Well, your question does not need much comment. First, you made a mistake by getting pregnant for a man who you weren't sure of his total love. Second, considering your age, you're no longer a baby. Third, the idea of aborting the pregnant is risky and may likely jeopardise your life. Four, your family and friends are in support for you to keep the pregnant. Please, I plead with you, keep that baby. DON'T ABORT! IT IS BAD AND VERY DANGEROUS. Cheers!

This is a very tough situation. First, I highly urge you to not abort. This child is alive, even if he or she inconveniences you and causes you pain. Once the child is born, you do have the option of adoption if you still wish to be with the father and he still insists that he will not have anything to do with this child. How would having this child limit his time with the seven year old? Yes, he would have more responsibilities, but a seven year old can still share time. If you are getting support, keep this child. He should have a mother, and I hope that he will have a father. I do not know if the biological father will stand with you and be a father, but I pray he will.

You didn't really ask a question. This is a difficult situation, since you didn't take the time to discuss children before getting pregnant. If you want to carry the child to term, do it. You've got a network of support and if the father wishes not to be part of his child's life, that's a decision he has to make. But don't have an abortion to appease your boyfriend or keep him in your life. You will almost certainly end up regretting it. Whatever you decision, good luck

He prefers you abort for his own selfish reasons.......these are not good reasons for abortion. Go ahead and have your baby with the support of your family and friends.....

Ask yourself this, No 1 do YOU want the baby? No 2 can you cope on your own with a baby No 3 can you live with the consequences of aborting No 4 can you live with the consequences of a child Personally i would go with my instincts and if i wanted the baby id keep it,man or no man. No man would make me abort if it wasnt what i wanted. Just because he has a child he doesnt see already isnt a good enough reason sit him down and ask him what the problem is? Good luck with your choice

Hi, Thanks for the responses, I wasnt able to explain much due to limited characters when writing the question, but we did talk about having children in fact it was he who stated that he wanted me to have his baby one day and it was discussed on numerous occasions that is why I am stumped on his response to not wanting to have the baby. Love was established in our relationship and he was a good person, he's not acting as one at the moment. The baby was not planned but I didnt believe he would act so indifferent towards the situation. If I do this on my own I have mentioned I will not prevent him from seeing his child, I do not plan to keep the baby in order to keep him or abort to appease him. Part of me is confused on what my next step will be simply because uncertainty is such a scary thing. I appreciate everyone's opinion and advice and thank you!

You didn't discuss it with him before getting pregnant? It's your body and ultimately, you are the one that is going to have to go through the pregnancy. If you want to have the baby, whether to keep or to give up for adoption, letting yourself be pressured into an abortion is a recipe for unhappiness later on. You do have several options, just make your peace now with the reality that having him in your future, whatever you decide, might not be among them.

Do want you want to do. Abortion can be a tough thing to go through later on in life if your not 100% sure on your decision.

I was adopted, instead of aborted, and I am so thankful to my birthmother (whom I've never met) that she gave me life. In fact, all 6 of my siblings are alive because my birthmother didn't abort. We are all thankful. I want to encourage you to keep the child. You are keeping and saving a life. You are loving and caring for a life. A child who cannot be born without you. A child whose life is in your hands. A child who will grow up and thank you for your decision to give him or her life! "America needs no words from me to see how your decision in Roe v. Wade has deformed a great nation. The so-called right to abortion has pitted mothers against their children and women against men. It has sown violence and discord at the heart of the most intimate human relationships. It has aggravated the derogation of the father's role in an increasingly fatherless society. It has portrayed the greatest of gifts -- a child -- as a competitor, an intrusion, and an inconvenience. It has nominally accorded mothers unfettered dominion over the independent lives of their physically dependent sons and daughters. And, in granting this unconscionable power, ****it has exposed many women to unjust and selfish demands from their husbands or other sexual partners****. Human rights are not a privilege conferred by government. They are every human being's entitlement by virtue of his humanity. The right to life does not depend, and must not be declared to be contingent, on the pleasure of anyone else, not even a parent or a sovereign." (Mother Theresa -- "Notable and Quotable," Wall Street Journal, 2/25/94, p. A14) Abortion is something I'm passionate about, and a while ago, I made a webpage about it. I will give you the outline and the link.: Outline of webpage: ABORTION Facts development of a baby, an unborn child feels pain, methods, facts, when life begins, a woman's right to take a life, science, the arguments of abortion, abortion statistics Risks psychological risks, medical and emotional complications, the affects of abortion, after abortion Regrets regretting abortion Pro Life former abortionists against abortion, abortion survivors, celebrities against abortion Clinics planned parenthood, abortion clinics, former abortionists Other music videos, overpopulation, stem cell research, the bible on abortion... HERE'S THE LINK: http://docs.google.com/View?docid=dcp466... "Abortion is advocated only by persons who have themselves been born." ~ Ronald Reagan "An abortion kills the life of the baby after it has begun. It is dangerous to your life and health." ~Planned Parenthood Federation of America, 1963, as quoted in Catalyst, January-Febuary 2008 "I was once pro-choice. And the thing that changed my mind was, I read my husband's biology books, medical books and what I learned is simply what it states - this isn't even morally -- this is pure biology. At the moment of conception, a life starts. And this life has its own unique set of DNA, which contains a blueprint for the whole genetic being. The sex is determined. Now people ask the question, well, is it a human being? We know there's a life because it's growing and changing." From ABC's television weeknight show, "Politically Incorrect", May 1, 1998 "They [the women] are never allowed to look at the ultrasound because we knew that if they so much as heard the heart beat, they wouldn't want to have an abortion."-Dr. Randall 'Pro-Choice 1990: Skeletons in the Closet" by David Kuperlain and Mark Masters in Oct "New Dimensions" magazine "I want the general public to know what the doctors know- that this is a person, this is a baby. That this is not some kind of blob of tissue." --Dr. Anthony Levantino "I want the general public to know that the doctors know that this is a person, this is a baby. That this is not some kind of blob of tissue . . ." Former abortionist, Anthony Levatino, M.D. "A woman's right to choose an abortion cannot logically co-exist with a embryo/fetus' right to be born. Simply put, life trumps choice." ~ Shannon in Oklahoma, username rocksinmydryer on blogher.com, full article "Why I'm Pro-life": http://www.blogher.com/why-im-pro-life "More proof that science is the enemy of the pro-abortionists can be seen in reading their reaction to sonograms. NARAL and Planned Parenthood have done everything they can to keep women ignorant about the latest scientific advances. That is why they oppose virtually every state and federal law allowing for informed consent. They are positively frightened by ultrasound pictures. Indeed, an abortionist from Long Island recently admitted that 'no woman is going to want an abortion after she sees a sonogram.' He’s afraid he may lose his job." "When we consider that woman are treated as property, it is degrading to women that we should Treat our children as property to be disposed of as we see fit." Letter to Julia Ward Howe, October 16, 1873, recorded in Howe's diary at Harvard University Library ~ Science Undermines Abortion Activists, Catalyst, January-February 2008 ~ "...each according to his or her possibilities, profession and responsibilities, should feel in themselves an obligation to love and serve life, from its beginning to its natural end. It is, in fact, everyone's duty to welcome human life as a gift to be respected, protected and promoted, even more so when it is fragile and in need of attention and care, either before birth or when it is in its final stages." Pope Benedict XVI, Welcome Life, Before Birth and in its Final Stages, February 3, 2008 "The picture of the baby on the ultrasound bothered me more than anything else. The staff couldn't take it. Women who were having abortions were never allowed to see the ultrasound." Former abortionist, Joseph Randall, M.D. "I had taken anatomy, I was a medical student. I knew what I was looking at. There was a little scapula and an arm, I saw some ribs and a chest, and a little tiny head. i saw a piece of a leg, and a tiny hand and an arm, and you know, it was like somebody put a hot poker into me. I had a conscience, and it hurt. Well I checked it out and there were two arms and two legs and one head and so forth, and I turned and said 'I guess you got it all.' that was a very hard experience to go through emotionally." ~Former abortionist

I say keep it. Your "baby daddy" is full of himself. He is only thinking of himself. He is showing that he does not love you and that he never meant to be with you long or even for a short while. He just wanted you in bed, got it, and now wants nothing more. I call thos kind of people useless. I am tired of men like him. My baby daddy was just like that but hell no if i was going to kill my baby casue his sorry butt didnt want it. I had both my kids and now he is very much involved in their lives...But still i hated him for what he did.

i'm in a similar situation and i believe you should keep your baby. just remember that in the end your the one that will have to live with it not him. don't consider the abortion just because he wants you too only consider it if you feel its the best thing because in the end your life is the one that is going to change.

Dear Gabriella - It is wonderful that your family and friends are willing to support your decision to choose life for your baby. And I've been where you are, not wanting to abort, but not sure about what to do next. You can receive invaluable assistance by contacting OptionLine at 1-800-395-4357(HELP) or visiting www.optionline.org (IM available). They'll put you in touch with your local pregnancy help center, and an experienced consultant can share with you all the resources available right in your own neighborhood, including low-cost or free pre-natal and post-natal care for both you and your baby, financial assistance, and much more. Your consultant can also speak with your baby's father about his concerns, if he so wishes. Men suffer regret after abortion too, in a different way than women; he may not have thought through the reality that his 7-year old son now has a sibling, a yet unborn sister or brother. Once he realizes you have the support of family and friends, he may rethink his position. Your consultant will be willing to listen to his fears and apprehensions and reassure him that abortion isn't the only or even best option. OptionLine is free, 24/7, and ready to help - give them a call! You'll be in my thoughts.

If you want the baby then you keep the baby.

It sounds to me like he finds wishes easier to live with than reality. He can't live a life based on 'nice ideas' that make him look good but don't involve any effort. I'm afraid you would be best making your decision on the assumption that soon he might be crying on another girl's shoulder about how he would love to be part of your baby's life, and how you selfishly 'tricked' him into being a father. I hope that doesn't happen, but it sounds like he is all about his image and only says what he thinks other people want to hear for the sake of his own good name and easy life, so be careful before you trust a word he says.

Mind boggling. And your question being?