ANSWERS: 11
  • He probably has been through things you can't yet imagine. To learn from him would help you if you could. To ignore him might lead to you having to learn the hard way that which has taken him so long, not all survive the learning process. Or you could just write him off as an ignorant loser and continue along your path, wherever that leads.
  • Personally i think the right to boss your children around has to be earned good luck!
  • Personally, I think your father decided at least 17 years ago that you were not his concern. Then he shows up and decides that it's his place to make decisions for you. He probably isn't even a friend yet, just a biolocical father. My father left when I was 2 and I didn't see him for around 20 years. If he'd showed up one day and decided to try to make my decisions for me he would simply be out of line. Do what YOU want to do with your life.
  • I assume you have a relationship with your mum, and that that seems normal and respectful to you. In contrast your family just got more complicated and less comfortable. Lots of families have the kind of relationships that are evident between you and your dad but among everyone else in the house. People in those circumstances just have to plough through the daily irritations and squabbles. The only positive I can give you is that if my first assumption is true, then let your mum know how much you value what you have had together.
  • My father was with me for 14 years before he killed himself, I think you should be happy you have a father to begin with. As far as him telling you what you can and can't do, if it bothers you that much try sitting down and talking with him about it rather then just rebelling against him.
  • i agree with shady. he has to earn your respect. he shouldnt just come into your life and expect to be the dad he should have started being 17 years ago. your mom should have a little chat with him.
  • I would remind him that you made it without him while he was gone. Don't let anyone control you including your father. The next time he does it I would either leave or tell him to move. You have rights don't let someone stomp on them.
  • id say " I know u are my father but i have had my mum to help and support me and tell me what to do for 23 years. You missed out on that. So its pointless you telling me what to do when ive got to a stage of independancy! "
  • I would ignore him..he ignored me for 17 years..what makes him think he has a right to tell me what to do? :(
  • No one told me what to do since I was around 13 or 14, so I would have a really hard time with it. I might, if he were civil about his demands :) be nice enough to tell him to leave me alone. If he were bothering me, I might not be so easy about it. I might make him want to fade off into the sunset
  • Tell him where to go.

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