Have you written someone out of your life forever? no do-overs

The last words I spoke to my mother were "Get off of me you stupid whore". She had one hand around my neck and was using the other to punch me repeatedly.

Safe to say I'm done with her.

Yes.
Not that I hate them either.
I just don't care to ever speak to them again.
I mentioned recently in a post about hate.
I don't hate em but they are off my Christmas card list permanently.

At age 53, not yet. Life is waay too short for grudges. Hatred and/or vengeance is a waste of valuable time & energy, imho.

Yes, my oldest brother. He was treating my mother really badly and I confronted him about it. My mother is very sick, my father has died. He screamed at me for interferring. We didn't talk for 5 years and then I rang him to try and reconnect my mother, myself and him. He would not talk to me. He asked me "Why the hell are you ringing?" End of conversation and end of brother.

No. We might not be as great friends or close family but, i always forgive. Never burn a bridge cause you never know when your going to need to cross it.

You betcha! I have an ex-boyfriend who I mistakenly stayed with for way too long - he constantly made me feel bad about myself and tried to control me. Long story short, I got my senses and self esteem back and gave him the boot. Gone....and gone forever as far as I'm concerned.

I have written most of my family out of my life because there's a limit to do-overs..Even for them there is.

Yes, my first step-dad.

Yes, absolutely.

Yes I have....sometimes it is the best thing to do!!

yep. plenty o people

yep a school friend i knew for 14yrs. tried to get back in contact but wont so im just getting on with on life!

Yes my old school friend of 20 yrs, she sort od disowned me because her boyfriend tried it on with me, but to add further insult she decided to start bring my mum into it, thats when i cut her off, we are civil to each other as we work in the same hospital, but now she seems to be obsessed with my every movement, asking others about me, but i will never go back, some things said cut too deeply :)

Yes, my dad's brother. Way to long of a story to type out here, but he's a horrible person and is abusive (physically, verbally, emotionally) to my grandparents, while taking advantage of them. I can honestly say that I hate him.

Not really...there are people I make no effort to contact, but if they contacted me or I ran into them I would probably talk to them. There was one I had decided to cut out completely, but God took care of it before I did...he died.

There are loads of "toxic" people out there. They are the ones who use and abuse others and feel no regret for doing so. Even though they may apologize and appear to be sincere. Most of the time they will continue the same pattern of abuse if we let them. Accordingly, it is the right thing to do.

I thought I had until I responded to this ;-P

Yes I have. My first boyfriend. He stole my money, told me I was ugly, would hit me for no reason, shove shotguns in my mouth when I tried to leave, put cigarettes out on my back, and held knives to my throat. The day I finally ran away from him, I ran as fast as someone could with a broken rib, a bloody face, 3 broken fingers, a sprained ankle, and a dislocated jaw....he thought I deserved it because I found out he cheated on me. Yeah....he's definately written off, but I can guarantee he thinks about me every day! Mark my words...I got the last laugh!

yes, the one guy four years ago who hurt me...i'll probably never even say hi to him again...of course i am on the other side of the country now, but even still, there's no do-overs with him ever again

The person who loved me most has written me out of her life forever....and unfortunaltely i gave her reasons to do that
But when i thinks abt her or abt the moments we were together it really hurts...and i wish she could forgive me just once

Not really written off. I have grown tired of the energy required to deal with difficult relationships and stopped communicating with them for awhile, or they stop dealing with me and we both just let it stay that way. No deliberate bridge burning. Unless one of us were to die there is always the possibility of reconnection.

not intentionally - but it turns out that it was for the best anyways

I don't think there's anyone in my life who I wouldn't give a "second chance" to.

I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

Yup, an old school friend i had known since i was 13. 19 yrs later I wa comming to terms that I think she just wanted me around for her convenience. She would only call when she was having issues with her husband, and I was getting sick and tired of it. He also pissed me off because I ws there for him when he tried to get back with her. This time around when the issue was her and I, I guess he forgot that I was there for him. I haven't spoken to her for a yr now, and Im fine with it, don't miss her at all. Sometimes friends are not meant to be forever but only there for a period of your life.

No their is nobody that made me that upset as yet

Yes. He was my best friend in high school.

Been there done that. Last words I ever said to my mom, "You're a f*&!$%@ C*(%#. She died last year and I had no regrets. I hadn't talked to her in about 25 years. I tend to hold a grudge:)

Yes my husbands whole family as soon as is possible . When his Mother died the rest of them died with her as far as I am concerned,
Only his Brothers ect not all his cousins they are really nice people .

Yes, only one person. It wasn't easy to do, but it was necessary for both of us.

No, but I wish I could...

yes i have, sure i see her and i smile and i have forgiven her. but i would NEVER bring her back into my life. same with my ex boyfriend a few years back. i would never bring him back in my life. i forgive them all though, i hate grudges.

Yes, a cousin, my only one on my mom's side but he is just a mess up that uses people, I did my best to help until i had enough...bye bye. Same with ex hubby, that one was hard but way better to let him go. It is odd but when someone makes up their mind that they have had enough then that's what can happen.

yep. Ex-best friend. Long story. Good riddance.

Yes. Most of my family. They are verbally abusive. Some people you just shouldn't be around.

yes my biological father. Plain and simple. He will never see me again, only in heaven if he's ever that good enough to get through the pearly gates..

Yes, I used to write off my exes like this. But recently I've found one of them & this certain person is one of my closest friends:)

No, even though there are people I would not want the same kind of relationship with them again, I wouldn't turn them away if they were in need of a friend. Life is to short for such unkindness.

Yes, but I think becareful thats its coming from the right place, if you're doing it out of arrogance then becareful because it could back fire, which is something that is happening to me. If this person made you doubt yourself or feel bad about yourself you cause you harm then fair enough.

Yes, an ex-girlfriend who ended our relationship by ripping my heart out and putting it through a meat grinder.

my sister.
shes is a cold hearted selfish bitch. i havent seen/spoken to her in a year and a half

yes. an ex bestfriend, she was crazy.

i have done it all the time to everyone one of my ex's. When someone hurts me bad i just write them off. It hurts real bad but im the type of guy to take things to heart. I just write em off.

Yes. A nanny I had as a kid from Japan attacked me verbally in such a way that I was terrified to talk to her again. I haven't spoken to her for 6 years.

No, because I consider my own role in such situations which would bring about so much vehemence.

I've done many things to people that might have made it seem otherwise, but in whatever constitutes as my frozen darkened metal chica heart I forgive them, or if I don't, I just can't be bothered to hate. I reserve that for things that give me an anti social reputation instead. XD I'm not racist, I hate everyone equally. :)

But if I really forgive them, wouldn't I tell them? That's not really a pardon then, is it? Or maybe I'm waiting or wanting to be forgiven by them, too. Hatred is like love, it doesn't work one way, but what do I know, ha ha.

Sometimes I think about it a lot and maybe it's just me but, sometimes things get so complicated and confusing that I just can't attribute something as seemingly simple as hatred to it. Unless that means I don't know what hatred is, might as well consider myself lucky and free until it does.

...within an illusory self-identity, "writing off" seems possible...

...in reality, it is impossible...

...you might consider that relationships only appear to change forms in illusions, in reality their continuity remains unhindered by illusory assignments/designations of their quality...

luckily no, i have never completly taken ANYONE out of my life completly, ive hated them for a while and not spoken to them but eventualy in the end i stay with a little link with that person in cause 1 day i need them or they need me

yes ive lost count how many times i have done this but i always give people a few chances,once the abuse that trust thats it for me forever!

Yes. There are a couple of people who are as good as dead to me.

I don't necessarily think that this is a healthy "solution" to an ongoing conflict or drama, though. That said, sometimes completely cutting someone off is the only answer or way that both parties will ever move on.

Many times over. Got rid of every friend I've ever had like 8 years ago or so. Never looked back, and never been better. Some may need friends, I don't.

Yes :)