Why the hell are women so damn hard to please?

just tell him what you think.. truth is the best..

So, you don't want gifts, and you want to do all the cleaning up ? Hmmmmm, Poor bloke, hes never gonna get it right...but then do any of us ?

Watch out! Guys who act that perfect are not showing their true selves. Maybe that's why he's annoying you so much is you kinda know it. I had a guy act like that with me for the first 7 months. Then I moved in with him and everything changed. It all came to a halt and where once he treated me like a princess, the real him came out and it was bad. Not saying this is your guy but that's what happened to me. If it seems forced or fake that's because it is. And if it's real he won't hold your interest. You need a partner, an equal, not a servant.

I should elaborate. It is not that I don't like the help, but in moderation. I feel like I am always obligated to him. He text messages me all day long, a million and one different ways to say he loves me. I just want him to back off a bit. I explained this to him nicely, but he insists he's "just trying to help". I am a mother of two, and living with him. I feel like I'm in a catch 22. I should be grateful that I have a guy that understands that my time is valuable, but sometimes I just want to relax, and watching him clean is not relaxing either!!

And your question is? - To help, I use to be like that until my girlfriend talked to me. Have you ever thought about telling him how you feel? Be careful the way you word it, he might take it as you dont like it at all and stop everything. He just wants you to be happy, I would suggest telling him its not just about you but "us" that shows you care about him and still respect him and love the things he does.

He's probably doin that to please u. If u tell him u'd rather like something else, he might stop doin it.

My guess is you have not had a man do much for you, Besides him being so nice, is there any other problems?

I'm willing to bet that his behavior is due to a complete lack of confidence. But relationships are based on mutual respect and you can't respect someone who kisses your ass all the time. You might want to explain this to him. He sounds young and inexperienced with women. Hopefully he can come to understand that women need space and respect more than little gifts and an act. Confidence is the key to keeping a woman, not lavishing gifts on her.

sounds to me like you might stop and think about what a kind and generous man you have in your life....and maybe you should consider showing some appreciation for the way that he treats you.....i'm sorry to sound harsh but i've always heard that you should treat others in the same way you would want to be treated and it appears that he's doing a much better job than you, at the moment~

i know exaatly how you feel - ive got more or less the same situation? I made him move out because i couldnt stand it anymore - another thing, he never ever disagreed with me - its so boring, and comes across as non genuine? He comes around 'friend only' but hes still like my little lap dog and then i end up feeling guilty? when he does things for me or buys me things so beware.

My boyfriend is like that too! We have been together for six years and it gets really annoying. For all the people that say to appreciate him and that they would love someone to be that nice to them, they don't know what it is really like. It is frustrating and causes many fights between my bf and I. If I leave the room he follows me. If I go to the bathroom he knocks on the door asking what I am doing and if he can come in. If I go to bed he wants to go to bed. He lays/sits practically on top of me when we are watching t.v., I can't even sit by myself. It's like having the cat that doesn't leave you alone and wants to be with you all the time.He tells me that he is being nice and that everyone else sees it as that way also, and that I am the one who is being a jerk when I say I want my space and he won't give it to me. He is constantly asking where I am going even if it is just to the fridge to get a drink. It has gotten worse the longer we live together.I am going insane. I tell him to go out with his friends almost every night of the week just to get some relief. I don't know what to do anymore. So I know exactly how you're feeling. For the ones who attack you for saying you are not appreciating him don't know how bad it can be to have someone so completely devoted to you. There has to be a healthy medium between too much and not enough. Otherwise, one or both people are unhappy in the relationship. It's kind of a be careful what you wish for because you can get too much of a good thing!

We just can't please you girls, can we?

sounds like he's your slave boy. you might as well start treating him in such manner, make it fun. why not?

Wow, what a shame that a guy is treating you so nicely. Why don't you treat him the same way? YOu might actually enjoy a relationship where two people love and try and please each other.

We just can't win can we? A previous question was, do men know how to use a laundry basket?

You know, both sides are not easy. My girlfriend loved all the attention that I gave to her. Now after 3 years she doesn't want me to say "I love you" or "you're beautiful" all the time. I use to do this more and more because I was not getting her attention and feel that I didn't do enough for her. You're boyfriend might be thinking the same thing. What I have noticed is that she has told me to stop doing and saying so much and give her space. I've done that, but she still continues to push away and like you, nit-pick. It's confusing. All I can say is that if he stops smothering you little by little, please show him some appreciation/affection so he knows that you love him. I wish my girlfriend would do that.

In all honesty, I don't feel that this type of smothering is limited to just men...women do it as well. From my limited experience, I've been in both types...my last relationship my ex was very distant and we did little together. However we were also together for 12 years so things do tend to slow after time. Now, in a new dating relationship, I'm a definitely feeling a bit smothered. He is calling hours upon hours, getting upset if I don't answer, won't let me lift a finger to help, feeling as if he has allll the answers to my troubles, and shows up when I've got a gazillion things to run out and do (just to see me for 5 minutes). It makes it difficult when you have two daughters that need attention as well but yet he can't understand that. So...doing research I jumped in here LOL! There has got to be some sort of "line" there between the two. Everyone needs their own personal space at some point. It is only healthly to need your friends, family, etc...someone's entire world can not revolve around one person entirely. That in my humble opinion is unhealthly. So, I would agree with some of the posts that the best thing would be to discuss the issue with him. Be honest and upfront...but gentle (as someone had also mentioned). Communication is a large root in a relationship. If he is not told...he will never know. And again, I do not feel this is gender bias...it goes both ways.

I know exactly what you are saying. I had that experience quite a few times while dating. I wanted an equal partner, not a submissive. I don't have much respect for men who are overly "nurturing" (for want of a better term). They always seem too desperate.

i'm sure there are plenty of wife beaters you could have an affair with.

Maybe he wants to be more submissive. He may be asking for something here. Perhaps he wants to be humbled, and maybe you are just the chic to do it. See how far, in small increments, he will give up more control. Maybe he's afraid to ask for Domination. Or maybe he's just a nice guy.

he probably has another girl friend, and feels guilty around you.

Oh my god! I started dating the same type of guy. He does the following around thing too. He will watch me eat and mid-chew ask how it is, we will be watching tv and he will continually stare at me, and he will never make a decision. Everything he does every move he makes is dependent on my move or how i feel. He litterally has no personality and when I get annoyed with him and start to nit-pick he gets crazy angry and shows this side of him then I didnt even think was possible. He plays the girlfriend role often like talking in a soft voice to where i can barely hear him and he sounds like a big woman, tells me that if I dont come over at 2am then I dont care about him enough, and now after I have tried to talk to him about this now he wants a couple of days so he can get some space?!?! So far in my years of dating experience I have dated awful guys and when I finally find a nice one we fight more then Ive ever fought with anyone.

I am in the same situation. I want to be with him but he is smothering me with attention. I am trying to fix me now, thinking there is something wrong with me not appreciating him being so loving and caring for me. Well that is what he tells me. I am so confused. I want him but he is making me feel defensive.

Wow, I'm sorry you find him annoying. If you want to negotiate a trade you could just send him to me! JK In all seriousness, try to be appreciative. Lots of girls would die to have a guy who pays attention to them, buys them presents, and cleans. At least you don't have to worry about having a dirty house. Enjoy it!

He's mindblown and grateful that he's found someone and he's being extra nice because of it. Just tell him to be more selfish and an asshole. I know a guy that likes to make register-workers cry if you want him. All the girls I've ever gone out with seem to.