Do people feel that "one-night stands" vs. "dating" is really a black-and-white issue, it's either one or the other? Isn't it possible for two lonely people to get together for a night and still respect each other?
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I would say that one night stands are messed up in the sence that sex outside of marrige is wrong... if your lonely visit your mom and ask for cookies and milk she might make you some and make you feel young again lol but a one night stand usually ends in you or the other wanting more!
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Well, dating by my definition is long term. One night stands are not. Is it possible to have one and still respect each other? It is. Funny, I hooked up with a guy for a night and we both knew what the score was. We ended up dating for almost 3 years ;)
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Anything is possible, PC. If they are two adult unattached people who are honest with each other and want the same thing from the "hook-up" experience, I see nothing wrong there. However, the danger lies in the unpredictability of emotion..one of the people involved may "fall" for the other one...so someone could get hurt! :(
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For two lonely people to get together for a night. Yep sure. Why not. If they are upfront about what they seek. And one isn't having to pretend and hide their feelings. Secretly hoping it will mean more than it is.
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It might be but that's the problem....you never know beforehand. What if one person really feels something for the other? What if it leaves one of them with great remorse or guilt or regrets? And personally I don't see the reason to have sex without love. They are so intertwined for me. OKay it might be because I'm a woman, but there probably will always be a woman involved and I think it's rather difficult for most of us to separate our emotions from the act. I guess I don't see sex as necessary to just make yourself feel better, to forget something, to relax, to de-stress, to just have fun. There are so many other things that could fill those needs without the risk of hurting someone or getting hurt yourself.
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Dating to me would imply tha there is romantic interest, whereas a one night stand signifies physical attraction. I do think it's possible for two people (not always lonely) to jump into bed, and never have it happen again while still having respect for the other. The problem occurs when one of the two think that they're becoming intimate with someone who has romantic interest in them...
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Sometimes all you need is one night to know that you would be woefully incompatable with another person, and yet still be able to be friends and laugh about it later.
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To me, one-night-stands are when two people get together for the sole purpose of 1 night of sex. Dating is when you are seeing someone (even if it's just one time), for something OTHER than sex (even if sex is a part of it, it is not the sole reason).
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