Well first thing is I think you worry to much as far as the porn goes I am not sure there are many flat chested porn stars out there so chances are good most will have breast. There is NOTHING wrong with having a nice butt be thankful you do and that he notices it. Honestly I also prefer a fine butt over breast and I am sure I am not alone, further if he wanted breast on you bad enough for a few dollars there is a surgery that will give them to you but go with the natural butt it will get you so much further than breast but this is my opinion

If he likes your butt, you're gold. You have nothing to worry about. He's totally into you. A guy will interpret your question as asking "what are my strong and weak points?" So he obligingly replied. We guys go into 'dude mode' when there's a cute girl around so that's probably why he seemed insensitive. Don't worry about the porn either, that's another dude thing. Just relax and enjoy the sex! edit **** Yohoho5: But assuming a guy is going to cheat cause he likes nice butts isn't doing any favors for your relationship. I wonder how many relationships have been ruined by this kind of stereotype? Plenty of women cheat so why do guys get the bad rap? From the original question there is absolutely no indication of his being dishonest, and I resent the implication that a guy that acts like a guy is going to cheat. If anything he is being straightforward. My original point was that the guy is acting dudely as a response the girl's femininity, so she should feel more secure in her attractiveness, not less. Girls always feel like they aren't attractive enough anyway, so why are you egging her on? Relationships need trust, and you aren't helping her.

I know the conventional thing to say would be "kick the b*stard out," but having had men say similar things to me, whilst his sensitivity might leave something to be desired, I doubt he was actually setting out to hurt you. He's probably just a plain-talking kind of guy, you asked him a question, and he answered it - honestly. I once asked a boyfriend if he thought an especially low-necked top suited me and he said "Well, it really needs a bit more cleavage.". I spent an hour or two cursing his ass and planning on plastic surgery, when I suddenly realised I'd asked a question and he'd given an accurate answer- I really didn't have the cleavage to carry off the top as well as I might have a different one. He wasn't questioning my sex appeal, he was just being honest. Its fairly typical of our self-critical nature's to read comments like this as critical. You see it as "he thinks my boobs aren't big enough, he's going to leave me, he'd prefer to be with a girl with big boobs." whereas he probably heard "Breasts don't bother me either way but your butt is REALLY sexy." (i.e. that's what he finds attractive about your body. Its badly phrased but I don't think its an indication that he doesn't find you sexy. After all he didn't say your breasts were unattractive, he just said he wasn't "into" them- there's a difference. As for the porn- to be honest, MOST mainstream porn stars have large breasts. I don't think its something you need to get too upset about. After all- would he be with you if he didn't find you attractive?

If all he sees you as is a collection of body parts, he doesn't love you and you should dump his sorry ass. He should be noticing things like your smile, the way you make him laugh, how smart you are. Sounds like he views you just as someone to have sex with. Kind of like a hooker that you don't have to pay.

Don't ask the question if you are afraid of the response. Also, why are you snooping around looking for porn on the computer. You sound very insecure. You need to toughen up.

Immature and shallow = can him.

well... sometimes guys aren't as sensitive as girls and will say exactly what they think. And no, I'm not trying to be a jerk, but it's true, guys do say what they think. But, just because he said that, doesn't mean he still isn't into you, I mean he is with you, so obviously he finds you attractive. and maybe big breasts are his fetish, you never know.

Well most porn has girls with big boobs. that doesnt neccesarily mean that big boobs are his preferance. My husband said something simmilar to me when we firt meet. ( and I have D cups) It turns out he is just an ass man, and genuinly doesnt appreciate boobs as much as ass ! so dont feel bad, he might just be an ass man.. lol

Well you asked him, and you probably hinted towards your breasts. We guys aren't as stupid as some women say we are. We sometimes just answer too honestly or give more info than nessesary. I'm a dude, and I have a girl. Now I've dated women of every breast size, and just about every butt size/shape. I am "butt guy". I would prefer a nice butt over big boobies anyday of the week, as I now have with my current girl. She has a NICE butt, and a small rack. These are just facts, and not my purpose in life. If you were to look at ANY porn or ANY magazine, all you are going to see is women with big boobs. This is only to catch the man's eye. He might not even think about boobs as much as you do. He might be a "butt guy" like me. Nobody is perfect, and I really doubt he expects you to have the "perfect body". I bet it was just a misunderstanding, and would probably pass in the breeze as long as you don't dwell on it and obsess over it. He said you have a nice butt, take it as a compliment, he might not care how big your boobs are, and just used that to refine explanation of how nice of a butt you have. I've been the guy here before though. I was once massaging an ex, and told her to roll over so I could rub the front, when in fact that is where I WAS rubbing. It was just a joke. I thought it was funny, but she got upset. I had no idea it would bother her so bad. Come to think of it, things went all downhill from there, but it took another 4 years for everything to pan out. I hope this helps even though it's probably TMI.

Find a man with a brain.

Moral of the story: before asking a question of someone, make sure that you are prepared for whatever the answer may be - especially if you actually care about that person's opinion. There are some things that I won't be asking my partner questions about, because if he ever ventured to give the wrong answer, it would really 'take me to a place' that would be difficult to return from. n/b: I'm sure that you are not mesmerised and amazed by each and every single part of your boyfriend's body either :-)

maybe he is just more attracted to the look of your butt.......i find an ass on a woman more attractive than her boobs....because, you turn a woman's butt around, and there is her kitty.......i would not be concerned, but he kinda told you all of that in the wrong way....take care....Brian.....

You should do absolutely nothing..... He thinks you've a great arse so whats the problem? Ok he said it with all the tact & sensitivity of a Frenchman, but you did ask.

Well..me being me...after being intimate with your man...I would let out a big sigh...and when he asks what that was for Id say ..."I love your butt but I'm not that into your knob"...or whatever...and I'd get some of those mags with guys that have huge penises and make sure there in a place where he can find them...sorry...but whats good for one is good for the other and equal rights and all that stuff!

Wow....two people who have no idea how to conduct a relationship. Women, do not ask that kind of question. Men have no idea how to answer it and It always belies a dramatic lack of selfworth. Men, try not to answer a question as stupidly as this guy did. If you get asked it, and you probably will, say, " There are lots of thing I like about you. Would you like me to list them in alphabetical order or in order of importance?" When she says, "In order of importance", say " well, that'll take me a little time to organize my thoughts. Can I get back to you on that?" And then kiss her and fondle her butt or her boobs or whatever, and say, "but for starters, you've got an absolutely fantastic butt." There is no charge for this service...:)

Well, you haven't really written much detail in the Q, but from the very surface of it, I am not sure I can see your 'beef'. He said he liked your butt. You asked him what he liked: What were you expecting??? Very, very few girls have "everything". So what are you complaining about??

Well, he was at least being honest, which I totally appreciate, but at the same time this would make me upset as well. We women want to be desired fully by our men. We don't want to think they are looking at certain features of other women and thinking they are better. Fact of the matter is we are all different and no person should compare us or say we don't have something as nice as someone else. Please don't keep hurting yourself mentally by looking at porn women. They are so friggen fake. They have tons of makeup caked all over them to cover things up..most of them have fake breasts as well. Big breasts aren't always what they are cracked up to be either. I have dd's and I think it would be awesome to just throw on a shirt once in a while and not worry over them shifting or pouring out over my bra. Also, back issues are always an issue for a woman with big breasts.

First are you upset about the fact that you found porn at all? Or is the porn ok but the girls in it weren't what you expected?

i suggest you really turn it on in the bed room and give him sex that he will never forget and maybe he will not bother any more about porn and your breasts .and all he will want is more of you

well, you asked...you can feel aweful if you want but that is your choice...if he had lied to you, you would be unhappy about that...so the way i see it is you set yourself up. also, it's clear that your boyfriend may not be all that into you...it's up to you what to do...can you live with someone like this the rest of your life or do you deserve better?

Don't ask questions you don't want to know the answer to.

That nothing to be mad about. Some men are like that. I am married to one. My husband love my tittes and looking and playing with them. Personally I would rather him to play with my pussy more then my breast. But be glad you have a honest man.

um......some guys are "butt men".....meaning that they find a gal's booty hotter than the breast's.......that is not the end of the world......take care.....Brian....

Well at least he's honest, that's the best thing in a relationship. And yes, that comes across as a mean thing to say (what hes said i mean) but if you think he loves you, then i think you're safe. Talk to him about how you feel, and tell him that the porn irritated you. Honesty is the key. If he can't repect how you feel, or respect you for who you are, you should find someone who does. You seem like a smart girl, so don't let him take advantage of you, or say parts of you aren't that great. It is not cool whatsoever. Hope this helped, and you can talk to me anytime you want (=

I must say, if my bf said that to me I would set him straight right off! that's a terrible and insensitive thing to say and he should know how it made you feel. I would say something like "I'm glad you like my butt but when you said you are not as into my breasts I felt hurt, insulted..." whatever you felt. I just urge you not to let it go because it will happen again unless he know how it makes you feel. I have asked my bf this question a number of times and I can't imagine a negative response coming out of his mouth. I sure as hell won't stand for it.

He's not a very "thinking" or caring man, is he. Good in the sack?

som men (my hubby included) cant give a compliment without including n insult. Its just insecurity on his part. He is afraid that if you feel good about yourself, you may leave him. classic examples from my own hubby: "youre sexy, but not as sexy as (insert famous women)" "I know you love me, carrie loves me too"

Relax, porn is made up of unrealistic female forms, SO DON'T GO OFF JUDGING YOUR SELF!!! You are as you are interned to be. most guys like breast. my ex was a boob man and it put a crimp in my relationship that I have now for a year and a half. My boyfriend likes my breasts but has little interest in my butt. I am proud of my butt. I say count your blessings