First of all, you'd better talk to him. Are you absolutly sure he isn't doing what they accuse? If not, you will have to take a firmer approach with him leaving porn lying around, especially as there are young girls going in and out of the house. Then you should take him round to appologise to the girl and their parents to appologise for leaving it lying around and that it will never happen again. However, if your instincts say that he might be doing what they accuse, trust them. The worst thing in the world is knowing you could stop something terrible and didn't out of fear

Boredasmustard is right, and on top of that if he hasn't got the common decency to keep this stuff hidden from minors, he's got only himself to blame for whatever happens to him. Ben Franklin said that experience runs an expensive school, but a fool won't learn in any other.

My question for you, is why do you believe him rather than the alleged victims? Normally, I would expect you to back the person you love, but the very fact that he has porn accessible when there is a child in the house (yes I consider a 16 year old a child) makes me think that there is something wrong. I would confront him immediately on this, and see what you can do about getting the children away from him.

You need to get that child and any others away from him immediately. I would suggest having a very open and direct conversation with her to get to the bottom of anything that has been going on. You should also get her into therapy. If you do come to the realization that something unacceptable has gone on you need to contact the authorities immediately. If you don't you will hold some responsibility for anything thatt happens from that point on. I am sure you don't want that guilt.

Yuric54: Two things in addition to everything here. One, you said in a comment you are trying to to prevent future problems. YOU CAN'T!! Only he can. You need to tell him to GET RID of the stuff or leave. Still not sure if it's intentional? IT IS!!! And trust me, it's NOT the only thing that's going on. I can't say WHAT else exactly he is doing but trust me you are only seeing shat he dares let you see. You need to tell him to get into therapy. NO do not ask, TELL HIM. If he hasn't got an appointment by the day after the ultimatum, LEAVE! I don't mean have an appointment scheduled, I mean has an appointment FOR THAT DAY! AND you need to make sure that he comes home with an agenda to show you. A plan for what he's going to do t overcome this problem. And stop telling him to put the stuff away. Make him get rid of it or leave. If you do leave, stay in touch with the daughter, somehow. It's very unlikely that he's NOT doing something with her. I don't know what else to add. Not to be a doomsayer, but it's not very likely that this is going to work out. He will probably go for a while, if at all, and then stop. And the problems will start again just when you thought they were gone. If you think you need to help, this is how. I'm only telling you, be prepared for it not to work out.

Ok calm down, it's alright. Now, this is pretty big here, and I know it's scary but you have to do something about it. You can't let him get away with it. Turn him in, it's all you can do. Get counciling, or at least talk to the 16 year old, because she may be considered old enough to choose sexual partners, but this is wrong and has to stop. Who knows how long it's been going on. You have to leave him, it's sick what he's doing! Good luck, I really feel for you. I just beg you, please, don't let him get away with it

Any advice on how to begin healing after contacting proper authorities? We are both college professors, quiet stay at home-go to Shakespere plays, watch the British comedies, listen to country and classical music type of people. I am in prayer and asking all of you for prayer. This is hard. Life has changed for us...I feel uncomfortable around him and he asked me to trust him. Told him, I can't--insisting on therapy. I contacted child abuse hotline to speak with someone...believe I have to alert others because I will not be in the home to keep an eye other for future instances. Need to hear comforting, supportive words. Many thanks for listening and responding.

I am really hurting given all that is happeing. Any advice? Feeling very lonely and a little depressed. May I hear from you?

DIVORCE! Porn in the first place is disgusting, but if he loved you he would listen to you. He is a criminal, legally.