Why do we try to change other people? Why is excepting someone as they are, so hard to do?
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Jen-Jen
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Because subconciously, we all believe that the world was created for us, and that the people we encounter should only exist as we want to see them. It's a sad fact that most people can't accept others for what they are, simply because they don't want to have to deal with the differences.
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I think it's innate in humans to think their way is the right way, and other people need to learn and adhere to there way. Accepting people as they are is something that hopefully you learn to do as you mature and realize that you can't change people, especially your loved ones. If they want to change, they'll change, and if you think your way is the right way, hopefully, by your example, they will change. If not, it's no biggie. That's also probably the biggest relationship killer. It's why people who rush into relationships have a much greater chance for failure in the relationship, because they don't know what they're rushing into exactly, because of lack of knowledge of their partner. You see it in religion all the time. Ever since religion has been created, people have been trying to convert other people. It's usually a trait associated with Christianity, but it happens just as much in every other religion.
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There's always room for improvement ;)
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Sometimes you want to change them, because you care about them. Such as, wanting them to stop smoking, or doing drugs. You don't want to see anything happen to them.
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Excepting eh? I think they are those who just think everyone should be like themselves and anyone else who doesn't seem to be should be hated on.
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I would only try to change someone if they are being self-destructive and I can help them feel better about themselves.
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Changing others is necessary, because it is so hard to find the PERFECT match. I had a crush on a coworker who was beautiful and caring, but she was not romantic or smart. I think you may change during a relationship but it will take years and your signigicant other should not feel smothered or controlled.
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it is the definition of true love, to accept your s/o , faults and all and love them for who they are, without the need to mould them in your image or wants
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ah yes. i under stand fully what you mean. its sad in itself. religion itself in any form seems to be revolved around trying to make people the same. people say to me all the time. to believe and accept so and so as there diety. but i just cant. i dont see it =. i see much more than that. ive always been the one to want to be different than everyone else. some people arnt permitted to accept people as different because of their beliefs. best to left what is said to be said and thats it.
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