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Jen-Jen
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By thinking about what can be.
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Find something new and exciting to focus your thoughts on
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When you find out, please let me know.
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I'm still wondering that myself. you just have to accept and think of Here and Now and the Future. Wipe the slate clean and tell yourself 'this is what i have to work with' and go from there. don't live in the past. and don't live in a fantasy world of your imagination. You only have one life, don't waste it away. Be thankful for what you have. A study, i believe from Stanford, showed you can truly improve your thought process (and get rid of the thoughts of what might have been) if EVERYDAY you write down three things you are THANKFUL for and three reasons why you are PROUD of yourself. Try it.
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I look at myself naked in the mirror. I then realize that it might NOT have been for a reason.
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The only way I can think of to stop thinking about what might have been is to focus on the HERE & NOW. Focus on the present. And not what might have been in the past had things been different. I know its very hard to do this, Im sure we've all struggled with this at one time or another. Its cliche but time heals all. Its true, I didnt used to believe it but time marches on! Change is constant. In time, you wont even think about "what might have been" for that particular situation because there will be a whole new set of situations for you to think what might have been... ;)
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By paying attention to where you are currently. Fixing a relationship that is broken starts with a long term goal, but achieving it with little goals along the way and focusing on those little goals 100% knowing what they are leading up to. Looking at what 'might have been' is only possible by making a whole lot of assumptions and many of those assumptions have no support whatsoever. Most of the time doing this will only bring you deeper into the negative feelings that a breakup already provides enough of. What 'might have been' is not as important as 'what it can be' and 'how do I get there'... whether it's trying to move past a failed relationship or trying to bring it back to life.
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By actively LIVING your life. Go out and enjoy! Learn new things and meet new people!
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I think of what may be...
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By thinking about what might NOT be!
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