How can I get my wife to stop spending all of our money on clothes & shoes? HELP!
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100 percent pure... BEEF CHUCK
ANSWERS: 22
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i never thought i'd say this but fight about it. throw a fit. <that is if you've tried everything else. i get the feeling that you have> she might come around to your way of thinkin. sorry if my answer doesn't help. i really am.
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I don't know. Maybe some of the female ABers can help. By the way, what do you spend money on. Does she have any reason to be unhappy about your spending habits. Maybe you can make a deal with her to both spend less on themselves or habits. How about both of you submitting to a budget for your personal needs?
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Everytime she wants to buy a new item ask her to sell one first.
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Lock her in the closet for a while, see how she likes to be left hanging around and never get to see the light of day like most of the clothes.
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Take her off the bank accounts
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By spending it yourself first.
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Destroy her credit cards, or hide them. If it's really that bad go to a credit councelor. If she works have her put her check in an account and give her a certain amount to spend for herself. Use the rest to pay bills or put on savings. If she doesn't work, only give her the set amount. You have to take over the grocery shopping and pay the bills. My boss was like that. Even though she made good money, she wasted it on junk. They were getting into debt badly because of her. Her husband took away all of her credit cards (closed most of them) He finally couldn't take it anymore and left her. Boy was she in for a rude awakening. Now she has to pay all of the bills. They have joint custody, so she doesn't even get child support.
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you can't so do this in stead. as soon as she gets home with stuff and puts it away take half of it and hide it. return it to the store the next day and she should soon forget that she bought it
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Get a divorce.
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How long has this been going on? If you gave her the impression that it was o.k., then you need to correct that impression. Unless you are very wealthy, she must realize she is depriving the family of needs to satisfy her wants. Have you talked to her about this, face-to-face?
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Spend it on boats and bikes before she gets to it :)
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Well first off it sounds as if you have allowed her to buy what she wants when she wants. You are going to have a heck of a time telling her that her shopping sprees are over. Take away her credit cards and give her a SMALL allowance for the week. If she can't deal with that tuff titty - the worse that can come out of this is she leaves you and finds another wallet to wear out. A friend of mine has a husband who lets her get what she wants when she wants (clothes, trips, boobs, you name it) and they are running out of money because of it. He has told her to slow down and she throws fits. So now she's talking about divorce. Hmmm, I wonder why?
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Have been married for 42 years and we never had that problem. The wife is a proud woman with an expensive eye and has her own income but I deposit a monthly very decent amount. I believe the trick is that we each have our own bank accounts, she can do what she wants with her money and uses it with her credit card. A second one for the house expenses all included both of our signatures are required, checks only, and the third one is mine where I also use my credit card. The savings accounts require both our signatures should anything happen to any of us, a couple of checks are always signed and in the safe. Credit cards = plastic money are quite dangerous. Regards.
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ask her why she shops so much.some people just need something to do,so they shop as a way to fill the day.
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Have a baby.
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divorce her
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It is time for you to take over the finances completely.This means that you are going to have to pay the bills cash the checks ect.Give her a monthly income for shopping sprees.You will also have to do the groceries ect.This may help her stop spending.It is a habit that is hard to break. Good luck.This may cause problems if she is not ready to change.
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Fatten her up ! Trust me, she won't want to go NEAR a dressing room!!!
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have you sat down with her, showed her the bank statement with all the outgoings (bills, direct debits, plus her spending sprees on it), showing her there is a big difference between what is coming in as income and what is going out. She needs to understand that it is affecting you in that it is making you worried about getting into debt from one month to the next. If she loves you she will take the time to understand why she is doing what she is doing and how it is making you unhappy. My husband had to sit me down and I have to say when I realised how much it was worrying him, I sorted it.
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it's hard she thinks buying stuff gives her life pourpose.
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How money is spent is often a lively debate between spouses. The two of you have to work out a budget so she will know the limit she can freely spend on her clothes.
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Tear up the credit cards and close the checking accounts. If you do not, you are heading for bankruptcy. Give her a certain amount of cash for these needed items and thats it. Is she a shopaholic?
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