There are shelters. Verbal abuse very often escalates into physical abuse. Get away now. I believe if you go to your local police department they can tell you of a shelter.

There are often women's homes where you can go if you are in that position and really want out of an abusive relationship. I don't recommend bringing a child there, although arrangements are made for them. If you have parents who can help you with the child's care, ask for help.

I am scared of how my family will look at me, and that I wont be able to manage on my own :(

Anonymous, You have a couple of choices. First you need to find someone you trust to watch your son, after that is lined up, you need to find a job and move in with a family member or close friend. Help them out all you can around the home and decide on how much you will have to pay them. Hopefully your parents can help you out. Or you can find a shelter and go about it in the same way. As soon as you save and get your own place, You might even get a second part time job, either babysitting or selling on the computer. It will be hard but it can be done and you will still feel so much better without the verbal abuse. Good luck to you.

My parents don't want to believe that its true, they wont us to be a happy family, but I dont think that it will ever happen

Here's the deal... If you stay in the relationship, it could escalate to physical abuse, unless something drastic causes him to have an attitude adjustment. That is very unlikely. Meanwhile, while you stay, you're child is learning that it's ok for men to treat women the way you're being treated. I'm SURE you don't want THAT. Yes... Even at 14mo old, he's learning. He will be much better off in a loving home with his mother, even if she never marries. You HAVE to know you are not alone. THOUSANDS of women go through this daily... In many cases, the women are actually brainwashed, to an extent, that they will never make it on their own by the abuser. According to your answers that should have been comments, "My parents don't want to believe that its true, they wont us to be a happy family, but I dont think that it will ever happen" and "I am scared of how my family will look at me, and that I wont be able to manage on my own :(", you are more worried about how your family will LOOK at you, than about your child or your own safety. I would be willing to bet they DO NOT want you to live in an abusive situation. Abusers can bamboozle family members into believing they are all "sweetness and light" when in fact they are not. If you could record just one session of your husband's abuse before you left, you would have the proof they apparently need. Call a local abused woman's shelter. You don't have to GO there, but just to talk to a couselor. Between what you know this will do to your son, and what they will tell you, I'm sure you will see you will be better off on your own. They can help you in many ways. (Yes... As in all charities and "help", there are "bad" ones. If you have problems with one, change to another.) But it's obviously time to get out. Call them. Good luck. ;-)

Sometimes life should teach you a lesson! Be and act responsible and don't piss off your parents or relatives. They will give you a hand in times when you most need it, but that should be your last resort. I see it's a matter of survival, if you go on your own! You could seek to find other women in similar situation. Together maybe you could move in together, hire a babysitter, while you go to work or school. Or even look after her kid and yours, while she is away, and then she could do the same thing for you. Be very careful who you trust, and do your best to stay out of debt.

you know i totally know what that feels like... its like you know what to do... but doing it is a whole nother story. you know you should just remember one thing... that little boy looks at you every morning noon and night.... fuck the dad!!! you are that little boy's world.... he trusts you no one else... follow your heart.

You did made a stupid decision in a hurry. Why don't you seek help from a government association for support

Neither u or ur child need to be in this environment. If he abuses u, evebtually he will do it to the baby. Nither 1 of u deserves that kind of treatment. Call a abuse hotline, or talk to a preacher in ur town. Good luck, Janet