He obviously doesn't want to date you! He probably just wants to be friends. You are probably not his type or he could be gay?

internet dating is tough...i have done it......but, it is what it is....there are plenty of other guys out there for you.....take care....Brian....

My thought is he either just wants to be friends,is gay or secretly likes you and doesn't want to admit it.But who knows....

It could be that while he is available to stalk you and to be friendly with you, he is going to have to ask his WIFE if it's okay to date you. Think about it.

Talking with him? As in...you shot him an IM, and he answered out of politeness and curiosity, and you IM'd him some more and vice versa, and you were the first to bring up dating? And you thought asking him a "casual" question about his type would really seem casual in that situation? Or is it more like he had an ad or you did, and one of you approached the other, but now in spite of him backing off from the romance angle, you keep "casually" dropping hints, or outright asking? Why? Don't you have your answer? Or on the other hand,maybe he's pursuing you, but dodges any straightforward Q's about his true availability or whether he's actively attracted to you at this point? Something's up, and it's not good. Do you HAVE to know exactly what? If you did the pursuit, and he isn't responding romantically after 2 tries, YOU could be seen as stalking HIM. If in the beginning with an ad you almost hooked up, but he's no longer thinking romance, most likely it's just not that kind of match after all...back off and see what happens. If nothing NEW, then let go! If it's more him pursuing you, but getting dodgy when you get specific, he's scr#wing with your head...send him packing before it's too late. And yes, you DO care--to the point you're thinking about it enough to ask here, yeah? So protect your feelings and dignity and back off yourself, or get safely away.