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My son is the same way! He's been like that since he was a baby ~ just very uncomfortable with physical contact in general unless it's on his terms. He's 14 now ~ for years I've asked his permission to give him a hug or kiss on the cheek or something. Sometimes he's fine with it, other times he says "Please, not right now." I respect that this is something that he's not comfortable with all the time, and since I've always stressed to my kids that their bodies are THEIRS and theirs alone, I don't think it's fair to push something on another person if they don't want it. This method has worked well between the two of us and I think it's helped him to be more confident of himself and his "space" - when to let others in and when to say no. Sorry if I rambled...hope you know what I'm trying to say.
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I am like that with my husband...I tell him to stop sometimes. He knows I didn't grow up in a "touchy feely" home so I hope he gets it. :)
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my bf is a little too huggy, and to get him to quit so much, I hugged up on him ALL THE TIME....he backed up eventually, kinda reverse psycology.....might not work though, and you gotta give bunches of hugs
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Do you have a clue as to the number of children that would trade places with you......in a heartbeat? Shame on you! Accept their love and be thankful you are not orphaned. You may not agree with their form of affection, but this is whats in their heart and you take it with open arms! they will not be around forever. Shame on you!
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I'm the same way. I'm just not crazy about people invading my personal space. Eventually I just flat out told them that I personally didn't like being smooshy and overly emotional.It took some time, but eventually my parents and siblings respected the fact that I am NOT a hugger. Even now as an adult my sister and mother are BIG huggers but they know it makes me uncomfortable and respect my need for distance.
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G'day Anonymous, Thank you for your question. I would say that you feel uncomfortable with it and see what happens. You might have to accept that is the way they are and be thankful for the blessing that they love you. Regards
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Yeah I can't stand my parents touching me either. I think it may be something that intensifies with puberty. I don't remember having any problems with it as a child, but around middle school, it REALLY irritated me and still does now that I'm almost 18. I would just let them know it bothers you that they do it so often, but remind them you do love them. Maybe ask them to try it keep it to special occasions, or maybe ask if it's okay before they move in for a hug or kiss. Just try to set up some reasonable boundaries.
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I think that it is possible for you to understand it from their point of view, how much touching you means to them and possibly let them do it and try to reciprocate. It means so much to them and you say you love them. I would just 'feel the love' and learn to enjoy it and accept it as their way of showing you love. It is very doable to learn to enjoy it. more than it is to not feel hurt or learn to get over it if someone tells you they would rather you didn't touch or kiss them so much.
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Trust me on this one !! The day will come that you're gonna wish you could hug and kiss them just one more time, but they won't be there .. So ... Enjoy it while you can ! You are very lucky to have parents who love and care about you ! There are many people in this world who would gladly trade places with you in a heartbeat!
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