Who do you think is the most responsible in an affair? The cheating partner or the person they are cheating with?
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Both the cheater and the other adulterer are equally bad. It takes two to cheat, you know.
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They are both responsible, unless the person they are cheating with does not know about the marriage.
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I believe that the cheater, is the one in a relationship, so he/she is to blame. The one they are cheating with, most times are lied to, about them being married.
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Assuming the single person knows their lover is married, they are equally responsible.
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Both are to blame, unless one didnt know the other was married.
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It takes two, both are to blame :-)
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I agree with most answers here in that the married person is more to blame, as the other party is usually lied to about the circumstances. Now if both parties in the affair are married, I would place blame equally.
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they are both sinners. the cheating partner has a responsibility for the spouse, though
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the cheating partner unless the other person is married too. Then they are both equally in the wrong.
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CHEATING PARTNER
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I'd have to go with the Hotel clerk who gave them the key to the room.......What was he THINKING!!
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The cheating partner. If it were my husband, I would be mad at the person they are cheating with, but my husband is the one that has the responsibility to stay faithful to me.
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the cheating partner, ofcourse. The other person is probably single and doing what a single person does.
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The partners are jointly responsible for the health of their relationship. If they intend to practice monogamy they should consider that this option may be impossible.
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If the lover has no knowledge of the marriage/relationship then they are completely blameless. Other than that they are equally responsible although the partner will probably have a much higher price to pay (and with good reason).
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Assuming that the person they are cheating with knows that the partner is cheating, BOTH are equally responsible. However, sometimes the person who is married does not tell the partner that they are married and makes excuses for not being available all the time, such as being out of town frequently on business.
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it takes 2 to tango! both participants are equally responsible!
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"Responsible to whom?" implies the answer.
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I think both are equally to blame if the person that is being cheated WITH knows that their lover is married/with someone. Otherwise it is all on the cheater.
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The cheating partner. Sometimes the other person does not know the truth of the relationship, but even if they did the cheating partner should know better. This person is knowingly being deceitful and irresponsible.
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I think the cheater and the other woman/man are equally responsible unless the other person has been lied to and not informed that they are screwing a married or otherwise involved person. The other person if they are aware that they are involved with a married or comitted person is just as guilty as the cheater for allowing themselves to stoop so low as to allow themselves to be the other person. Whatever happened to the good old days where people had morals and values and this sort of stuff was very uncommon. It seems like cheating is becoming more and mnore acceptable with each passing generation and I think it's totally disgusting.
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The cheating partner is to blame, they made promises of fidelity not the person they cheated with. If the one they cheated with knew they were married then they are of questionable moral standards but not responsible for the partners cheating. People should take responsibility for their own actions. The 'cheat' is the person who made promises, the other person made no promises so how can they cheat?
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i think the should both be taken outside the city and stoned
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Depending on who and what - I would say the cheating spouse because 9 times out of 10 they are NOT telling the person they are cheating with the entire truth. If they cheat with a mutual friend or co worker who is aware the person is spoken for then the blame is placed on the both of them.
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Both of them, they know its wrong
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I think the cheater takes the most responsibility. Sometimes the cheater doesn't even tell the other person they're in a relationship. Sometimes they do. Either way, they should "man up". They made the decision to cheat, either way.
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the partner who is the one cheating..they are the one who made the commitment not to cheat..it is odd though that our first instinct is to blame the person who they cheated with.
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The one that is cheating is truly the most responsible since they are the one breaking their vows. The one they are cheating with didn't take the vows but they should still respect a marriage.
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I would say obviously the partner, as far as you're concerned. I've never understood why the cuckold(ress) and the "other" (wo)man always end up fighting on Jerry Springer and Cheaters.
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lmao! This answer is going to make me a lot of friends! while not the most at fault let's reserve a smidgen of the blame for the person who is being cheated on.
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Both.
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Both are as responsible, unless one of them did not know the other was in a relationship. Regards.
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They are equally responsible for the affair. HOWEVER, I can not change anything about the other woman. She would not concern me. My concern is with my husband and our relationship. That is and must be the focus.
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Its the cheating partner, but then again two wrongs don't make a right.
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It takes 2 to tangle
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They are both as despicable as each other.
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the cheating partner, the "other" person isn't the one cheating on their loved one.
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It takes two to tango...
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None of them. it is just the lack of knowledge of some of the basic ingredients of a successful relationship which should be blamed.
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Well, personally I think that the married person is to blame!!! A number of people might feel attracted to your spouse and 'hit" on them, but should not worry about that - the only important thing to look at is the reaction of your spouse to these "hits"!!! Good luck.
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The cheating person. They are the one who is intentionally breaking the heart of someone who they are supposed to be loyal to.
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I agree that it takes two to tango, BUT... The cheater bears ultimate responsibility for his/her actions, with respect to their given word. For example, if I were to cheat on my wife, then the violation of the vows I swore on my honor is MY fault and the dishonor would be MINE. It makes NO DIFFERENCE whether or not the other person knew if I was married or not. Ultimately I am the ONLY one who can cheat on my wife. And as the owner of my penis, I have the ultimate say in where it goes. In the end, your word is your bond and the only thing that really has any meaning. If you will not keep that trust, then you are without honor. You cannot share the blame for that with others.
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Both are responsible if they both had knowledge of each others situation. If the one they are cheating with did not know about the others situation, then it would solely be the cheaters responsibility.
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Both since they are both accessories of the crime..one cannot do it without the other. Whether the other one doesn't know that the person he/she is having an affair with is married or already committed to someone else. It's his/her responsibility to know very well the person he/she is getting involved with. Ignorance is not excuse.
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takes two to tango. but the cheating partner has taken vows.
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Well My husband has cheated on me with an ex and with a friends wife's friend....I blame both on the the first one cause she knew we were married but again he had been lying to her about things and with the other girl she was lied to all the way around and she was really young so I feel bad for her....so i guess it all depends on the situation but 99.5% the most responsible person is the cheating partner
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I think they are equally responsible!
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The cheating partner of course. Who has someone who cares? The commited person.
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Ever think it could be the spouse? That being said, the cheating partner if the other person doesn't know. If the other one knows then she is reponsible as well. Could be that all three are responsible.
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Definitely cheating partner. Sometimes the person who they are cheating with don't even know that person has a gf/bf. So in that case they are also the victim. However, if the person they are cheating with know that he/she has a gf/bf, then they are equally to be blamed.
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Both,it depends on the circumstances who is more to blame.
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the cheating partner X 1000000... they are the ones who are in a relationship and as such, should not be with anybody else.
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It depends on if the person who is cheating with the married person actually knows that they are married. If so all of the responsiblity lies with the married person because they took vows to be faithful.
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I think is so funny when they try to blame it on the person they are cheating with,, I think why you gonna be mad at the other person if ypur partner is the one that is cheating on u..... dont make any sense!!
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the person they are cheating shouldnt even be brought into it... after all, they have no responsibility in the matter.
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The cheating partner of course!! :):)
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They are both to blame. My own situation, my husband of 23 years has cheated on me multiple times all with women he works with. They know he's married with children, they have met and talked with me. One he got pregnant and he paid for her abortion. It would not matter if he got sex every day 3 times a day at home, as long as there are woman that don't care about their actions or themselves and will give it up just for the thrill of doing it in the Restaurant storage room or parking lot it will happen. He's a manager and she/they are servers and if they found out at work he would loose his job. He does not care about his job or family it's the thrill for the both of them. He has more to loose then she does. She could say NO!! just like he could. It's all about your choices.
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The person they are cheating with may not know the complete story. However show no mercy when it comes to the cheating partner, they knew *exactly* what they were doing.
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If they both know then both of them.
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In my case I cheated 15yrs ago and I recently found out my husband had an online affair for about 4yrs. I blame myself for both. I think he may not have done it if I had not ruined the trust between us to begin with. I cheated because I had convinced myself he no longer wanted me around. His cheating came about because he didnt feel he could ask me to sex talk with him. I made him feel the need to look elsewhere for comfort and I take full responsability for that. Ultimately I set the tone for how our lives would be because I was selfish 15yrs ago. Now I will own up to my part in it all and hope someday to be forgiven and someday to forgive myself.
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the cheater..
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defenatly the cheating partner is to blame coz he's breaking his promise and vows to his/her partner. The person he/she is cheating with doesnt have anything to lose, whereas the cheating partner could lose everything.
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I will never understand why people assign blame to the person the cheater is cheating with. unless they are a friend they have NO loyalty to the cheaters SO and as such have betrayed noone (they are not a nice person, but most people aren't) they cheater is the only person who has betrayed.
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The cheating partner!! Unless the "other person" is your friend. But I hate people (especially) girls that always blame the "other person" and let there bf off the hook. What's up with that? I put my trust in my husband.
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Both because it takes two
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both .. if they both know the partner is seeing somebody else... if not.. then i blame the cheating partner
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The cheating person without a doubt. It's not the other person's problem
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the cheater as they have the commitment.
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The morality of the situation lies with the cheater not the one they are having an affair with.
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Both parties (assuming both are aware of the facts of the situation) are equally responsible...
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Honestly, I think that the cheater, the person helping the cheater, and the person being cheated on are all to blame. I can say this because I have been cheated on. I know this answer will probably not be liked by many, but it's true. Let's stop with this "I'm gonna point my self-righteous finger at the cheater and act like he/she is the only one who did anything wrong." It's pathetic. Cheaters are people, too, and shouldn't be cast into the pits of hell by other people who have done wrong to others themselves. 'Let him who is without sin cast the first stone'. Wasn't it Jesus who said that or something like it? Well, it's very good advice. =]
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sorry ment to comment instead
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my wife just had an Effair. she is the only one who betrayed me because the dude owes me no loyalty. were the partner my best friend he would have betrayed me but not as badly as she.
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the cheating partner. the other person owes you nothing!
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The bitch that you're married too, whoever you said 'I DO' too...is the one that you point out to the judge!
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The cheating partner hands down. They know the commitment they made when they said "I do." Your cheating partner is the only one responsible -- they had a choice to make, and made a selfish one! The person they are cheating with is not your spouse, therefore they do not "owe" you anything!
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the cheater - he/she looked for it
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Both in the end.
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If the other person knew nothing of you Blame the spouse but if both knew spouse was married blame both. and leave the spouses butt.
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I think the cheater is to blame, because you know you are married so why creep outside your marriage when you can get all your loving at home.
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The woman; whether sex happens or not is up to her, otherwise it's called rape.
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they are both guilty evenly and even more evenly when both cheaters are married to someone else
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I think it is the person they are cheating with because they should have said no-if they knew the partner was married
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I think 90%of the responsibility is the cheating spouse. The rest of the 10% is the spouses cheating partner. Either way it goes they both play a role in it and it is wrong
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the Cheating partner 100%
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The cheating partner is MORE wrong, but both parties play a role. There are a lot of variables with the other person. Perhaps they didn't know they were involved with someone at the time? Did the taken person approach them? Did the taken individual feed them lies about leaving so-and-so, and the other individual was foolish enough to buy it?
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If the "other" person knows, then they are both responsible. You don't interfere in someone's marriage. You don't betray your own marriage. If you want someone else that bad, why not be honest about it and leave? A cheating partner is trying to have their cake and eat it too!
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cheating partner
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i thing it is cheating partner others have done no wrong
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Who made the first move? The cheating partner and the willing participant are equally guilty...the partner for betraying his/her S/O and the one who engages in the cheating knowing that this person is in a committed relationship...they are both liars, immoral and untrustworthy..a very slight edge of blame rests on the instigator..the one who made the move to begin with..but just a very slight edge. They're both worthless material as far as other relationships are concerned. If they'll do it with you they'll do it to you! :)
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They are equally guilty, unless assuming that the person that they are cheating with has no idea that the person they are seeing is in a relationship. Although that's unlikely, it does happen.
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I think it is definitely the married partner's responsibility to tell any person that may want to have an affair with them, that they are married and they can not do that to their spouse! Lot's of people flirt with other people, married or not. If the spouse gives in, then I think they are mostly to blame!
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The cheating partner. That's where the rubber hits the road.
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Both parties are equally responsible. There is no i in team and that is what the two are, a team that join forces to cheat.
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The person that cheats is responsible for their own behaviour. The person in the affair with them, is not responsible for someone elses actions, only their own, assuming that they are both adults.
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The cheating partner...the person they cheated with has no commitment to the one being deceived.
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the cheating partner if the other person knows about the relationship then they're kinda responsible too for helping ruin something special.
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i believe both are responible especially if the person knew you were married but ultimatly the cheater holds the responsibility for thier actions !!
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They are both equally responsible.
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The cheating person. The person they are cheating with might not even know they are in a relationship. Even if they did they are not the committed one, they don't care about the person beign cheated on. I just can't palce blame on them.
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