well it goes to court. if the court finds that you are a good father and you can financially afford to support you and the child then most courts will award you the child. they will dig DEEP though so be aware and have all your info ready.

Are you serious? You mean you haven't thought of going to an attorney?

It is unclear which country this has taken place, but in the US, unless your parental rights have been terminated by the court, you as a natural parent have constitutionally protected custodial rights superior to any other relative. So, you need to inform your wife's grandmother of that (better to do it in writing) and tell her that you would like for kid to live with you. If she does not comply, you need to go to court and ask clerk/registry/prothonotary what should you file to get a court order directing granma to turn the kid over. If she does not comply with that, you go to the police, show them the order, and tell them you want to enforce it. I hope it won't come to this because all of you - father and grandparent - should put the kid's best interest first and then decide your differences preferably without his involvement.

A child can be willed to someone other than the ex-husband. I've seen many such cases, in the last 20 years, including cases where they were willed to boyfriends, not the dad. In states like Kansas, which still has a version of the Tender Years Doctrine, she could have taken the child even if you and the mother were still together. Or is that the case here? I note you don't say ex-wife. If this is the case, and your state doesn't have this law, than you should be able to claim the child from her. Take the police as peace keepers. If you're stuck filing for a custody challenge, this will help. ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ I’ve been a Father’s Rights Advocate for 20 years. Many think the courts are rigged against dads, but in reality, it is more about attorneys unwilling or lacking the knowledge to truly fight for the father's rights. This is why it is important to learn how to interview and hire the right attorney. It is also important to do as much as possible on your own and not pay the attorney to do it. Part of the problem with getting your rights knowing what to do to prove your case, and how to remind the judge of their responsibilities. Let me start with the judge. Always take people with you to court who are not there to testify. Make sure they are sitting where the judge can see them, each equipped with a tablet and pen to take notes. It’s best to use a Court Watch Form designed for this purpose. I have one in the manual at Dads House. If the judge is not doing his job, using the info from this form, you can, appeal, and/or get the judge sanctioned and removed from the case. You file a complaint with the State Supreme Court at your state capital. Start keeping a daily journal of all your activities. The most common way to prevent a father from getting his rights through the courts is a false allegation, usually sexual. Over 60% of divorcing father are accused of child sexual abuse, of which only 4% are found to have any relevance, but there are no penalties for doing so. A daily journal is your number one piece of evidence in court and you can even refer to it while on the stand. Gather evidence. Check the site below to see if it is illegal to record conversations without the other person knowing. If your state does not have a law either way, than it defaults to the federal ruling which says one person in a conversation must know they are being recorded. You’re that one person. In Missouri it is specifically legal, in Kansas there is no mention either way. If you live in two different states, and one has a law against it, than it applies when the call originates from within that state, Now, you can't just record, you also have to transcribe it into the daily journal. If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. Upon joining, you will receive a link for downloading a 200 page educational manual that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do. Bird Nest Custody http://groups.yahoo.com/group/GiveKidsAChoice/ Can We Tape http://www.rcfp.org/taping/ Dads House http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DadsHouse/ Fathers & Families http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/ THE FATHERLESS GENERATION http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZmMffsIl9M Fathers Rights: The Movie http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=27395259 Parental Alienation Syndrome http://www.parentalalienation.org/

Wow! Whats wrong with the great grandma? How old is she?