I feel like my friends take me for granted. How can I talk to them about this without hurting their feelings?
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The answer to your question really depends on: 1. Your ages 2. What part of you is taken for granted? your friendship? or you as a person? 3. What do you mean by you're just that other person? By experience, I was always the one left out. I was always apart of the group, but I was still left out. If there was 3 of us, and 2 can only fit on a sidewalk, then I was walking behind or ahead. Do you feel as if your friends are using you? Teenage/High School friendships are, in my opinion, verrrrrrry different than the 25+ age group, and very very different in the 40+ age group. Can you eleborate?
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one thing, never try to see yourself from others' eyes. people normally would not take interest in you until you do something which makes them believe that you are the one they can pounce upon to get their works through. try to develop your talents, everyone has abundance of them. you can take support from your parents and teachers until you are widely befriended. once you have talents to show know way people would ignore you, rather come chasing behind you! prove to yourself and not to anybody else that you are just not that other person! thanks, for the question! hope the answer will serve you some purpose
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I know where you're coming from.A so called good friend asked me to send them a present.I made a mistake two years ago of sending them a present.Not once has the fool asked me when my birthday is - I know how dumb is that! I was a people pleaser but not now.If someone is taking you for granted as far I'm as concerned they have already weakened the friendship.Don't worry about their feelings - please take care of yourself - you are actually the person who has been hurt or offended.I grew up with hearing "it's better to give then recieve" But one can give til they are all exhausted and stressed.It's worth messing up the friendship if that's what happens than to have internal rage and ruin your health.What you need are friends where the friendshkip is equal not one sided..where you feel free to be you..Hope this helped..:):):)...
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Tell them your needs in a specificly and clearly, tell them honestly how you feel about your situation and let them digest- give them time to see you in the different light. All humans are co dependance. We need each other sometime or other. When needs arise there is opportunity for displaying problem solving skills, compssion and creativity. Let them show you how they can help as well as give them some hints..if it doesn't turn out exactly what you expected that's ok..coz at least they tried but may not be in the position to fully involved. If that's the case, get other people who are more experienced and professional.
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first things' first. Are they really taking you for granted? Because you know, there are a lot of people who have wrong thoughts about this. The real problem is that they keep telling themselves that they are taken for granted when the truth is, their friends are trying their best to reach out, but then again, because you are locked into this perception their efforts are put into waste. So better reflect and realize first. Otherwise, go to them directly and ask them face to face. Just be prepared for their answers.
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