Ok...im gay and really, REALLY like my best freind who iv'e known for 7 years. [both male 17 ]. I told him i was gay and he was cool with it. hes a good friend and very open with me but how can i be sure the time is right to tell him how i feel about him?
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Its never a good idea to date a friend no matter what. Are u willing to lose a good friend if things dont work out. Been there done that bad choice I made!!
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Do you know he's gay or bisexual? If he's straight, he may be a lot less cool about you liking him than he is in general with you being gay. Dude, it's a bad idea in general to get romantically involved with your friends. It doesn't matter whether you're gay or straight or whatever. It RUINS friendships. You don't want to lose your best friend. If he's not gay or bi, you could lose him for sure. Even if he is, he may not be "into you", or, even if he is, what if you break up? Could you remain friends afterwards? Then again, sometimes what has expressed itself as friendship was actually a relationship pretending to be friendship, but really a mutual or one-sided desire to be involved romantically. If you search your soul and end up realizing that you WANT your friend to be more than friends more than you care about keeping the friendship if you end up not being able to have him or losing him, then go for it. I'd give the same advice if you were straight and your friend was of the opposite sex.
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if he didn't tell you he was gay when you told him,and especially if he told he wasn't,then don't pursue any other kind of relationship with him then you already have,or you could lose even that.
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You can't be sure. You can tell him any time, but be prepared to face whatever reaction he might meet this news with. You might lose a great friendship. If he is gay, then he'll tell you in his own time. You can't force that out of him. Someday if he tells you that, then that would be the right time to tell him about your feelings.
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When your holding hands is as good a time as any.
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Unless you know he is gay, it is a bad idea. You will make him uncomfortable. A couple of years ago I had an openly lesbian friend, tell she liked my skirt and that I was beautiful and she was attracted to me. I was so uncomfortable with this and it took awhile to be comfortable around her again. She did apologize because she knew it was wrong.
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As long as your ready for a change in your relationship speak your mind; but with that said it's important to consider that words spoken can not be unspoken. The reaction may be immediate or delayed and may be favorable or unfavorable. If you really feel compelled to share your feelings but are afraid that the reaction would be negative, write a note to the person and then destroy it. With the writing of the letter you may find the emotional release without the jeopardy of rejection. Best of luck!
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well.. a simple answer would be to tell him. if he can take that ur gay, he can take ur crush. and who knows, maybe hes not gay, but is open to you. good luck!
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That's tough. Do you think it might hurt your friendship? You may want to wait it out and see if he comes on to you. You already told him your gay, so if he is interested, he will let you know. If you tell him, I'm scared it could go either way and are you really ok with the possibilty of losing a good friend over what could just be a temporary crush?
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If he isn't also gay, then, there is no right time to tell him.
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is he also gay? if he isn't it might make him feel uncomfortable and pull away from the friendship. i guess you need to decide if its really worth it with the possibility of losing him almost completely.
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You said you are gay. You did not say he was. Somethings best unsaid. And telling him (if he is not gay)is pretty self centered.
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ive had that happen to (except im a girl and it was a guy). in the end i ended up telling him. it didnt turn out so great. it is probably a good idea not 2 get involved or try to get involved with your best friend. i no it can be really hard but try to look at them from a nosexual pint of veiw, try not focusing on the sexual feelings you have for them and instead focus on just being his friend, im not saying you'll not not stop feeeling sexual feeling about him but it may be easier to be around him if you do! believe me it works!
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I think you should stick with guys who are gay and don't try to convert this guy just because you like him. There are plenty of gay men for you to fool around with. You tell him how you feel and you could lose a good friend.
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When he tells you how he feels about you.
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Love takes time. Try to sense things first you already know him for seven years and you know already what type of person he likes to be a partner. If it is girls. Don't try to tell him what you feel because it will only ruined your friendship.
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time for a sleep over LOL
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if your friend is not gay do not tell him how you feel about him, you will more then likly lose him as a freind if you do this. i have no idea how you feel and it must be aweful but i do know how it feels to be in love with someone and you want to tell them every time you see them, in this case, unless he is gay you can not say anything to him without risking the friendship. what is more important to you
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Unless you know that he's gay or may be interested, you shouldn't tell him.
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Does he ever talk about or seem interested in girls? If so, no don't do it/ He may be trying to set some ground rules or let you know where he stands. If he doesn't show any interest in girls at all, or maybe will notice or point out something about a male, again he may be trying to say something he's uncomfortable with. You say he's cool and open, if you're sure about him, just come up with some light comment including he and you! good luck1
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trie asking other freinds about him to find out if hes gay to no ofense though but if he finds out he might not be your freind so be private about it
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