What are the pro and cons of dating a man who already has children?
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mizuiislife
ANSWERS: 5
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If you don't like kids or you are theated by the fact that they come first ,don't date him,on the other hand if that isn't a problem then it might be fun.
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Pro for me was that it brought out the worst in me, my jealous side. I was jealous of the time spent with his daughter instead of my son. (I was a much younger woman then, in my 20's. I am in my 40's now and KNOW that I am a different woman than the hot head I used to be. I could totally handle it now.)
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Pros: if you don't want to carry a baby you don't have to. Helping the person you love raise wonderful children. Being able to try being a parent before you actually have one of your own. Having a loving child is always a blessing. Cons: the mother, the kids(being brats because of their mom or just brats period) dealing with what you role would be in their life. Harder to date, unless they are at their moms.
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Its very important that you remember this answer. This man will take his children, over you, no matter what the circumstances, any day of the week. I have seen this happen so many times, in domestic violence situations. Blood is thicker than water. If you can live with my answer, really live with my answer, you might survive the relationship.
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Pros: He is a lot more mature, patient, and responsible than men w/o children. He is family oriented so he will not be into club/bar scene rather he would prefer cuddling up to you on the couch watching a movie or just talking. You get to really see him for who he is...usually no head games, he doesn't have the time nor the energy for that. Cons: He will most likely spend a lot of his free time with his children...with you included but if you start resenting the fact that you hardly get any "alone" time with him, he will start withdrawing from you. The mother of the children may resent you and he may "seem to" take her side or do things for her that you may not be comfortable with. His kids may resent you and cause a lot of emotional obstacles just to test you. He may be broke all the time.
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