I'm gay and in highschool. What's the best way to meet guys discreetly?

Its a tricky one. The problem with being gay is being in a minority- your chances of seeing someone you like who likes you back in the general population are pretty slim when compared with those of heterosexuals. The adult world has conquered this problem in part by the introduction of specific meeting places such as gay bars and clubs, where you can go and increase your chances of meeting someone who might be interested. Unfortunately whilst you're still in high school you're underage for most of these places (and most of the guys would be far older than you anyway). To a certain extent this means you have to play a waiting game- it may be that you end up waiting a bit longer than your heterosexual friends before finding people to date.
However, you should realise you are not alone, there is support out there that can help the experience of getting used to your sexuality a less lonely experience.
LAMBDA have a help and advice network for gay teens, and organise activities and volunteer events where you can meet people in the same boat, try this link:
http://www.lambda.org/youth.htm

If you're in the UK you can try the Gay and Lesbian Switchboard: www.queery.org.uk , which does pretty much the same kind of thing, and will help to link you up with other gay teens in your area.

Both these organisations will respect your privacy and confidentiality, and make sure that you can be discreet about any meetings.

I think this link would be good for you to look at too, just general advice and links to resources for gay teens:
http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/homosexuality/

Good luck!

Try gay bars and chatrooms, and then arrange a blind date or something.

For you and others in this dilemma, I would suggest that you start with guys on the football team and just walk up behind one of them and pinch him on the butt... ;~)

I would really love to interest you to the finer points of women and why this is a bad idea but I suppose this is a moot point. If you know what your orientation is, I suggest the strong approach. No one respects a coward. Hey, if gay was what you truly in your heart thought was the way to go, then there is no dissuading you. Just have some guts at least and be as man as you can and go for it. Do you follow me? either way you will always be a man straight or not, and others will only respect you more if you have the courage to back whatever actions you take. No one likes a wishy washy person.
Basically I'm saying do it or don't; stop dawdling.

This isn't an answer, but I'm just here sayin' I'm in highschool too man, and I'm havin' the same problems you are, it sucks...it really sucks, but just work your way through it, there's not really any way to goaround it discreetly, but do what you can

I did not even read the answers given so far. If you are in high school. You should not go looking to meet people discreetly. Wait until you are at the age of majority, when you meet the right person you will know it. If you go sneaking around to meet people, you put yourself at great risk. There are a lot of people out in the world that prey on young people to exploit them . Besides , would you really like to be in a relationship with a child molestor. Think about it.....one day you may come to have children , or you will know someone that has children. Whether you are consenting or not....it is still wrong and they know it. Would you like someone to approach your children or your friends children for sex?Just think about it. You will have plenty of time to meet people. Do not settle for what you can get for awhile now. Hold out for the one you really want to keep and introduce to your family.

Wow, there's some psychos that post on here...

Uh, be gay, and just be yourself. It works the same as heterosexual relationships - you just have to go for it. There may be gays right in your school that you don't even know about. You can find someone, you can have a great life and enjoy your relationships, just as much as straight people. I know from experience, I've enjoyed my relationships with guys way more than with girls. Don't listen to the people who tell you being gay is wrong - it's amazing and I highly suggest it.

Go up to a guy and ask him if he likes sword fighting.

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You mixed up young man. It clearly says in the bible that "Man shall lay with woman".
What you are contemplating doing is sexual impurity. Pray to God, in the Name of His Son Jesus Christ for guidance. He will set you on the right path for life. Jesus Loves you and is there for you..Just call on His name.

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You might be able to find groups for gay youths in your area. I don't really know how to go about searching for them, I just know that sometimes groups like that exist...maybe if you go to your school counselor (do all high schools have those?) they can point you in the right direction.

Also, try meetup.com! It's great for finding niche groups in your area.

You shouldn't it will take over your life my best friend is gay he's 22 now started seeing guys in his senior year sneaking around all that. He's now reconsidering being gay at all he wants a family he's been reconsidering it for years and lets forget all the stuff about being born that way so he's not a "true gay" He's a bottom. and anyways he's had more heartache and pain then he can bear it kills me

My advice boy in highschool is don't it causes unspeakable heartache and pain. I've cried with him through the years.

I know you don't believe me i know you think i'm a crazy person but i love my friend so much and my heart just bleeds open when i think about the sweet happy innocent boy he was in highschool and how i don't see his smile anymore.

And he's said numerous times the heartache comes from the boys obviously.

The cheating the lying the fighting I'm sure plenty of gay guys aren't like that. In fact they r the sweetest boys i know and believe me when your the best friend of a gay man you meet a lot.

I know my view will be seen as what is it ignorant, um religious bigot, uh disillusioned , rude ridiculous

and my favorite is intolerant and i mean obviously i don't go spouting these views of to my gay friends how rude. Just me and my guy friend talk about them and he would never tell another boyfriend or even friend just us two.

Don't give in to this type of wrongful lust. It will only lead to loneliness and despair. Flee sexual impurity!