ANSWERS: 28
  • Don't ruin it for her. They grow up soon enough.
  • I think she should discover it for herself. She's still young, let her believe in the great things that make childhood awesome.
  • i think just let her find out for herself!
  • Let them be kids. I lied to my parents for years that I still believed...
  • Truth about what? What are you trying to say? I think your daughter knows there IS a Easter Bunny and Santa Claus already, let her have fun. ;)
  • Let her discover it on her own. She needs as much childhood as she can get.
  • That's is one of the best things about being a kid! So let her have her fun but don;t lie to her if she dierctly asks u and wants the truth..but don't flat out tell her
  • ummmmmmmm. I think she is snowing you into believing that she believes..I find it hard to comprehend that a girl in the fourth grade would still believe. However, if she truly does let her find out on her own.
  • oh no, dont tell her, children are young and innocent for such a short time, let the wonderment of all those things just carry on, she will find out soon enough in own way !
  • Let kids be kids. And by the way, this 39 year old man believes in Santa Claus.
  • Tell her the truth. Dont let her believe in a lie.
  • There's no truth or lie here, and discovering these myths as well as pretending to percept them as reality is kind of a competence which kids need to gain on their own.
  • I don't know what you should do. My children woke up to it so young that I told them the truth early. I never told them a lie, so that they will trust what I say in other areas. Contrary to many opinions expressed here, my children enjoyed great fantasy lives that they invented themselves, and they loved Christmas and Easter for what they were, not for any stories of Santa and the Easter Bunny. They still sat on Santa's lap for photos (after all, he was giving out sweets. You have to be pragmatic, after all), and they still ate chocolate bunnies, but they knew the truth and they knew they could trust me in all things I said.
  • dont tell her just remember how much fun it was for you when you belived in santa and the easter bunny.
  • You mean they don't exist ??
  • Let her believe for now. Cable news will always be around to crush any belief, dash any dreams and/or destroy whatever spirit your daughter may have. All things in due time.
  • I believed, and found out on my own that it was not real. i think you should let her find out on her own. If you just tell her that it's not real instead of her figuring it out for herself she might get upset. when i figured it out for myself - i asked my mom to make sure and she smiled and said that it wasn't real, i nodded and went back upstairs... and that was it. it's easier on her if she figures it out fro herself. Of course, if she starts secondary school believing it, you should probebly tell her yourself :-S lol
  • My daughter just turned 9 before Easter, and she asked me a few times in the last week if the Easter Bunny, Santa, and Tooth Fairy were real. Then one of her friends called her and told my daughter that she had asked her mom and her mom said no they're not. The friend told my daughter to ask me. I said,Well, do you believe in them?" And she said yes, so I said well then... and left it at that. She asked me again the next day and I couldn't keep it from her any longer and came out with the truth. She curled up on me and bawled for an hour at least! She was heart-broken because she still really believed and I felt like I ruined things for her, ruined her childhood. So, that's how it went for me! I now have a broken child who I wonder if she will enjoy the holidays anymore. :-(
  • People shouldn't make their kids believe in them in the first place. It might seem frivolous to adults, but for a kid it's very real, and when they find out the truth they're going to be upset and disappointed. We shouldn't lie to our kids. Plus, they're probably going to learn the truth when someone older is making fun of them for having such childish beliefs. So, tell her the truth before someone else does. After the initial upset, she'll feel cool and grown up.
  • I say let her believe as long as she wants to. Eventually one of her little friends will tell her truth, and when she comes to you, then you can explain that they are real as long as you believe in them in your heart. I think children grow up way too soon as it is, and they should enjoy the childhood traditions of the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy and Santa as long as possible.
  • I just let mine figure it out between her and her friends, and at nine it won't be too long.
  • I have never lied to any of my children on any thing. I'm in no compromise with this world to tell lies to my children in the name of peganism whatever. If lies would not be told to the children for them to believe as true, then there would be no reason to be concerned about "breaking their little hearts". We call it: "Innocent Lies", "Little White Lies", etc; but ask yoursel. Is there actually any justified reason to lie to your children then expect from them to be truthful to you and the rest of society which also expects from them to be "honest" citizens?. This is an insane contradiction in society. You strait-face lie to your offsprings then when they tell you lies you want to lecture them about the truth. Why you need or want to wait for them to find out on their own the truth? If you're not the one telling lies to them but do not offer to tell them what you know is the truth, then that is the same thing as telling lies yourself or being an accessory to it. For those of you who are Christians and believe in Jesus; do you actually think that Jesus would be an accomplice in your lies? They said that man never lied! It's amazing all the lies told in his name! How contradictory is that? You can rationalize it anyway you want to, but there is nothing of "innocence" about telling lies. Or ask those wives whose husband had cheated on them! We need to make our minds about whether or not is OK to lie. Peace y'all!
  • She is probably lying to you about it, I did that when I was a kid, I didnt want to riun the holidays...
  • I still believed when I was 9. Let her figure it out. It happened very gracefully for me and made my childhood all the more whimsical.
  • I think you should wait until she gets curious and asks you. I remember when I found out Santa and the Easter Bunny weren't real. I cried for a while. Then the next day, my mom said that she forgot about the Tooth Fairy- she is fake too. I cried all over again. Your daughter might cry and be terribly upset when she finds out the truth, but it would be better if she had the idea that they might not be real, and then confirm it by asking you.
  • I think she's young enough where her dreams can be continued...........If she discovers it on her own then just be there for her. I think that magical feeling far outweighs any future disappointment.
  • I think you should let her believe. Kids grow up way to fast these days. Let her be a child as long as she possibly can. But when she asks you, and she will, do not lie. I am actually surprised someone in school or a friend hasn't told her yet! Maybe she is still "believing" for your sake.
  • i think a child should keep his or her innocence as long as poss and i think that its sweet although soon (if not already) she knows the truth but is not letting you on. even i at 19 get presants from 'santa' wait untill she asks and tell her if you believe he is real he is, let her use her imagination if she really does believe this is no problem :)

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