What would a guy think of a female virgin in college? I'm 18, never had a boyfriend or even a first kiss. I'm about to start college soon and I can't help wondering how awkward that's going to be if a guy tries to approach me that way.
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What would a guy think? Who gives a crap? Hopefully, it will not be awkward for you at all. You are confident in your decisions and will stand firm on your principles. It's the guy that's going to feel awkward. You've probably gotten pretty good at saying no, but he's probably not heard no to even a kiss in his life. You've got the upper hand here, don't let college scare you. The same idiot guys that were at your high school are at the college you're attending. You can handle them.
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I've never had a boyfriend either! I'm going to be in my 3 year of college. There has been several guys...but none that I've wanted to date. I just like playing it single. Remember you meet some of your best friends in college. I recommend not wasting your time boy hunting...some guys will eventually come to you. And trust me...there first questions arn't .."Do you have a boyfriend? Have you ever had a boyfriend? Are you a virgin? Have you ever kissed anyone?" Most guys are toooooo shy themselfs. So just relax and enjoy your first year! Trust me grasshopper...Your time will come! :)
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My first gf was 17 in college... I was 23, just graduated. She was also a virgin. I had NO PROBLEM with it. Why would they and why SHOULD they? And, there's no need to tell any guy in college about your past until asked, or you feel the NEED to. Let them get to know you as you are, and go from there.
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Any guy that has a problem with that isn't worth it. I know someone going into their sophmore year in college who also has made that same choice and she has no problem making it known (if necessary) Be you and stick to whay you believe in.
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I wasn't born with a friend tagging along.... awkward? The guy must approach because he is interested in you and you rather be handling the situation as and when it happens instead of spoiling it just with apprehensions... Be your natural self... nobody would expect an experienced vixen in the form of a 18 year old girl...
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Well, being a guy at that age I'm here to tell ya, he'd probably think "awesome" for at least one of many different reasons. One type of guy (read sex focused) would like that for obvious reasons. Another (read nice guy/geek) would love it as he wouldn't feel as he he was being compared to a standard or sorts. No one likes to think that they're being judged, unless they're doing Very well, lol.
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If you knew how badly I was verbally assaulted and threatened because I was NOT a virgin you would realize how precious your virginity is.
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Meh, not that uncommon. I dated a girl who was a virgin once and had never been kissed. It didn't really bother me, I was a bit more slow moving and cautious though. Just for her sake. We decided that we were better off as friends and ended up never kissing or doing anything else. But really when we were dating, the fact that I knew this didn't really change my feelings for her. We would go out, we would have a good time. It was fun. I wouldn't worry about it so much. First kisses can be akward, even for someone who has kissed before. Not the current girl I'm dating, but the one before that, our kiss was really akward. We both ended up going the wrong way and I ended up kissing the side of her nose. We laughed about it though and were successfull on the 2nd try. =P
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It will come naturally, when the time comes. I think a guy will be lucky to have found you. Hpoefully he's one too and you can learn and discover together. Keep loving and saving yourself for the right person.
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As a guy, I am rather impressed. You have accomplished a feat rare to our generation, and it is something I would be proud of were I you. Don't fret it, and don't go rushing into anything just to prove that you can.
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i'm in the same situation, if a guys going to be bothered about something like this then he's not worth it huni. Theres no point wasting your first time on someone who doesn't respect u. wen your ready you'll probably feel better about yourself for waiting. its gud to know i'm ot the only one- lol
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If he is worth anything he will value the fact that you are not the type to be rushing into things..i think a good guy would appreciate that about you. YOu are only 18, i think it's wonderful that you have waited....just remember and watch out for those guys who just want to have sex with a virgin!!! you have waited so keep waiting until you are sure that they are interested in you and not just "popping your cherry" so to speak.
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Being a virgin in college is one of the things i respected most. Many girls had asked to date me, but many had had sex and low morals. The first girl i ever dated, my friends thought i was crazy. I am an all around Jock, played every sport you can think of, Football, rugby, got superlatives for best looking and most funny in high school. However, I chose a girl who didn't want to just have sex or just kiss, i chose one that i had a great time with, maybe not the most popular, but most popular in my world. If one comes up to you as such, don't worry about it; just say no, you don't need to have sex until you feel you are ready. Spend the time to look for a genuine dude, not some player. Most of all, have a great time dating in college, you'll love it =).
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It's private, it's personal. Don't tell the guy your a virgin, but let him know you don't take physical contact lightly. Once some guys know you are a virgin, it may become their intent to do/say anything to become the one to take that virginity. Love a man for what he does for you, mentally, emotionally, not what he does to you physically. Physical attraction and urges encourage the procreation of life, it's keeping your head straight and making sensible logical choices that make you happy in life. Don't worry about how awkward it will be. My wife and I were each other's first kiss, first everything. We were virgins right up to our wedding night.
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Since when is being a virgin such a darn liability? People of quality desire such women as they see them as smart, with a healthy self respect, and not infested with desease. I bet most of the guys starting college are virgins too and their moms are worried some "hussy" is going to snag her son, get pregnant and ruin his future. So, you my dear are in a good place. The guys will respect you for it, the parents will respect you for it and hopefully, it will occur to you that holding yourself to a higher standard may be the thing that moves your life in the best direction.
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I just skimmed the above answers, but it looks like everyone agrees that if the guy has a problem with it, he's not worth worrying about. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 17 and I'm almost 25 now and still a virgin. I survived high school and college without letting myself be pressured into sex. The guy I'm currently talking to knows that I'm not ready and although he is not a virgin, he respects my choice and even supports it. There are guys out there that are worth the wait! :)
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Any guy whos worth a damn would respect that.
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Guys think a virgin in college is a very special find. Guys think a virgin wife is one in a million. With the one that is right, that you really love, nothing will be awkward. You don't have do give it up just because some guy wants sex. You also do not want someone that wants you just because he can get some.
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Some guys will always harass you as a virgin. It happened to me so many times in high school and college. Just tell them they should go back to kindergarten. Don't feel the pressure to date or do anything. Just do whatever is comfortable to yourself.
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i understand what you're going thru. hell i graduated college a virgin. it makes me laugh when people tell me that they're proud of me for that. i don't understand why b/c i never did anything. i've been approached a lot in college but only by the guys who were desperate and horny and it was pathetic. but i think some men would think thats a great quality b/c its rare and it shows that you have morals and self respect for yourself.
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