by 
Wild One
ANSWERS: 100
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Yes, if I wanted them to be doing the hibity-dibity. To all those people that refuse to let their kids mess around- are you serious? They're going to experiment with sex, drugs, alcohol, and loud music. You should provide a safe, risk free environment for them to do it in. Would you rather give your kid a pack of condoms from time to time, or have a grandchild? Would you rather your kid OD in the back of a van, or, hang out with him and monitor his usage habits? It's like this comic I saw once- a guy gave two 15 year olds loaded guns and goes "now, practice abstinence only gun safety"
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No. My house, my rules.
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Nope.
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Not unless I wanted a grandchild.
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Nah, having sex in your parents car is a right of passage isn't it?
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NO, NO and NO
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The fact that you're asking this means that they have been banging away at each other already long enough that they somehow feel the need to try and pull this one over on you as well. 17 indeed!
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Hell no. And if that wasn't clear: HELL NO.
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i would say yes b/c their going to do it anyway and besides many people at young ages have had babys without going it at their parents house and i would rather see them makeing love in a warm bed at my house than in the back of a van or in a cheap motel the fact is that at that age their going to do what they want. If you let them thell probably talk to you and you can make sure the girl is on the pill but if you disapprove thell do it anyways and probably get caught they thell get more sneaky and if you keep pushing then youll probably push them away all together.
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Absolutely not. They may choose to do things that can impact them for the rest of their life but not with my blessing.
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No! But I WOULD have a heart to heart with him about STDs.
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My parents wouldn't. My boyfriend's parents wouldn't, either. I think it's a good thing that his parents care for him that much and I also think it's a good thing that my parents care for my siblings and I that much. I know that in the future, I will probably go back to them for advice since they don't have the attitude "Well, they're gonna do it anyway, so I might as well let them do whatever they want." If my parents did have that attitude, I can't see how I would be able respect them at all. It would show me that I could get away with anything. I don't like that in a parent. I need a parent who cares enough to stop me from going down the wrong path, and thank God I have that stable foundation to fall back on instead of parents who force their children to do things or encourage behaviour that may not even be appropriate to begin with. I will admit that I do sneak around to see my boyfriend at times, but I am also very thankful that my parents care enough to tell me off if they really do sincerely believe I'm the one who is in the wrong and why they believe that.
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Sure, if you trust him. My brother's girlfriend has slept over. I guess it's a judgement call.
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Not unless I wanted to be a grandmother. A son and his girlfriend should show the respect of not even asking that of a parent in whose house they're staying.
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Oh, no way
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im only 18 myself but i wanted to just say that if you stand in there way they will just think... well i will go and do it somewhere else,atleast with him being at home you know there not being silly about it,if your son is mature he should know all about safe sex but its your house and your rules :)
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No, because I'd have to deal with her parents when and if she got in the family way. I hope this answer will be helpful even to an anonymous turd with a minus complex. If i did allow it the terms would be that the movie texas chainsaw massacre would be playing on her tv all night.
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uuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh NO!
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First,i'd ask myself, what am I doing with a son that's older than me ?
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NO WAY
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I would. When I was 17 my mom let my boyfriend spent the night and I spent the night at his house, but it wasn't like we hadn't been doin it for like 6 months before then. Like Mr.Doubtfire says, if you don't let them have the privacy of their own rooms, then they're going to do it in horribly trashy places most likely. All you do when you forbid a kid who's already having sex or wanting to have sex to do it is make them want to do it more and want to defy you over anything they can. What's the point? They're going to do what they're going to do, and at 17, it's only a year until you have no say about it whatsoever, so you might as well let them live their life.
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Yeah, I'm a realist....it beats the car...and if you think your child isn't doing it, you're an ostrich. Conversely, if you brought him up well and he actually listens, then nothing will happen.
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I think its essential to bear in mind that each child is different, and going to react differently to 'outside the home' influences - you cant be with them all the time, having brought them up to know right from wrong, there comes a time when they must consciously decide, where theyre choosing to go. In order to keep communications open, you have to allow them to make their own mistakes, and not alienate them from their family by having too many standards forced on them, but if you can mange to keep them close, you have more control, and sometimes you have to bite your tongue, when they make wrong choices. You cant put an old head on young shoulders, but its important to lead by example also, without appearing too militant, rigid and un street-wise
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Just an additional thought - Just because they're sleeping in the same place together, it doesn't mean they're actually having sex.. x
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yes, if she is above the age of consent too.
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Sure if I want a grandchild before I'm 40 and a kid with herpes, HIV, and a myriad of other nasty things like having to raise my kid's baby because the kid is so lazy he won't get up off his ass and get a job or having to support all three of them because they're lazy. If they want to do that, I'll file emancipation papers and move their asses out of my house and they're on their own. Not saying I won't still love the kid, but I'm not allowing it in my house.
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No, I would not. If she is under age I am not going to leave my son or myself open to any legal problems from her parents.
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I am so glad I never had kids. I did not have sex before marriage and I would not encourage anything that might make sex convenient. Sharing a bed would certainly be an easy way to have intercourse. What kind of lousy host would I be? I would give her my bed and I would sleep on the futon. My mother in law who was screwed up in the head at the time let her 18 year old daughter's 17 year old boyfriend sleep over the house and that is how she got pregnant the first time. They did get married and she miscarried that baby but then went on to have four sons and divorce each other after 17 years of marriage. Sorry, but "i don't want to lose my daughter" was just not a good excuse for making things too easy for sex.
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If she was 16, yeah. I would.
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No! I would not.
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Yes, if I wanted to become a GRANDMOTHER! Otherwise, No! No! No!
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yes, but i wouldnt let my 17 year old daughter.
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Does anyone have any morals anymore? At eighteen some boys are too imature for a relationship like that.
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I have a 17 year old son & heck no I wouldn't let a girl sleep in his bed over night. I'm just the kind of person I guess that feels thats just not something you do if you want to raise your kids up right. They have more then enough time to act like adults when they graduate or move out, no sense in letting them rush things as a juvinille. Plus I just don't think thats being a parent allowing your kids to do that, I'm sorry but I live in a neighborhood that parents my age have allowed just that to go on & now their 12 & 15 yr old daughters are pregnant & their trying to play stupid & say they just don't know how that happened. Well duh, you same as give them permission by allowing them to sleep together. They are teenagers with hormones & they are going to do what they can get by with, I'm not going to live in denial & think everything is a ok & nothing will go on if I tell them not to have sex in my house. I was a teenager once everywhere is somewhere you want to have sex if you can get by with it, I'm not going to pretend my kid wouldn't do the same if they got the chance.
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Yeah as long you've explained safe sex etc to them,if they want to have sex you cant stop them so why bother in most of the world the age of consent is 16 so i dont think that at 17 it's a big deal.I'm 21 one and my mum let girls sleep in my room since i was 16,she said she rather i came home with someone than stay out all night.
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I think this comes down to how much you trust your son to act responsibly, even if that means abstinence or a condom. But still, even if I trusted my child, I don't think I would let their gf or bf spend the night until they were both at least 18.
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No, definitely not. I don’t trust them at this age and they need to be taught moral values.
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Only if he is paying half the bills. If I am supporting him, then NO.
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Yes.
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I'm 16 & my mum won't let me / my boyfriend sleep round each others houses & this annoys me! Its not like sleeping round someones house means "Throw all resposibilty out the window"...If they're mature then go for it...But get to know your childs bf/gf before you did.
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No...not even if he was 27 (unless she was his wife). Unmarried, that would never happen in my house. When he's in his own home, he can make his own rules.
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not a chance. hes 17, so hes living with u and ur prob supporting him. when he turns 18 and /or wants to support himself then id tell him he can do what he chooses.
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No..
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The fact that you ask makes me assume you just can not wait to become a grandparent and that you want to facilitate kids having kids! And if the girl were my daughter and you allowed that, I would be at your doorsteps and you would NOT like what I had to say or might do to you for allowing it. Let me ask you a question: I I know my kids does home robberies, should I give him a gun so some crazy homeower does not confront him defenseless with a gun and kill him because, keep it mind: I know he is going to rob homes no matter what I say. So why not facilitate it and try to make him safer in doing wrong? You get the parallel, for those who say best I let them do it right here in bedroom at home since they will do it elsewhere otherwise?
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yes i would. they would just find somewhere else to do it anyway.
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No. Period, bottom line, my house my rules. Nobody unmarried, outside a kids same sex friend sleepover, will sleep in the same room in my house ever ever ever ever ever.
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not in his bedroom. i've had friends sleepover guys and girls and i've slept over at friends houses guys and girls, all however many of us on the couch floor air mattress whatever. bedroom would remain off limits, but she'd be welcome to stay on the couch, or even him there too but when they went to sleep i'd say he goes to his room
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No. I would teach him to RESPECT women, not sleep with them. I know he would sleep with them (if I had a son), but I wouldn't encourage it. I would teach him from the time he is really young to respect people.
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That is extremely irresponsible.
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ty ty :)
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oh come on, yes of course! Let them have those unique experiences, and kindly put a box of condoms somwhere where he will find them. There's nothing wrong with 17 year old people having sex if they understand how to protect themselves. And yes, most people aren't so irresponsible as many people believe, we KNOW you can get pregnat if you have unprotected sex (I'm 18, but I lost my virginity when I was 17)
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sure, if she slept on the top deck, and he slept on the bottom. college dorms have co-ed rooms these days. the guy sleeps in one bed, and the girl sleeps in another bed in the SAME ROOM. what difference would this situation be?
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PLEASE don't tell my you are asking this question because it's an actual situation with your son and you don't know what to do! NO! And NO if he's 18 and they're not married. And NO if he's 21 and they're not married. And NO if he's 60 and they're not married. Get the picture? My house, my rules. I don't compromise my ethics like that.
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advice doctor, i'm not going to high five them or anything once they do it. it's like speeding- people are going to go faster than 65 on the highway, so why not put in safety measures- such as curves banked for people doing 90+, JUST IN CASE they decide to go 90. kids my not be having sex at a young age, but if they are determined to do it, then they should be given a safe environment in which to engage in such activities.
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Yes. If you know, you taught your son well, about the concequences of not using protection, I'd say they are almost adults and you should treat them thereafter.
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Wtf... why not ?... if they want to have sex, they would have it any way. they don't need to sleep together to do it. If there relation ship is ripe for this step I shall grand it.. also with the advice of safe sex. Btw the 'good' parent who says no: think twice, if you want to be a grandmother, just denial it they will have sex behind your back anyway. and you put pressure on your child's relationship. If they both decide that they are ready you should be open for conversation and talk about it.
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No, period..don't care where she sleeps not sleeping at my house at 17
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I wouldn't, they are still kids and much too young for that kind of responsibility. Plus sleeping in the same room at that age would spoil all the fun they are having sneaking in a quickie here and there. Ahhh, the good ol'days, wouldn't trade them for the world.
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No way, been there with my stepson, he tried bless his heart, but it wasn't going to happen in my house. So he moved out....and they moved in together and she eventually moved back to her parents and he is back home again. See they have to live and learn.
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of course not, why, would I teach my son not to have respect for me and our home.
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In a word NO!!
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no, doesn't sound like a good idea
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i hope she does :)
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Yea if u want a Grandchild haha
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hell no!!! better go rent a room..
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No.
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Only if you don't mind if they have sex. If you do I would have the safe sex talk with him. Pregnancy is not a thought in a horny boy's brain. I used to sleep over at my boyfriend's and I would sleep with him till 5am and set the alarm and sneak onto the couch. Though I didn't have sex with him, I was terrified of pregnancy, we did learn each other's bodies.
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As long as his girlfriend's parents allowed, sure. I would rather him be safe at home than trying to park somewhere where they could get robbed or worse, and I don't want my car smelling like low tide either.
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Nope.
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If you let it happen.. bust down the door around midnight and you will have a reason to not let her spend the night again lol. :)
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I have seen so many people here that say no and hell no, you know what, how do you think you were born? Its human nature to want to have sex, it propagates the species, I do believe you should teach them safe sex though, unless they are engaged to be married and want to have a kid, as others have said, kids are going to have sex whether you wish them too or not, probably in places you would rather not ever know about or want them too. There is too much emphases these days on sex being this big bad thing you shouldn't do, let me tell you something its not bad, its great. Like i said the biggest deal is to make sure they understand the consequences of whats going to happen if she gets pregnant, and if they dont want this to happen to wear a condom.
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no kids are too fast these days.
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only if i can video tape it
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No I wouldn't reason is people need to act more like parents and less like best friends toward there kids. this is just a recipe for disaster.
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Uh-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h-h. . . . . . . . . . . . . .no
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Hell no, if hes old enough to have sex, hes old enough to get a job and pay for the unwanted pregnancy that sure to follow; and you can sure tell whos conservative and whos liberal with the answers to a question like this.
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Well, since he turns 18 tomorrow, and i know she is already 21, I'd say sure that's just fine if she wants to go down to his room to go to sleep after spending the bulk of the night in 'my' bedroom:)
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no
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NO
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Nope.
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yes, he's probably done the naughty thing already with her... plus he's only one year away, he's most likely christened those sheets without you knowing... And what If he's truthful, what if he doesn't do anything?
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No I would not when they have a place of their own I cannot make the rules but in my house I make the rules .
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NO WAY ON THIS EARTH & NO WAY IN HELL! They be makin' babies! NOT A GOOD IDEA! . Back in the old days they would put the male into a potato sack sort of thing. They would literally sew him into this if he was staying the night at the girls house. I saw that one TV. +5
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i would say that if he wants her to that he will have to adhere to a conversation with you and bring along his girlfriend. I would make it clear that it will be involving uncomfortable talk about sex and then he probably will be too embarrassed or she will be too embarassed to talk with you.
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Nope. I dont want to be a granddaddy.
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No. Under no circumstances would I do that to my child. It is the parent's place to protect their children. Letting them have that opportunity is basically telling them it's ok to have sex. Most kids these day's do not have such high self control.
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Yes I would let our Daughter have a "Boyfriend" over ( And that's the Guy she's in a committed relationship with) and let him sleep with her. The wife and I would meet him first and make sure he know how to use Condoms!
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No way!
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Yes, I would, and I have.
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The answer is No! The results was him moving out and getting and appartment together.. :(
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HELL NO!!
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I just got the picture of asking my dad (when I was 17) if my girlfriend could spend the night. The next picture I have in my head is of my dad's head exploding. I can't even imagine why you would even consider letting that happen unless you have the overwhelming desire to be a grandparent. Therefore my answer is not only NO but HELL NO!!!!!
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Sure I would....providing that my 17 year old son was away at the time!
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my bf's parents let me stay in his room for a while, and i still live there now, though now i do have my own room. there is a very long story to that though, and i dont think it is normal circumstances.
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I feel, it is not good........ This is kind of leading our into the wrong path....... Please consider it, if you were in the place of your Son's GIRLFRIEND.....? wOULD YOU?
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If I like her: yes. If I don't like her: no. :) No seriously, if she comes from afar to visit my son and has no other place to be, of course, but if she is living in the same city:no!
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ok.. even though im probably not going to seem very popular on this page with my answer at least let me say that it wasnt ME marking anyone down!! Ive only joined this site about 2days ago!! Your all a bunch of morons lol.. told you you wouldnt like my answer... 17 years old!!!!!! are you kidding me!!!!! no!!!!!! of course you should say yes for one reason and ONE reason only that defys all the other crappy answers.. nowadays.. if you say yes, you can have a quick chat about using protection, even how to use it correctly to avoid STI's and grandkids... If you say no.. and heres the genius bit.. there going to go down an alleyway.. probably the alleyway of your own house.. and have a shag against the wall (probably not wearing protection).. bring on the STI's and grandkids.. And my god people.. 17!!!! if it were 14 id agree with your answers.. but 17?? this is kind of stoneage stuff
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That's a good question. They'll do it somewhere else if you don't allow it, I'm sure. But then again- If the girl's a minor too, then you have her parents to worry about.. It just sounds like a bad idea.
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NO.
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i am 17 and i say no... if the male is invited to the girls house, okay but other way around, no.
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