I just found out that I'm bisexual. I'm scared to tell my family because they wouldn't understand. I don't want them treating me differently. What do I do?
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The worst thing you can do is tell your parents point blankly, so I recommend you don't at the moment. People are quick to judge and jump to conclusions. I recommend you seek counciling from a professional like a counselor from planned parenthood or from school who can articulate and explain that these feelings you are having are quite natural and that you are still their daughter. Your probably young and in an age of discovery at the moment and thats normal. It helps if you have an adult that could translate to your parents the psychology of the situation. Coming out of the closet is'nt easy, but the fact remains that your their daughter, and I am sure they will love you no matter what you decide to be.
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Don't be so sure that your family won't understand/won't accept you. A friend of mine has known for a long time that she was a lesbian, but couldn't tell her family because of their, strict, conservative beliefs; her family is the type to completely condemn homosexuals. However, a month or two ago she finally came out to her mother. The mother was a little shocked, but it doesn't seem as though she is any less accepting of her daughter. The point of this being, unless you are completely sure that your family will be upset by your announcement, I don't think you should worry yourself over it completely, though that's just my unworthy opinion.
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You don't really need to do anything, do you? Nothing says you must inform your friends and family when you figure out you're bi, gay, straight, or totally confused. If you don't feel comfortable telling them, don't. Waiting until you're ready is fine. Look - you just "found out" yourself. Maybe you're not entirely comfortable with the idea. If you have issues with being bisexual, you wouldn't be the first. You won't be the last. It's a very personal thing, you know? Give yourself time to get used to it. You'll receive a more positive reaction from people, when you can convey a sense of matter-of-fact confidence. A "This is who I am. I've known for a while and I'm happy with myself. It's no big deal" attitude. A word of caution, here - don't confuse coming out to your family with a third-party counseling session. If you need to talk to someone, let it be someone trained and objective, like the counselors Sunblynd suggested. I'm not suggesting you shut your family out, but when you need to sort things out, people who are already emotionally invested, can't always give you sound advice. Good luck!!!!
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