I caught my husband masterbating today. He doesn't know that I even saw it. He was in the bathroom and I opened the door because I really had to pee and he was sitting there on the toilet pounding away. I quickly shut the door and went upstairs.Help?

I doubt there is anything to be concerned about...it's pretty normal behavior. Why are you concerned, if this really bothers you so much then talk with him about it.

Help for what? It's normal behavior.

You should have offered to help him.

Well, statistically men nock-one-out 2.5 times a week...... not quite sure how the .5 works, maybe that’s when their partners walk in & disturb things hehehe. Don’t worry about it, can you honestly say you've never taken-care-of-business at any point in your life?

Hey,

I heard my partner masturbating in the bathroom once and I must admit it made me feel a little strange. This was the first time I had heard him and it made me wonder how many times he had engaged in this previously with me around and whether it has something to do with me not fulfilling his needs...I have not yet confronted him about this because part of me feels I have nothing to worry about and also because I feel it might be a little embarrassing to talk about this with him since he has no idea that I know and has told me in the past on several occasions that he 'never masturbates'!

Any ideas on how or even whether I should tackle this?

Linder Sarah

you can ask him to do it with you if you want you have to understand we have been doing so long trying to get rid of the horny feeling that brings on gilt and for some shame I amguessing you dont want sex everyday and with a young one you would not find time for me I can be done in 10 15 min with my wife touching me or somtimes just watching. oh by the way often she will take a shower I tell me not to get cought by her thats fun for me less then 5 min. bottom line with 2 kids we still have alot of fun with it.:)

i have caught my husband several times. he denies it and says he was just scratching. i told him it makes me feel like he doesn't want me. we have sex 2 times a week usually. he masterbates in the morning. he gets defensive and turns it around as if i am just searching for a fight. i just wish he would respect me enough to not do it where i can walk in on him and be made to feel like i am not enough. he told me our sex life is great and he doesn't require much sex. if he doesn't require it, then why must he masterbate?????

I don't think it's anything to be worried about but if you are, confront him, tell him you saw him do it and ask him whether it's anything you should be worried about. Get that out of the way if anything.

Ladies this is really not an issue. Some guys will admit it, some will not. I have chosen the latter with my wife of 20 plus years.However I did not admit it right away nor was I ever caught or asked about it. I was pretty good at concealing it. I slowly brought the subject to light with her. She was ok with it but by no means did she ever ask me to do it for her, as she has a very low sex drive and does not ask for any specific sexual activity when we are in the heat of the moment.She also did not say she was offened or insecure about it. I do it pretty regularly but honestly 90% of the time she is part of the fantasy/thoughts I am having. For each relationship I suspect it is different though. We have sexual activity between us on average 2 to 3 times a month. This is soley due to her low drive. If it were up to me it would be 2 to 3 times a week at minimum. I have never had an affair nor desire to. I still love her very much and I am fully aware there is more to a relationship then sex.There is something completely different about masterbating alone then sexual interaction with another person. When you are alone, the entire experiance goes EXACTLY the way you like it and flows very smoothly. With another person they may stop,have to adjust or have a different rythm then is arousing to you. This can slow down or restrain the climax experiance. Again this is only my opinion and does not represent all men.

You should have went in and rubbed his balls while he was stroking it and let him cum all over you tits!!

I have caught my FIANCEE several times masterbating. He does it in the bathroom on the toilet, shower, or in the bedroom. I have asked him several times and he says he denies it everytime. I have a webcam and set it up one day when i was at work. I checked it when i got home and noticed that he did on the bed!!! I finally confronted him and he said that when i'm not around he does it, and never when im home because I'm here. WELL, i have heard him in the bathroom, looked underneath the door and watched him, hand movement up and down and slow and fast. He knows i have NO visual proof so when i do bring it up, he denies everything and says i'm looking to pick a fight with him.. always turning it around on me!!! It is constantley on my mind when he is alone in the bedroom with door shut or in the bathroom taking a dump and shower. He takes like half hour or a little longer and everytime he does masterbate. We have been together for 2 years now and we had the best sex at the beginning. Now i'm lucky if iget it 2's a week when i use to get 3 x's a day. I am a very sexual person and always the aggressive one NOW and i don't know what to do anymore. I want him to be honest with me instead of lying, and not sure why he is. I told him i didn't care but i just don't wanna be lied to and no WHITE LIES either...(what she don't know won't hurt her)... that's the same thing as lying. Someone please please please help me. How to talk to him maybe, or give me some answers so i can stop stressing and spying everyday on him!!!!! PLEASE HELP

Well, I have to say that you are in no way alone.. I have talked to my boyfriend many time and he denies it everytime.. However, I do know that porn is part of his daily richual and as much as it bothers me I try to just roll with it.. After talking about it many time over the last year or so, I have decided to view it with him and help him with his release so that I am part of it. He says his pron is only research due to some of his insecurities, which I know better, However, I still feel like my insecurites about it are mine and his are is, and it appears that we find differnt ways to handle them... Talk about it with him and don't take it personal as I have in the past, cause being unhappy in your relationship because of something like that only puts strain on things and I am sure if you don't talk to him about it, he won't even know why things are strained.

Don't worry about it, I don't think its about it, some men just want to get off and do it quick. Getting involved in sex when time is limited takes longer then a 5-10 minute hand work out for them. Try to see it that way.

good luck

The answer is that he is addicted to pornography. But that is common knowledge. Most men are. You see its starts with mild lust. Some have adopted the saying "you can look but don't touch", even women have come to accept this. You need to read your bible to find the answer. When a man masterbates he is fantasising about a sexual encounter. A statistic once said "that its common for people to fantasise about another during intercourse". That has become acceptable. People have got so used to eating out of the dumptster that there standard isn't challenged to shoot higher. The bible says that winthin marriage sex should not be withheld. God knew it needed a release. Women will often use sex as a tool to discipline their husband. You need to read the bible to find answers to lifes problems. Many look to the world for answers.

Look to the author of sex for answers. God.