How do you get over and emotional and mentally abusive relationship? Why do women/men still love that person? Explain
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little sprout
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It is worth bearing in mind that some of the love will be dependency / needs based love. Also we will love people we have been close to, even if there has been abuse. To get over it, end it for good, no contact, and then the usual things apply. One year at least of time single, deal with any issues on your side, and move on. It is worth bearing the time thing in mind, as if you go to a new relationship too soon, severe trust issues can arise, causing further problems. Counselling may also be of help.
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I think it's because you've been emotionally abused and made to believe you aren't worth anything. And made to feel that no one else will love you except that person. You need to realize that you are a good person and that you didn't deserve any of that abuse. YOu may need to seek some sort of counseling, but you need to be around positive people that will lift you up, rather than bring you down. :)
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Oh lildaisy, I am so sorry. You really need to be around positive people. You are loved! :)
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Maybe it would help if you both went together to some sort of counseling, by a psychologist or psychiatrist, not just any old counselor. I hope for the best for both of you. :)
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If you are deeply in love with someone, this feeling will never go away. No matter how much you want it to. Being abused by someone is inexcusable. However woman and men if they are hit or punched or even verbally abused by the person they love they will automatically think it is their fault. I know someone whos partner was violent and I thought she was a strong woman but after she broke down after a few drinks and told me about it ( in tears) how angry it made her and how worthless she felt, i realised she just wanted to be loved. The older you are the harder it is to stop loving. No one wants to be alone.
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I left am man after a year ten times. I finally left and moved to another state to start over, because I knew he would lure me back. I still love him and I am grieving what we had. The pain comes and goes and I do have overall a better life here. I take care of myself, but sometimes I get so lonely and sad and think I will always be alone now that I don't have him. I sometimes call him and block the number and hang up. I get this urge off and on. I hate it, but it is there. I still love him and I wonder why he has not tried to look for me as I left without any word to him and its been six months. He said he loved me and yet he has not tried to find me. That hurts also, even though he is abusive, I guess I still love him. I am trying to take it one day at a time.
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