My boyfriend constantly reminds me that he does most of the house work and thinks that I don't appreciate him. Is he being overly sensitive or am I being insensitive?
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I think that there might be a little of both, but he might be stressed out too.
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As a guy, we don't do very well at hints, so he is probably asking for a little help. Not a lot, but if you see him doing something don't sit and watch, try to help. That will make all the difference in the world.
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your boyfriend and I need to get together and have coffee because it sounds like we have a lot in common. I would listen to what he's telling you...I mean really listen and try to change because if you don't then just shows how little effort you are putting into the relationship
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He doesn't want your appreciation, he wants you to get off your butt and start helping!
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Keeping track of what or how much the other contributes can be the beginign of the end.
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I think that maybe if you slipt the house work in two? Like one of you does upstairs and the other down? or this maybe be his way of saying that there is something else wrong and this is his way of venting, which is good and bad. Good: He loves you enough not to just go off on one. Bad: He might explode!! I hope this helps
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Unless you're pregnant, I think you're being insensitive. In my opinion, he sounds irritated with your actions. I don't really blame him, either. How would you feel if you did most of the housework and he didn't help you out much? Think about it.
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It's a reverse of the "normal" situation - The wife is usually the one complaining to the husband about doing most of the housework and not being appreciated. 1) Help out more. Do something - The dishes, the laundry, the trash, clean the bathroom, mop the floor, whatever. (I can't get around that easily, but I can do dishes, and gather up the trash so my wife can take it out when she leaves. I'm also not as much of a "neat-nic" as she is, so sometimes it feels like I should be helping her do something else. I do what I can. 2) Say you're glad he did whatever he did, so you don't have to. Be honest, but tell him. 3) If it's something you can't help with, and you're at home, just be in the same vicinity and talk a bit about it. (My wife does a lot of stuff outside, gardening, etc., weather permitting - I try to go out on the porch or the deck if she's doing that. I like to think it shows I'm supporting what she's doing.) If you CAN help, do what you can. It doesn't take much to show appreciation... Just showing that you enjoy being with him while he's doing it may be enough. Good luck. ;-)
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Who is the GF and who is th BF. Sounds like role reversal, he has a reason. As women in the past who did that had, they had legitimate reasons for feeling that way. You can't discount the way someone feels no matter how unjustified you think they are. This is something you should explore, with yourself and your mate. Communication and open talking without arguing will strengthen your relationship. Trying to understand and compromise is the best way to form a long lasting bond.
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