No true relationship can withstand that.

I don't think so. I'm a very monogamous kind of person. I tried the free love thing (though admittedly different than what you're describing) and I didn't like it at all.

Nope. My marriage didn't handle my "significant other" dating someone else. Are you kidding me?? Divorce papers are in the works.

No, not at all. Personally I know I would not be able to tolerate my guy kissing or touching another woman, it would upset me greatly.

Hell no. What is mine is mine and no one else's.

No. Just no. I don't want to share my boyfriend with anyone. He feels the same way about me.

MY relationship no.

Umm NO why would we do that??

I am a hippie from the 60's and learned how to share. It works for me, but it might not for everyone.

I know it wouldn't withstand it...... hell no! Nope, no way.

like Yarnlady said I am form the late 60's and 70's and so I have no problems with it at all...its sex and sex is just sex is just sex and nothing more ..:)

No, it would kill me.

Maybe, as I'm currently not in a relationship I think I'm rather biased towards "making anything work", but depending on how things were structured and who it was with I could probably deal with it, and enjoy it.

Nope, I am way to jealous over my husbands body! Its mine, all mine Mwhahahahaha

No and neither one of us would ever even consider it. To us, if someone wants an open marriage, what they are really saying is that they aren't committed anymore to that one person and really should get a divorce, but want to hang on to all the conveniences of a marriage.

I can't stand the thought of him kissing someone else much less anything else....wouldn't work for us.

TO me it's not a marriage (a contract between two people) if it's open. Allowing a third or fourth party into it is violating the contract. We promised to have fidelity and loyalty to each other and there is no telling what allowing someone else to be intimate with either of us would do to that.

Absolutely NOT!!:)

Not at all. If i was in a relationship, I want them to be committed to me and only me, as I would be to them. Screw "open" relationships.

Yeah right! The only thing open would be his skull;)

Nope, that set-up wouldn't work for me.

On this subject open relationship we are doing an documentary and i would like to know if anyone out there would like to participate by giving insight information in this new culture of love & sex... or is it more than what some people think

If you are going to "date" other people, what is the point of saying you have an S/O? Dating others makes the S/O insignificant, one of many, take a number, any number. It devalues the relationship and renders it meaningless, a facade, a front for what I don't know..but there is nothing special any longer and the person ceases to be special. "Withstand" being "open"..you mean tolerate playing around and sleeping around? Is that supposed to be a good thing? What kind of person thinks this? :(

NO WAY. He is mine and I wouldn't be able to handle him being with someone else and then comming home to me. I don't even want to think about him touching someone else and then touching me.

No. I dont share my man with anyone.

Not a chance. I have never wanted to be with anyone else, and I could never handle him actually doing things with other females.

it doesn't work for me!!

I am in a long distance relationship with someone that lives more than 600 miles away. I finally came to the realization that a cheater will cheat even if you shared the same bed. So I got really honest with myself and understood that all I really need from our relationship is to see him as often as he can but no longer than 6 weeks between visits, I want to be treat me with respect at all times and I want to know I'm special to him. If he does that I will give him the room to focus on his career. I told him 66% of men cheat on their wives so whatever he does I asked him not to put it my face. He said he won't cheat but that is not my concern my concern is how I'm treated. Does he see me? Does he follow through when he says he's going to do something? Does he treat me like I'm special to him with respect? This is what's important to me...The last thing I want to do is go crazy over what he might be doing and besides that what does it matter if he's rotten to me? I just focus on how I'm being treated and that's it.

that isnt a relationship in my book - thats just dating

Hell fucking no! Im jealous, and I get grossed out when guys have sex with lots of girls or KiSSING.. that just is NASTY to me you know.. Anyways.. If it was open and he met some ASIAN girl.. And FEEL IN LOVE>. I HONESTLY< DOUBT THAT HE WOULD COME BACK TO ME... AND IVE BEEN HURT AND ITS NOT FUNN

I think it can work just as long both parties agree and don't mind sharing, but other than that I could never share my fiancee with another women and he feels the same way to about me.

NO NO & NO......I dont like to share I am gready & plus thats how Aids & STDS get spread, by people being dirty. Pick one & stick with it, if its not working then move on!!!! Dont sell yourself short & dont expect someone else to.

Absolutely my relationship can stand being open. My partner has the freedom to be with or do whatever she chooses. My love for her is that I want for her what she wants for herself. Hers is the same for me. All I have to concern myself with is who am I Being in the relationship. All she has to be concerned with who she is Being. Jealousy is just another way of saying, "I'm worried I'm not good enough and if you find someone better than me I will be alone". I believe that it's a societal mirage to think that we can control another by setting up a moral system called monogamy. The fact is some very large percentage (figures vary from 15-60%) of people cannot adhere to a monogamous lifestyle. Our only solution is to judge these people as wrong because they can't adhere to "the only true way" which is mongogamy. I will say that in practical terms none of what I say above matters becuase 99% of people don't have the self esteem (self love) to engage in this type of open loving. I do believe that if two people can truely love themselves, then they can aspire to an open relationship structure. In the absense of true self love though, none of this works. (Monogamous relationships probably do have a better shot at "working" however if one or both of the partners have low self esteem issues.) Sadly we live in a society that seems to foster low self esteem. There so I've come full circle. LOL Be monogamous if deep down you question your own worth and don't fully love yourself.

No flippin' way!!!

For sure ~ i don't own anyone... so it's not gonna be a problem to me if anyone i'm with, wants to be with someone else :)

ABSOLUTELY NEGATIVE.. I am a very territorial person and it just would not fly.. BUT if you two as a couple both agree on seeing other people then i guess it would be a mutual agreement and would make it ok. You also would have to be careful with STDs and what not. You never can be too safe.. Also if you are happy with that person why would you want to be with other people??

ABSOLUTLY NOT!!!!!!!..

Why be in a "relationship"--if it's going to be "open?" Why not just date other people?