How do I get back at my boyfriend for cheating on me, without me cheating back on him?
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amanda parker
ANSWERS: 43
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Revenge is never a good idea because it only creates more problems. Two wrongs don't make a right.
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Try breaking up with him and finding someone who will be faithful. Other than that, I agree with Answers101. Vengeance just makes matters worse.
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I agree - don't cheat on him back - then you are as bad as he is. How about doing something subtle to humiliate him and make him feel small. Unless of course you are willing and able to forgive him...your choice.. You could leave him, and tell him he's lousy in bed anyway, so he did you a favour. That way you look strong, you are in control, and it will make hime feel small. Or simply "Good Bye - you are obviously not good enough for me"
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The only things you can do are leaving him, or forgiving him. Both can hurt / effect your significant other depending on "who they are" if you forgive them, it could cause them to feel extremely shamed, likewise with leaving him. You really need to look at one of those; Forgiving Him, or Moving on. anything else just makes things worse.
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dump him.. you deserve better!
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I'm going to assume your pretty young. So, let this be a learning experience for you. In this life your going to be happiest if you can find one life long partner. Most people that cheat, unfortunately, will continue that behavior. Hard as it might seem to you right now, you should be out looking for a decent guy, (one that wouldn't consider cheating). Your young, try and get it right before your old.
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If you believe he made a poor choice (which he did) but that he does love you and you love him, I'd say consider telling him that everyone gets one chance for some huge mistake to be considered for forgiveness...doubtless this does not apply to hitting, threating to hit, breaking things and other acts of a violent nature...for those you LEAVE pronto! Tell him THIS was his big mistake and that any such behavior remotely like this...means the relationship is OVER. I'd also tell him if he wants to be with other people...just tell you honestly, so you can grieve and get over it, not to lie to you! Remember too if he's sleeping around not only is he damaging his credibility with you, he is also potentially putting YOU at risk for sexually transmitted diseases! Oops, sorry honey WON'T fix that sort of mess.
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The best revenge is no revenge. It is getting on with your life and being happy, successful, and fulfilled without him. He will either reform or eat his heart out at what he missed.
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How about talking to him about it? Decide if you still want to be with him, instead of figuring out ways to get back at him, which will only make him angry and make you as bad as he is regarding being unfaithful.
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YOU MAKE HIM FEEL REALLY BAD ABOUT WHAT HE DID AND DO HAVE SEX WITH HIM FOR A LONG TIME JUST PLAY WITH HIS MIND AND MAKE FEEL REALLY BAD ABOUT WHAT HE DID
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"Get Back" at him? Why would you subject yourself to someone who now looks at you without respect? If he has laid with another woman and you haven't left him alone that only tells him it's not as bad as it really is. When someone does something wrong and does not receive any form of punishment or consequences for a better word why would they stop?
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Break up.
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Why do you even want to be with him?? If you say "b/c I love him" than think again. If you really loved him you wouldn't want to seek revenge on him b/c his well being and happiness would be something to you and by wanting revenge you are not concerned with that.
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Rub a freshly sliced chilly pepper on the head of his cheating dick while he sleeps. Make sure you clear the room right after you do it!
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I understand how you feel, and it hurts so bad that you really want to make that other person regret what they did to you. I totally agree that two wrongs dont make a right, and obviously you already realize that by asking a question about how to go about this. Im sort of going through the smae thing so I dont really have all the answers but I understand you 100% and I just want to tell you that you are beautiful and worth so much more. I am going to try and forget this looser who completly took advantage of me, and keep my dignity as well, I refuse to stoop to his level. I know that there is someone out there who will love and respect me for me, and not lie to me to get my body !
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I say leave him and get a boyfriend who will value you and not be putting you at risk for sexually transmitted diseases. This is one time where you don't get a second chance with me. Other offenses may be forgiven - not that one.
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To get back at him u have to get him attracted to u again and then start flirting with other men abd then when he apollogizes or soming reject him
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leave him and forget all about him. The best revenge is to be happy and live well.
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leave him
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Ok, if you are SERIOUSLy considering 'getting back at him' and this isn't just the anger talking then perhaps it's time to move on. If you truly love someone, you would not seek revenge. If you feel this strongly then move on...why hurt someone knowing exactly how it feels, it's a very immature thing to do.
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If you need to "get back at him" maybe your should just break up. If he has severed your trust and your desire is revenge, you will not be able to work though this.
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You leave him and show him you deserve to be treated better.
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Leave him!
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If you want to do anything, breaking up is one. The big other is to be as sweet and happy around him as always. (If guilt is not something that effects him, it won't work, but if it is...) If you REALLY loved him, you wouldn't want to do anything but let him know how much displeased you are, that he will have to regain your trust, and how he's hurt you. If you find you want to do anything other than that, leave him and don't look back.
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Forgive him.
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how to get back at him. Well you can always leave him...that ought to teach him a lesson
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Revenge is a waste of time.You should find someone to date that repects you.
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Forgive and forget, or leave. Don't lower yourself by stooping to his level.
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can you really be bothered?
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date me? :)
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You don't, and if you think getting or sleeping with someone else will "get him back" you are so wrong, why would he care after what he's done to you? Before you act on anyting please give him the chance to explain everything. Ask questions, get the whole story. We all make mistakes. If it was just to spite you or out of lack of care for you, theres no need to get him back, because I'm sorry to say he already doesn't care. Find out whats happened and sort it out, or move on.
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Pleas don't do that, let cool minds prevail. Wait a few days and collect your thoughts, please. After re-reading your question.... Make him sleep on the sofa for a month.
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Why stoop to his shitty standards and cheat on him back, then that makes you just as bad. Dump his ass, and move on. that's revenge in itself.
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will be get back my boyfriend on me
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Break up with his dumb ass.
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Don't be a wuss. Cheat on him too and show him pics or a video of it.
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You do it by dumping him and moving on.
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break up with him...even if it's for a few weeks. If he's a cheater then he'll start messing around with other girls and you will know you made the right choice by leaving him. If not then he'll pine over you and know what he messed up
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Suggest he loses his pubic hair because it would be sexy. Then use hair removal cream and leave it on 'just too long'. Use it everywhere!
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Break up with him and start seeing some of his friends or some guy he doesn't get along with. Be public and let this guy or these guys know how much "better" they are at the good stuff than he is. Your not cheating and some times it helps to get something new to get over the past aka. break the ties.
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if you really love him, swallow your pride and be the better person and tell him there is no more room for error
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you should pay a guetto teenager to go to his place and break all his windows...or even better making him pay thousands of dollars on new paint for his car. you should spray paint "small dick bitch" all over his car.i did it and i dont regret it. i loved seeing his face full of hatred againts me. made me laugh.
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yeah my dude keeps cheating on me with the same gurl and i keep taking him back because i feel like we been through alot and i dont wanna break it off just yet..but this last time he went to far and now im seeking revenge but im not tryna hurt em i just waNT HIM TO KNOW HE MESSED UP WITH THE WRONG GURL WHICH IS ME SO HE CAN KNO TO NEVER PLAY GAMES WITH ME EVER AGIN..BUT AT THE SAME TIME I WANT HIM TO HURT LIKE HE HURT ME
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