ANSWERS: 18
  • What do you mean by "fooling around"? Do you mean "cheating"? I am sure that I would feel destroyed. Absolutely destroyed. Oh, and disgusted with myself and betrayed. I would probably feel hurt, dirty, disgusting, horrible, worthless, insecure, upset, frustrated, annoyed, and so on. I don't think I would feel good about myself at all. I would probably feel like a fool for letting myself be lead on like that. I hope you didn't go through this.
  • Oooo... Nasty... I think I'd feel dejected... surprised I hadn't noticed little signs I'm sure you're thinking of now... pissed off that he'd done that... sorry I believed he loved me as much as I thought he did... But buck up... There are other guys out there who would NEVER cheat on you. You DO have to give them a chance, though. Good luck. ;-)
  • Totally and utterly gutted. It would rock me to the core and cause me to question everything I believed about myself.
  • I agree I would feel utterly devastated, and betrayed beyond measure. Not only would I wonder how I could have ever trusted and believed in him but I would feel incompetent and wonder if I could ever trust myself in making wise choices in relationships ever again. I would also be very angry at him because I would feel he used. and made a fool out of me. After 11 years you can’t just stop loving someone over night but you can hate and love at the same time. You will probably never trust him again and if he was weak enough to cheat on you that many times or for that long , common sense says he doesn’t know that faithful means. You can bet a man like that will never find true love or happiness in the end. And a lot of the times they regret after it is too late. Just remember there is someone else out there who is loyal and will appreciate the devotion you have to offer. Give yourself time to heal first and don’t expect him to say I am sorry and it will be all better.
  • Is that what happened to you? Horrific. I would probably be physically sick for a long time.
  • Gutted and a right idiot for a while and then glad I was out of it.
  • you ended the relationship why, for cheating or your you not making tortillas, he could be just saying this to get even
  • Same thing happened to me, Colorado Kid, so I know what you're going through. I had to have help; it devastated me. I did finally get through it and can say that I have been happily married for over 30 years now to someone who treats me like a queen. You're in my thoughts and prayers. +pts.2.U.
  • :O like shit!! i am sorry if this happened to you. noone deserves that. i would also feel like i couldn't trust anyome
  • I would be frickin furious
  • I'm glad that you understand and you can sympathize with me! Thanks
  • I am humiliated because everyone thinks I'm a fool and a joke!
  • well I would be angry and would never talk to him ever again, NO chances ever.
  • Yes exactly right I have only spoken once since and it was about the kids.
  • I'd be really pissed at my wife for fooling around with him, but my odds of a better divorce settlment would go up, so I guess I'd have to say hopeful:)
  • 6 weeks ago I found out my partner had been playing the same game as your one - we have a beautiful child and shared businesses so I can't totally wash him out my life but am struggling to remain sane. He has moved out our home but continues his life in the same fashion as before and is now sniffing about my childs friends mothers - in fact any female will do and what is more soul destroying is the girls are falling for it. He shows no shame or remorse in what he does and I can't believe I gave him 14 years of my life. Now what? I feel tormented and hope to get to a place where he doesn't stir up these emotions. Will I ever? Move on, my friends tell me, is that possible when he occupies my heart space? I feel empty and sad mostly, angry, too, at both of us. The diamond in all this mire is our child though.
  • That's terrible. I wish I could help you feel better, but I know I would feel aboslutely terrible. The bright side is that this jerk is out of your life! Hopefully you will be able to move on quickly, though it will be tough. Good luck to you!

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