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  • Well you can share ur feeling with him about it. Look, I know it's corny but it's true. If tell him you feel jealous it will make you feel better hearing what he says. Or you could always join your own play were u'd have to kiss a guy. Take my advice or don't
  • Can you just be OK with feeling jealous...for now anyway...and forgive yourself for not having any more peace than you do? Ultimately I believe that even the best relationships take work and some of that work WILL feel unpleasant. Jealousy is an ANCIENT, hormone-driven response unique to mammals. In NO way should feelings of jealousy be personalized until they become personal identity. Let's say your boyfriend's a good actor. He's also acting with other good actors in a good play. Why WOULDN'T you feel SOMETHING in response to witnessing him take part in a well acted intimate act? Consider your "problem" as an opportunity to get more experience with how to have certain feelings without letting them have you. If you meditate at all, try this: When you feel jealous, imagine that your jealous feelings are tight soil around you, and you, the plant, are pushing your way up and through the soil towards the sun. The point is to not identify with the feelings but have them/allow them to be what you're moving through.
  • Well you should ingnore it thats all i can say to do.
  • Honey I once had to do a tango with a girl for competition in front of her boyfriend. I've also did Rumba with her. In Rumba you are suppose to act very lustfully. Just remember that its all theatre and for show.
  • This is one of the oldest ruses in theatre. Here's the deal -- if you are a guy and kissing an attractive girl, you will like it. Now, the "reason" you are kissing her is secondary. The theatre offers a merging of the fantacy and the real. The actors "pretend" to be other people (or trees, turtles, whatever) as part of their role. For example, in a WW II movie, someone has to "pretend" to be Hitler. Now, though the actors may not actually be the people they are portraying, they nonetheless say real words, make real gestures, wear real clotes, etc. If an actor portrays Hitler, he actually speaks Hitler's words. After the production is a wrap, the critics will say "Didn't Billy Bob create an excellent portray of Hitler?" Everone knows it isnt' really Hitler up there, but YOU pretending to be Hitler. If an actor is playing the role of someone who kisses a gal, he really does kiss her. OK, as a participant in the play/movie, he has "permission" to kiss someone who he likely would not be able to kiss in "real life." But nontheless, he does kiss someone. If he is "normal," he will like kissing her (if she is of appropriate age and nominally attractive). Consider nudity that is so commonplace in newer scripts and/or inserted by some directors in tradtional works. A gal that I dated several years ago tried to explain to me that it wasn't "her" breasts that the entire theatre saw, but rather it was her "character's" breasts. Trust me, those were her breasts. While it easy to separate most dialoge from the actor, it is not so easy to separate physical actions from the actor. No one would reasonably believe that the actor actually believes the things that he says while playing the role of Hitler. Yet, if "Hitler" were to disrobe on stage, I assure you it wouldn't be Hitler's package that the audience would be seeing . . . and the audience would long remember what the ACTOR'S package looked like -- no one would be pretending that they saw "Hitler's" package. Don't believe me? OK, how many of you can tell me the name of the character portrayed by Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct? But I bet you all know what Sharon's beaver looks like. The persona belonged to the character, the beaver was unquestionably Sharon's. Now, back to kissing. Your guy is kissing a presumedly attractive gal near his own age. He may be in love with you, but trust me, he likes kissing her. Why do you think so many Hollywood types end up with marital problems after doing a movie with makeout scenes? Sure, their "role" called for the "characters" to make out with each other, but no one can truly separate the role from reality when it comes to the physical realm. What about professionalism? OK, sure. We handle it with professionalism. We don't take extra liberties not called for by the script and/or director. We don't attempt to continue the physical interaction off stage. But trust me when I tell you that I do like it when a pretty gal puts her arms around me and plants a big kiss on me. Even better if I have the perfect "reason" to be doing so.
  • it's romantic to get jealous, it may make you realise how much you like or love him. you just got to tell yourself, he is all mine, when this is over she goes too, but i stay! he is all mine, remember that!
  • Why get over it? You 're hot. He should be jealous of you!
  • Just know that he kisses you when things are for real.
  • I was in the same situation. My boyfriend is an actor and he kisses girls in scenes all the time. Although he calls it "work" I know he some what enjoys it. He is a man and he is human. We all know that it feels good to kiss someone that is attractive and even more so when it's risky and your adrenaline is pumping because you’re performing on stage in front of an audience. There were times when I got angry and didn't know how to interpret my jealous feelings the right way. This led to screaming fights, which only made me look bad and totally insecure. I still feel that way sometimes, but I have a better understanding of why. There is nothing your boyfriend can do to solve your problem. I would suggest that you examine your feelings and carefully determine if your boyfriend would really cheat on you or deceive you in anyway. If you know your boyfriend well enough and if you can trust your gut, you should be able to understand that this is his career, it means a lot to him and kissing someone on stage is just a tiny part of it. I know this is tough advice, because it’s not as easy as it sounds, but try to work on it and try not to let your emotions get out of hand.
  • When you're young and in theatre (and fairly inexperienced with the opposite sex), both the viewer and the actor can foolishly equate a kiss on stage with a kiss in real life. After all, you say, aren't I kissing this person? As you get older and develop deep relationships, you can wrap your mind around the idea that a kiss only has meaning within the context of your feelings. Within a performance, the actors shouldn't be experiences any feelings of their own of any note. Because as a mature person (and an actor), you should realize that it is simply another stage direction. "Put my foot here. Raise my hand in a grandiose gesture. Sweep the girl into my arm, while remembering to cheat out to the audience. Place my lips on hers. Pull back and deliver my next line." That's what is going on in the actor's head. Not "oh geez, oh geez, I get to kiss this girl." It's a purely physical act, like walking, and has no connection with your true emotional core. Your boyfriend has slipped into the skin of a character who does these things. It isn't him. He's loaned his body to a character, and the character's point of view, feelings and actions are what he is portraying. At least, that's how it is for a professional. I cannot speak about what goes on outside of the acting, of course. People do get involved with each other when working together. But that's the kind of thing that happens outside of the "work" and is more of a social thing around the play. A film actor may end up becoming involved with their co-star after filming, but I can guarantee it has nothing to do with the intimacy shown on screen. It probably comes about during the shared lunches, the career advice, talking while in the make-up chair sipping Starbucks. The regular people stuff -- not the stuff in front of a full camera crew.
  • There's nothing to bet gotten over.

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