, LOL. Plenty of times. Almost everyone feels that way now and then. Feelings are just that - feelings. Emotions. Not prophecy.

Many times over!

Yes. I have felt that way. But, someone always seems to come along. Maybe there are many someones out there? Who knows.

absoLUTELY read this book. sorry i can't comment yet.

Yeah, if I could just find her...

Well, perhaps you have this feeling because you ascribe to the notion of True Love or Soul Mate. Both of these terms are extremely misleading; they belay a notion that there is one person who is exactly right for you, forever. This notion actually goes back to the Greeks - Plato used the poet Aristophanes (in his writing: Symposium) who explained that at the beginning people were joined together and were deemed "too powerful". Zeus then split them in half and cast the opposites around the world. The person is always trying, then, to find their "other half". This only gets reinforced by Romanticism, which complicates the matter with True Love - the idea that there is one perfect match for you. This is a logical fallacy: The only consistent feature of all life is Change. Human beings change all the time, from attitude to weight. It is impossible to find a person who is going to fit you 100% - where there will be no conflict. Because even if they fit you now, inevitably both of you will change and the fit will disappear. Be realistic about this. There are 6.6 BILLION people on this planet and each one of them is different in every way. This includes their personal tastes and relationship preferences. Chances are that not only is there one person who would be compatible with you...but literally THOUSANDS upon thousands. What people get caught up on is rejection from the people who are not compatible. You can't force relationships. You need to just be honest with yourself: not everyone fits. And that's actually a good thing, because if everyone could 'fit' one of life's great dramas: love...would be boring as all hell. If you're struggling to find the person you want, start by changing your attitude about yourself. No one will find you beautiful or attractive unless you can convey confidence and self-love. Everyone is lovable as long as they can love themselves, and everyone can find a partner as long as they stay optimistic and remain patient.

Yes, I always believed girl are good for one thing only, but I have had to change mine own mine when it happens to you, girls have feeling to as men should have to & not to be played with.

Sometimes, but then I look in the mirror. I'm always on my own team.

I feel like that now because the person I want, I am sure I probably won't have...

No it's okay-lol-

I thought there was, but she cheated on me

On the contrary. There are many people for us. We just get attached to one and when it doesn't pan out we think the world has ended. Wrong way to look at it. By the way, there are many out there who need to be avoided.

Constantly.

I did not just feel it. I KNEW it. Then, at 41, I met Arisztid. So I know now, I was wrong.

Yes, I feel this way often. No one finds me, and the ones I find always turn out badly. I find cheaters, liars and insufferable cretins. I have found great people, but they are often untouchable and/or taken. The ones who are not untouchable or taken; I simply know a relationship would not work. I have nearly consigned to the fact that I am an outsider. If I am meant to be alone, what can I do but continue to find all the wrong people?

Nope ...there is someone ...I'm sure :) !

No, there is definitely someone out there for everyone. You may never meet them, but they are out there, kinda like sasquatch.

yeah definitely, who hasnt? just remember seamus finnigan isnt "after me lucky charms" *points to icon*

Please try to remember, folks. Out of all the people you will ever date, all of them will end in failure, save ONE. Go along, enjoy the ride, learn to listen, let bitterness pass...and look forward to the person you will become for the one person with whom it WILL work. I wish you peace.

I gotta try again....my response was lost on the internet somewhere. I love that last line you wrote. It shows an intelligence in this type of issue. My question to you, then, is this: What did you learn in that situation, Zandalee? The guy didn't change. He stayed the same cretin he was when you met him. He was very stable in his cretinism :). You, however, chose to stay with him despite every major warning sign the universe sent you. I don't want you to be doomed to repeat it with a new face. Please tell me honestly what you learned.

sadly yes i am right now i hope to meet the right one for me one day but that might never happen all i have is hope but what i fell is differnt than what i hope

I think i met her. But its just not gonna happen. Again.

I know where she is ,but i just can't get to her. Yet.

Yes i have many times and it sucks but i like to believe there is someone I've yet to met

Don't give up. My husband and I met when I worked at a pharmacy. He came in bc he had heartburn and we have been together ever since. Funny how it happens when you aren't looking.

Yes and that feeling increases every day.

Yes I have, and it is not a nice feeling, like everyone else that has answered this question. However, don't despair. Some advice for you is that you create your own world. What you think is what you get. If you think there is noone for you, then that is exactly what you will get. Instead think that there is someone, change your thinking to postive thoughts. Only think about your desired outcome. If you think you are going to get a lovely, blonde intelligent woman, then this is what you will get. Its called the power of positive thinking. Believe first in yourself, and know this you are a complete beautiful being. The answers are in you, and not in others. What you desire, and what you think is what you get. This is the power we have inside of us. Hope this helps you. Good luck.

All the time. Then it dies out when I get into a relationship, but increases ten fold when it ends. Kinda gives me motivation to go into a career where my life is at risk because I don't have to worry about leaving behind a family or a loved one.

Well let's see Met first real girlfriend at 20 dated on and off for near 4 years then got married without really knowing her that well. That marriage ended almost 11 yrs later when she cheated on me and felt no real remorse or guilt about it and tried to make it my fault. Met second g/f a few months after seperating from the ex wife fter only knowing her a couple of months moved in with her and had a hellish relationship for a few years lost the most valuable thing to me my membership in the LDS church because we were living in sin without the benefit of marriage. Finally woke up and realized she was never going to divoirce her husband and decided I no longer wanted to be with someone who didn't love me enough to want to marry me. Met a beautiful kind sweet caring person at work back in mid 2002. After almost a year of being too shy to tell her how I felt because she was significantly younger than me she broke the ice by asking me if rumors about me having a crush on her were true. We almost immediately started dating for two wonderful years and got engaged Then one tragic night I made a terrible choice to be selfish and that choice cost her her life. Met someone on AB a few months back became good friends pretty quickly she was the first in a long time to make me feel things in my heart I thought I never would feel again after I lost my fiancee 3 years prior. I made the mistake of constantly smothering her with talking about those feelings not only to her but everyone else who would listen and finally drove her away when she couldn't handle it anymore. So I would say that is a poretty loud and clear message from God that I am one of those people who is not meant to find love in this lifetime. I understand that now and hear you loud and Clear God and have given up all hope of finding someone to spend whatever time I have left with.

I have always felt the same way as you do. I decided to see if someone would really care for me. So, I walked out in the middle of the street and waited to see if some one would stop ask me if I were ok. Anyway, I waited and waited and nothing happened-suddenly the teens leaned out the window and they bagged me with rotten fruit. After my recovery I tried helping people. Actually homeless people. Some lived in cardboard boxes, alone with no one. I also lived alone, but,Ii had a 3 bed/2 ba apartment. Any way, onetime, when I looked into a box home, I was grabbed and I was pulled in. I stayed with that person for about 2 weeks. It turned out to be an unexpected reward. I was being loved. We never stepped out of that box for 2 weeks. We were together. Finally I realized there is someone for everyone. I had someone. Someone wanted me. About a week or so later, I was thrown out and told to never come back. Today, I am still alone. One side note is to always try and think out of the box. Free Info-

All the time, but yeah - that feeling comes and goes. Sometimes it bothers me, sometimes I'm at peace with the idea of being alone.

Yep and then unexpectedly i found the guy of my dreams.. and im only 17.. just be patient and wait there is someone out there for you..

I want to believe that there's someone out there. But I find it hard to imagine that, amidst all the males in the world who are merely looking for one with big boobs and a big butt, there is one who is looking for one like me. Petite with a disability that is plain to see. Yeah, I don't think that my Prince Charming will be here any time soon.

My name is P.Charming. I can see you now in my mind. My problem is this: I don't drink or puff on anything. Boring-not really. I'm actually a fun and funny person. Think about sending me a message? FreeInfo@Ymail.Com or tailwind619 AT yahoo.com I also write comedy. However, this is a serious note to you.

Yep certainly, it's as if i was borned to live my lyfe alone forever...and sometymes its painful to see others to have their halves and enjoying lyfe....i want to experience that also someday if tyme gives me a chance

I feel like that all the time. In fact I've been alone so long I've gotten used to it. i don't even know if I COULD handle a relationship

What are you looking for? If you don't know, then you're right, there is no one in the world who can satisfy you. Step one is to figure out what you want. When you know what you want, you're halfway there. What are you looking for?

Every day. I have a different sense of humor. Its hard to find people with the same sense of humor or values as me. Or thing in common. Im being patient though. My mother would always say..."For every pot there's a lid"

It's not....who is out there for me..... It's who is out in the world I am there for. If you want to have friends, first you have to be one.

all the time...and it hurts when you think of that...so i choose to try to push it out of my mind because i know that if i act that way, that it comes off that way to any guys who might possibly be the slightest bit interested, and i know that isn't the impression that i want to give them. it's definitly something hard to deal with, especially when everyone else around me has someone that they can call their own...i just have to hope that in time, when i am fully ready, that the person who's meant for me will show himself, and not before, because if he sees me before i'm the person i'm supposed to be, then he might not fall for me like he should...

I did for awhile, but then I decided that being alone for awhile was an opportunity to be more independent and healthy. That way when that unexpected arrow from cupid flies my way the relationship has better odds of surviving because I took the time I needed to take care of me and grow.

Sometimes but there will always be a person around to make you forget that!

Absolutely not. Never once. I always knew he was there somewhere and his presence in my life now - confirmed that long held belief :))

I don't bother much about it because I know where's the problem and trying to fix it....it's with me :)

Every day. The saying is there is a butt for every toilet seat... my butt is still hanging... wait, maybe I'm the toilet seat.................

Never. I have a strong believe that there is someone out there for EVERYONE.

Yeah, I do alot. I see all these people with ones the like or love, and I see myself as being alone. I personally hate it. And ironically, all the girls I like end up having boyfriends, or in some cases, they are married. So, I have pretty much given up. Then I find a girl I like, and she disappears. (I don't live here, so its kinda difficult like that)

Never thought that bef,but now Im begining to believe that.Esp. at 48yrs. old,its very hard to meet men,let alone find one that would be a match.very hard!!

all the time!!! i think ive just come to accept it.

i totaly feel like it... maybe sum ppl were born tobe alone.

I don't believe there is one person for everyone -- that seems pretty fanciful to me. I do believe lots of people are perfectly able to find happiness with a number of others.I personally don't even care to find that special someone, so I'm pretty sure I will never find "the one". I'm cool with that.

I'm sure there are quite a few people out there that feel that way. I personally am not ready for marriage but I know when I get around that age it'll be tough! The sad thing is it shouldn't be as difficult as it is yeah? For example! I was raised Christian and always followed the idea of refraining from pre-marital sex. Despite having served in the military for three years I've never tried tobacco products/alcohol/drugs. Putting all other things aside and looking solely at this. What are the chances I'll a woman who shares that sort of willpower? Finding a woman like that shouldn't be as difficult as it is right?

I guess I would have to accept it and when I die, I will be happy knowing that I did my best to keep myself happy and doing the right thing.

No, I think that God has made someone for everyone, it's finding them that's the problem!

yeah i still think this.

Quite often. :)

If I don't go out of the house, most definitely there's no one for me. Eventually I'll meet someone, get to know someone, connect with someone, then have a relationship. He can be anybody, but it takes time.

Yes, I have....but then he popped into my life! :D It's awesome and I believe it happens when you least expect it to. (It did for me anyway.) Good luck in finding your Mr. Perfect! :D

He's in the netherworld, not this world. I'll see him again someday a long time from now. Since he was the love of my life, I do not see there being someone in this world for me beyond a deep friendship.

I've felt like there wasn't someone for me, then there was. He turned out to be the wrong one. But now, I feel like I've finally found my kindred spirit.

I have felt that way several times. I think though, that as long as you are open to meeting someone, they will come along. I have asked several people who are in love, if they had expected to meet their loved one when they did. I always hear no, that Mr. or Mrs. Right appeared when it was least expected. You have to work at getting out there and meeting people. But, the more you plan and worry about falling in love, the less it will happen.

yeah i do sometimes, but i try to think about HOW MANY people are in the world. there's gotta be someone for everyone, finding them is the hard part....

I am feeling that now.....

yes

Hope not! Atleast not just one person, hopefully there more than a few to make for my mistakes!

Yes in weak moments and its scary. Im a pretty cool, good looking gay bloke, and am not short of interest. But i want a grown up, not daft celebrity/body/mother/cat obsessed gay man. I have been alone or 8 years and will stay that way until i meet a person comfortable in thier own skin. On the whole i think it will happen, sometimes i think it wont. But most importantly, i am totally independant and dont need a relationship. I think that is a much better place to be. In truth, i think that people who need relatoinships probably shouldnt have them. Because then the relationship is based upon need before anything else and that is not healthy at all

It'll all fall in to place, you may be going through a rough couple days weeks months maybe even years, but trust me it'll turn around, you think happy thoughts happy things happen you think bad thoughts bad things happen... try and changing your mind set and start thinking that there is someone out there ;)

Yup! Infact I had given up on boys, and went out of state just to have some fun. When I did go, I ended up falling in love with the sweetest guy in the world. It's funny, my boyfriend and I both had given up on love and the opposite sex.

yes,I felt it when my ex went abroad. I felt that the world is collapsing,that I'll be alone forever,I felt like an orphan.

There is always someone for you

Yeah, I've thought that a lot the past few weeks.

There's actually so few people we are connected with. If you met one new person every day, then it can be said there's someone for you. If you like the person you've just met, you can start getting to know him or her. Unfortunately, most of us don't meet a new person every day, so we usually have to accept the people we already know. For me, I don't have a person I closely want to be with in my circle of acquaintances. The world have someone I like, but I haven't met her!

Most of the times in a marriage or a relationship, you feel happy and content, but then at times this feelng of loneliness does raise its ugly head. And it happens when , despite having loving people around you, you are in a situation where you need them to be around you, because you are upset about something in some sphere of your life, and feel like sharing this , discussing this but have no one around you at that point of time. The ones who love you know something is wrong, but they dont care to step in maybe because they are themselves happy and content and dont feel liek ruining their own happiness and getting into somebody elses troubles. That is when you feel so lonely and unloved and uncared for. You strive for attention by sulking at everything . You try to seek solace in activities which you have long given up hoping you will enjoy them again, only to be disappointed big time. You feel so lost and so down the dumps you just cant see right. This feeling is what is bothering me lately. I dont know what to make of my life.

I have felt like that and so im alone from that as well.

All the time. After my divorce the only two men I've been involved with have both not worked out and the last one really hurt me. I guess I do think I will just end up alone because it doesn't seem to work where they want me and I want them on the same level.