Outside of my control.

I think we create a lot of our own problems which we do have the ability to fix. We also are effected by situations that are out of our control and all we can do about these problems is to live with them.

Definitely both! I have made bad choices at times, but the things that happened beyond my control were the most devastating, as they involved the deaths of two people I loved.

when you are very young 'problems' are largely beyond your control...how you perceive things as problems or not is largely beyond your control because you are ignorant...as you grow older hopefully you will acquire skills to better manage your 'problems' and how outside influences affect your life, ultimately, you should be responsible and accountable for all your own 'problems'...ideally after a certain age we are mature enough to realize these things...how we perceive things as problems is entirely up to us, our response to these perceptions is entirely up to us...it is a very, very, bad thing to blame the rest of the world or other people for our troubles, it keeps us from taking control of our lives

I blame half my problems on me and the other have divided up between my mom, aunt, ex, her sister, her mother and her father. Revenge is so sweet, but I don't have it in me to do such a thing. When Karma comes back their way, I will only shed a tear for my mom and no one else.

Outside of my control. I think. Happy Thursday, Rosie :)

I accept responsibility for the majority of my problems. Actually, I accept responsibility for ALL of them. Nothing is entirely out of my control - it just seems that way when it all snowballs. I can change my life by fixing the little things one-at-a-time, no matter how overwhelming it might feel.

Largely of my own making... but a lot of that also has to do with my brain chemistry. Fighting a constant battle with yourself over what seems 'right' and what you think is a good decision for yourself is exhausting. There are things that happen which a person can have no control over - however how huge of a problem it actually is and bouncing back from it is under that person's control. Many people underestimate how big of an effect they have on their immediate world.

Who the heck knows? As long as I can afford cigarettes and get laid once a month...once every 2 months...ok TWICE A YEAR ALRIGHT?!...I ain't complainin...

Divorce - Outside my control - ex-wife "fell out of love" with me. :-( - But still says she has to go through 15-30 minutes of why being married to me was GOOD, before she gets to ANYTHING bad (nothing REALLY bad, though...) Foot Problems - Diabetic - My own making (I'm heavy and used to LOVE sweet stuff) Job - Position was eliminated - NOT my own making (I did everything they asked, questioned when it didn't make sense, and believed them when they said no one was going to be terminated when the new company bought out the old one) Knee problem - Fell - ??? (I guess since I fell and am heavy that would be MY problem, huh? :-) Length of time to get van modified so I can drive it using hand-controls and get a lift for my scooter - NOT MY problem (partially bureocracy(sp?), partially the "rules" Voc Rehab HAS to follow, partially my VR counsellor was "socked" with clients, partially... ) STILL trying to find a job to replace SS Disability - after 5 years (-1 for rehab of knee) - BOTH - I could probably look harder, but THEY don't acknowlege that experience can be a GOOD thing. So, it's a mixed bag, mostly OUT of MY control - At least I like to think that! ;-)

Largely of my own making~mostly because I did not heed the "red flags" about my past relationships{abusive}.My philosephy is~our backgrounds and circumstances may have influenced who we are,but we are responsible for who we become!

They were all my fault. I was a heroin addict for a long time & couldn't understand why my family turned away from me. The only person you can change is yourself. If you can recognize the changes & fix them & the problem still persists (in a relationship), then it's time to move on. There's no point on making yourself miserable with miserable people surrounding you. I make the most out of everyday because I have a lot of fences to mend & a lot of lost time to make up for with my son who is now 15.