My Brother passed away 5 years ago. My Father was going to move in with my Mother 4 years ago after he retired. Now he just mopes around the house. He lives in the living room and never leaves it. He goes out to smoke and drink coffee, but returns and...
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He goes outside to smoke and drink coffee, but returns and sits in his chair in the living room and never does anything else. How do you tell him to leave and move in with my Mom? How can you do this? How can he (I know he will never get better), but how can he improve? THANK YOU:)
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He is depressed and needs professional help but it will be very difficult for you to motivate him to get help if he doesn't want help. Someone who cares about him (maybe your mother?) needs to get him to see that life is passing him by and that moping around isn't going to bring his son back or change how things are. It will take some time and patience but I think with a lot of love and care and help him take a small step towards "living", he will come out of it. You can try educating yourself on family of depression and maybe you'll get ideas on how to handle your father's situation.
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Your father is depressed because he's suffering from unresolved grief. Perhaps there's a local grief counselling service you could call for advice? Tell your father that it makes you sad to see him like this and that you, too, are bereaved of your brother. Be gentle but try to get him to realize that your mother is also grieving the same loss, that it's a family thing. ASk him if he is willing to get some help for the sake of the whole family and maybe he will agree. Then, who knows, he may go and live with your mother and they will be a support to each other and you.
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