How about this question: Why are you still with this person? You are being a very foolish girl and setting yourself up for a life of heartache. Dump this loser and find a guy who will love and respect you. Somoen who will work together with you to find happiness with each other. Why put yourself through this? There are so many good guys out there looking for a good woman to share their lives with.

How is he blaming his swinging website and swinging fantasies on you if he is not even willing to admit to you that he is into these things? I would worry that a man who is into swinging, but not open about it with his wife is not into swinging as much as he is into cheating. If you stay with him be very careful, and watch him closely. I second Big Daddy's advice to leave him though. It would be better for you to be with someone you can fully trust.

Why ask for advice that you don't want? Want him to 'open up to you and confess?" - Tell him you would like to go and try swinging with him and his new 'friends.' When has being confrontational and accusatory ever encouraged anyone to open up? Seriously, look at it from another side - Why do you want him to "open up" and "confess"? Sounds like you have the opinion that there has been some wrongdoing requiring 'confessing'. So you want him to open up and confess to you - just so you can punish him or what? Leave him for being what - less honest than you? What a horrible wife this poor bastard has ended up with temporarily. Honestly, because it would appear that you have earned and are worthy of receiving that 'blame' - whatever nonsense that means. Why aren't YOU friendly with the swinger couple? Do you have something against sharing the same friends or social circles? Or are you just now - after TWO YEARS - admitting that you were not equally yolked in the marriage, that there has been a mistake made on someone's part (doesn't seem to be his) and willing to accept the fact that whether you get him to 'confess' or not - YOU ARE STILL AN IDIOT AND DESERVE EVERY BIT OF BLAME HE CAN DISH! STUPID TWAT- You are VERY seriously whack.