No, but I wish I could...

Yes, only one person. It wasn't easy to do, but it was necessary for both of us.

Yes my husbands whole family as soon as is possible . When his Mother died the rest of them died with her as far as I am concerned, Only his Brothers ect not all his cousins they are really nice people .

Yes :)

Been there done that. Last words I ever said to my mom, "You're a f*&!$%@ C*(%#. She died last year and I had no regrets. I hadn't talked to her in about 25 years. I tend to hold a grudge:)

Yes, my oldest brother. He was treating my mother really badly and I confronted him about it. My mother is very sick, my father has died. He screamed at me for interferring. We didn't talk for 5 years and then I rang him to try and reconnect my mother, myself and him. He would not talk to me. He asked me "Why the hell are you ringing?" End of conversation and end of brother.

The last words I spoke to my mother were "Get off of me you stupid whore". She had one hand around my neck and was using the other to punch me repeatedly. Safe to say I'm done with her.

Yes. He was my best friend in high school.

Yes, my first step-dad.

I thought I had until I responded to this ;-P

There are loads of "toxic" people out there. They are the ones who use and abuse others and feel no regret for doing so. Even though they may apologize and appear to be sincere. Most of the time they will continue the same pattern of abuse if we let them. Accordingly, it is the right thing to do.

Not really...there are people I make no effort to contact, but if they contacted me or I ran into them I would probably talk to them. There was one I had decided to cut out completely, but God took care of it before I did...he died.

Yes, my dad's brother. Way to long of a story to type out here, but he's a horrible person and is abusive (physically, verbally, emotionally) to my grandparents, while taking advantage of them. I can honestly say that I hate him.

No their is nobody that made me that upset as yet

Yes. Not that I hate them either. I just don't care to ever speak to them again. I mentioned recently in a post about hate. I don't hate em but they are off my Christmas card list permanently.

I have written most of my family out of my life because there's a limit to do-overs..Even for them there is.

Yes my old school friend of 20 yrs, she sort od disowned me because her boyfriend tried it on with me, but to add further insult she decided to start bring my mum into it, thats when i cut her off, we are civil to each other as we work in the same hospital, but now she seems to be obsessed with my every movement, asking others about me, but i will never go back, some things said cut too deeply :)

Many times over. Got rid of every friend I've ever had like 8 years ago or so. Never looked back, and never been better. Some may need friends, I don't.

yep a school friend i knew for 14yrs. tried to get back in contact but wont so im just getting on with on life!

Yup, an old school friend i had known since i was 13. 19 yrs later I wa comming to terms that I think she just wanted me around for her convenience. She would only call when she was having issues with her husband, and I was getting sick and tired of it. He also pissed me off because I ws there for him when he tried to get back with her. This time around when the issue was her and I, I guess he forgot that I was there for him. I haven't spoken to her for a yr now, and Im fine with it, don't miss her at all. Sometimes friends are not meant to be forever but only there for a period of your life.

You betcha! I have an ex-boyfriend who I mistakenly stayed with for way too long - he constantly made me feel bad about myself and tried to control me. Long story short, I got my senses and self esteem back and gave him the boot. Gone....and gone forever as far as I'm concerned.

Yes. There are a couple of people who are as good as dead to me. I don't necessarily think that this is a healthy "solution" to an ongoing conflict or drama, though. That said, sometimes completely cutting someone off is the only answer or way that both parties will ever move on.

yes ive lost count how many times i have done this but i always give people a few chances,once the abuse that trust thats it for me forever!

I don't think there's anyone in my life who I wouldn't give a "second chance" to. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

No. We might not be as great friends or close family but, i always forgive. Never burn a bridge cause you never know when your going to need to cross it.

yep. plenty o people

Yes I have....sometimes it is the best thing to do!!

Yes, absolutely.

At age 53, not yet. Life is waay too short for grudges. Hatred and/or vengeance is a waste of valuable time & energy, imho.

not intentionally - but it turns out that it was for the best anyways

luckily no, i have never completly taken ANYONE out of my life completly, ive hated them for a while and not spoken to them but eventualy in the end i stay with a little link with that person in cause 1 day i need them or they need me

...within an illusory self-identity, "writing off" seems possible... ...in reality, it is impossible... ...you might consider that relationships only appear to change forms in illusions, in reality their continuity remains unhindered by illusory assignments/designations of their quality...

Not really written off. I have grown tired of the energy required to deal with difficult relationships and stopped communicating with them for awhile, or they stop dealing with me and we both just let it stay that way. No deliberate bridge burning. Unless one of us were to die there is always the possibility of reconnection.

The person who loved me most has written me out of her life forever....and unfortunaltely i gave her reasons to do that But when i thinks abt her or abt the moments we were together it really hurts...and i wish she could forgive me just once

No, because I consider my own role in such situations which would bring about so much vehemence. I've done many things to people that might have made it seem otherwise, but in whatever constitutes as my frozen darkened metal chica heart I forgive them, or if I don't, I just can't be bothered to hate. I reserve that for things that give me an anti social reputation instead. XD I'm not racist, I hate everyone equally. :) But if I really forgive them, wouldn't I tell them? That's not really a pardon then, is it? Or maybe I'm waiting or wanting to be forgiven by them, too. Hatred is like love, it doesn't work one way, but what do I know, ha ha. Sometimes I think about it a lot and maybe it's just me but, sometimes things get so complicated and confusing that I just can't attribute something as seemingly simple as hatred to it. Unless that means I don't know what hatred is, might as well consider myself lucky and free until it does.

Yes. A nanny I had as a kid from Japan attacked me verbally in such a way that I was terrified to talk to her again. I haven't spoken to her for 6 years.

i have done it all the time to everyone one of my ex's. When someone hurts me bad i just write them off. It hurts real bad but im the type of guy to take things to heart. I just write em off.

yes. an ex bestfriend, she was crazy.

my sister. shes is a cold hearted selfish bitch. i havent seen/spoken to her in a year and a half

Yes, an ex-girlfriend who ended our relationship by ripping my heart out and putting it through a meat grinder.

Yes, but I think becareful thats its coming from the right place, if you're doing it out of arrogance then becareful because it could back fire, which is something that is happening to me. If this person made you doubt yourself or feel bad about yourself you cause you harm then fair enough.

No, even though there are people I would not want the same kind of relationship with them again, I wouldn't turn them away if they were in need of a friend. Life is to short for such unkindness.

Yes, I used to write off my exes like this. But recently I've found one of them & this certain person is one of my closest friends:)

ACTUALLY THIS EXACT QUESTION IS WHAT IM ASKING MYSELF RIGHT NOW. THE SITUATION IVE BEEN GOING THROUGH IS AN VERY TOUGH SITUATION. IM THE TYPE OF PERSON WHO BELIVES IN GIVING CHANCE AFTER CHANCE SIMPLY BECAUSE I KNOW DURING MY LIFE SO FAR, IVE MADE SOME MISTAKES OVER AND OVER AND YET SOMETIMES I GET IT RIGHT AND SOMETIMES A DONT BUT WHEN I DONT I ALWAYS WANT "ONE MORE CHANCE" NO MATTER WHAT THE SITUATION IS DEALING WITH, AND IF I GET IT RIGHT THEN IM ALWAYS THANKFUL FOR ANOTHER CHANCE. NOW THE THING IS THIS SOMEONE HAS HURT ME SEVERAL TIMES AND I WANT TO SAY NO MORE CHANCES BUT YET I KEEP ASKING MYSELF SHOULD I OR SHOULD I JUST SAY NO! I BELIVE ANYONE CAN CHANGE NO MATTER WHAT IT WILL ALWAYS TAKE TIME, MAYBE A LOT OF TIME. SO WHEN IS ENOUGH ENOUGH BUT WHEN YOU ASK THIS QUESTION, ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOU WOULD WANT IF YOUR WERE THE ONE WANTING ANOTHER CHANCE FOR WHATEVER SITUATION IT IS AND THEN YOULL HAVE TO MAKE IT EVEN HARDER TO ANSWER.

yes..and i get alot of unwanted opinions about it too

No... Others seem to have written ME out, though - See http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2665954

yes my biological father. Plain and simple. He will never see me again, only in heaven if he's ever that good enough to get through the pearly gates..

yes, the one guy four years ago who hurt me...i'll probably never even say hi to him again...of course i am on the other side of the country now, but even still, there's no do-overs with him ever again

Yes. Most of my family. They are verbally abusive. Some people you just shouldn't be around.

yep. Ex-best friend. Long story. Good riddance.

yes my ex.

My ex. He became abusive and ended up choking me. I pressed charges and got a protection order and will lock his ass up again if he comes near me or calls again.

Yes, a cousin, my only one on my mom's side but he is just a mess up that uses people, I did my best to help until i had enough...bye bye. Same with ex hubby, that one was hard but way better to let him go. It is odd but when someone makes up their mind that they have had enough then that's what can happen.

Yes i had this girl who was my friend but then she started treating me bad and without respect so that was the end of our friendship

yes i have, sure i see her and i smile and i have forgiven her. but i would NEVER bring her back into my life. same with my ex boyfriend a few years back. i would never bring him back in my life. i forgive them all though, i hate grudges.

Yes I have. My first boyfriend. He stole my money, told me I was ugly, would hit me for no reason, shove shotguns in my mouth when I tried to leave, put cigarettes out on my back, and held knives to my throat. The day I finally ran away from him, I ran as fast as someone could with a broken rib, a bloody face, 3 broken fingers, a sprained ankle, and a dislocated jaw....he thought I deserved it because I found out he cheated on me. Yeah....he's definately written off, but I can guarantee he thinks about me every day! Mark my words...I got the last laugh!

Yes I have. And once, I tried not to, only to have that one really bite me back! Never again.

My heart really goes out to those who have had to do this with family members. I am so lucky to have grown up in a loving family, and married into one. I did have to give up a dear friend who had a nervous breakdown following a breakup. I simply did not have the energy or qualifications to deal with her problems. I gave her the contact information for my own psychologist, in hopes she could benefit (as I did) from the professional help. Since I had to move away shortly afterwards, our friendship was never renewed.

I have with random people but when it comes to close family it gets a little trickier cuz they´re always around but I guess it can be done if you find the balls to cast them out of your circle permanently with no regrets

actually yes. recently at that. my father- chose to be engaged to a woman who told him straight up she does not like me. and also the last time i went to visit him, he hit me across the neck with a belt ((he says this was an accident)) and left a bruise on my wrist also. when only 2 months b4 he had kicked me out of the house for "getting smart" and also kicked my 17 yr old brother out. and from what i hear around town hes drinking again. but..ive finally decided ive had enough. im over it.

yea a guy I had known since High school and had been friends with for 30 years. his addiction to speed and alcohol finally got to be to much

the last thing i ever said to him was "get out of my life you bastard." i never wanted tok see him again but i still think of him a lot. is that bad?

Yes just recently. I lived for almost 18 years with my lover who suffers from mental health issues. He ran away for the 5th time and second suicide attempt. It was effecting my physical health so much that this time I was advised by my family doctor not to help him anymore or to take any calls from him. I find this difficult but necessary

Maybe Maybe not. I have actually and it was pretty bad but they will get over it in the future! Man was she stupid and Not ATRACTIVE!

Yes, my ex- husband who is verbally and physically abusive and esp. bad when drinking. I got a protection order that he repeatedly violated and went to jail twice, one time for 6 months. Our divorce was final in 2004 but he still comes around to where I live and has vandalized my mailbox, flattened my tires and keyed my car. Both my children have nothing to do with him. I don't ever want to see him again and don't regret it one bit.

I would never think of doing this to anyone, unless they did something HORRIBLE.

my mother.

There are people in my life I could no longer have a relationship with. IT would take the 5 R's for me to consider forgiveness. They must be remoseful, take responsibilty, repent and state what they did, repair the relationship, and not repeat it. I haven't heard anything like that and I'm not waiting. By the way, I do just that when I have wronged someone, knowingly or unknowingly.

Yes. My step-grandmother. She is a controlling b*tch and I wish my grndfather would divorce her!

no. That would take courage. I think I would keep forgiving them unless they were really abuseive.

Yes, several. I've had to let go of being nice to others and be nice to myself in order to get where I am in life - their personalities were just too destructive. I wasn't going down in flames with them.

Yes.

I have, which is sometimes a good thing.... there are people that are worth loving and keeping and others that are worth nothing...

One of my exes who led me to believe that the baby she was carrying was mine, but a DNA test proved otherwise after she was born. Broke my heart in a million pieces. I got past it in time, but it changed me forever, especially my trust issues with women. Deep down I have forgiven her, but if I never see her again, oh well.

Yes, six people so far. They all abused the fact i'm easygoing.They kept pushing me until finally i couldn't stand them. None of them ever asked for a do over so I don't know if I would forgive them. it has never come up.

Yes,many!!!!!!!!!!more than all those !!!!!!!

..wasn't my choice....he said "have a nice life" which is eff off in a nice way... ..I am still smolderin for him and and can't shake it....need to find some serious distractions...

I write off ex girlfriends who decided it was cool to cheat on me...no need to ever talk to them again

Yes. A grand total of 3 I believe. 1 - an abusive ex-fiance 2 - a former friend who just went to far when insulting me 3 - an ex who lead me on for a month, got me pregnant during said month, and dumped me. [Halluah at the miscarriage too.] So...I can and will, but you have to go pretty far for me to consider it.

Yes,definitely,more than one even.

Yes. There are people that are nasty, hateful, hurtful, spiteful, mean spirited, and no matter how much you'd like them not to be, or how much you "tolerate" them, they will not change. Let them go. I had a good friend who was like a sister to me. After I married, she drifted away and when I'd call her, she'd talk to me, but was distant. She heard that my mother had died and didn't ever call to say anything nor send a card. I was invited by her sister to her baby shower. I politely declined. I felt we were no longer friends. I don't wish her any ill will, but when you don't act like a friend, then you're not. Why pretend? As far as family, i have a good one, but I have one aunt who is a liar and manipulator. I've written her off. I also think that some relationships end naturally. they just aren't intended to be for a lifetime.

Yup. I was falling for her. She was seemingly falling for me. She did alot for me and I did alot for her. We weren't together yet and she took all these picture of herself and personalized the pictures for me. One time I was kidding about sending me a pic of her being sexy and only in a towel.. and she said maybe tomorrow cuz she didn't feel sexy enough. She ended up playing me and playing some other guys. I wrote her out of my life for good. She always thought I was a player when she was the real player. She became what she hated most. It was an accumulated stuff in relation to this kind of stuff which resulted in me taking her out of my life forever.

yes I have! I dated a girl her name was shalyn Witcher.. we dated for 4 years.. I was lied too cheated on and I looked forward to haven my ass beat everyday over something stupid... granted that I could easly takin her but you know when you love someone you want hit them no matter what!! when I finally walked out of her life she followed me and stocked me i've been in a relationship with taylor.. now for 8 months shay still drives by my house everyday and calls my phone every tuesday night at 9. I've had my number changed and she still gets it. I know with my faith in god I will never put myself to a low as low as her.. I will never take her back and that is a promise I made my self my parents and god!

yes in the process now, hopefully it sticks this time. the worst part is it never sticks and I think of him often.

Yes there are a couple of those.

yea my last bf is and i have not spoke to each other in 7 years. our relationship was not that perfect, i just dont see myself getting back together not in this life time.

yes, I did, many times. I believe it is essential to have the strenght to let go of what is no longer good for us and never look back regardless of how painful it may be.

Yes I have. A lot of people actually. It's not necessarily because I hate them, it's just that, as you get to know people you might realize that someo f the values or common interests you thought you shared are not really there or they were just faking them or trying to use you in some way. I don't like that at all, so off with them and I move on with my life.

ive tried but they always come back

I have written my mother out of my life permanently. I dont think you should do this everytime. It is just a last chance scenario. My mother is an alcoholic that is also a compulsive liar. The part that makes it worse then anything is that she is a millionaire. She thinks that money is the root to everything and will do anything to anybody to get what she wants. It really sucks because she uses her money to do it. My father died from cancer a year ago and she divorced while he was sick and married another man. This other man has money and enjoys my mother in her drunken stooper so he has no intentions of getting her help. Because my father was so sick he wasnt very cautious in the divorce and gave my mom almost everything. Then after he died she took the new will and "lost it." She then took the old will and said that was the only one they ever made. She got all the money and posessions. Leaving my husband and I and two sons with nothing. I have learned that money is not going to make you happy and I could honestly care less. But she took things that were memories of my father that my father and I made together. She is an awful person and as much as she hurt me I know I will get over it. I dont want my children to experience that first hand. I am done with her!

Yes, a number of people.

My brothers ex wife and an aunt and uncle.

I have, and it's my whole family more so my mom. Yes it's very hurtful but they all blame me for when i was a little girl for my dad touching me. Were older now dad's gone, my mom is just very hateful she treats the others with love except me, I never got a I love you or kisses..... They all hang out together and can care less about me,And I'm the one with the good heart!!! If people are going to hurt you, it doesnt matter who they are cut them from your life...