you dont you try to ignore it instead.

Don't suppress it; enjoy it and direct it where it will be most appreciated.

For me, I take one detail and mentally obsess over it. For example if it's between two guys, and one of them smokes, I come up with ridiculous excuses. "He smells like smoke. He's too skinny prolly cause he smokes. He better not offer me a smoke. Well even though I don't smoke, why didn't he offer me a smoke?" After a while I get so annoyed with that one thing, I have no feelings for him that way anymore.

The way that is the most simple one to suppress love is through meditation. Place yourself comfortable bread slowly and deep breaths. Imagine that you are in an empty white room, there is a door and you walks towards it slowly and at last you open it. Behind this door you will see a bright light being consumed by total darkness, you feel a chill running down your back. You quickly enters the room again and just as you close the door you see the man whom you do not want to love laugh with an evil twisted smile on his face. Around your waist you can feel arms gently pulling you to safety from being pulled into the darkness and slowly turning you around. Very well turned around the room you are in is colored white yet again but this time there are roses on the floor and a table with candles and whine on it. You gaze upon the face of your savior and there you see no-one less then your boyfriends happy, loving face. Then, stretch out and open your eyes and go back to reality for you are cured.

i am the same situation. i have tried focusing on all the bad about him. I list all of them and hang them up all over. i hang a picture up of a great looking man, strong and independant, masculine etc. I try to like him. I list, or better yet invent the man that I want by listing the qualities i am looking for,...mostly being the opposite of what my former boyfriend was. I convince myself that he is gay,..as he was feminine sometimes. I was confused a lot. i find a famous woman that I want to appear to be...confident,independant,too busy with life, work, successful, attractive,..i hang her picture up all over and convince myself that I am great and that I can do much better. i excercise everyday,..wear make-up and try to look mt best when leaving the house, just in case i run into him,..and just in case i meet prince charming! I find it hard on the weekends though,..i am at home with two kids. I stopped dating because i only talk about my ex soo much. I spent too much time trying to figure out why i like him so much. I pray a lot for us to be together the way we used to be,..but who knows. I spot one handome man and i force myself to dwell on him,..i saw him at church, he said hi, and I just hope to see him again, and i am daring enough to ask him out,...what the heck,..anyone good enough just might do the trick of making me fall head over heels. I keep busy. don't have a choice. This past week I pigged out,..now i feel like crap. But I keep excercising. He sometimes makes up excuses to see me. He was very possesive and jealous. He never trusted me. I just loved him. even though people tell me he was obsessed. Now he admitted to breaking into my e-mails and on-line journals. I figure a man that obsessed will eventually want to come back. He said he checks on me via my space. But I dunno,...I am trying to move out of state and start a business. When I get sad i just throw myself into other things...projects etc. I am anxious to see him again but i convince myself that i am done with him. he broke it off with me because he was so paranoid about me and other men. I was mean to him and snobbish etc. I walked all over him. I played too many games. I drove him insane and then away. But he wasn't sure where he fit into my life. So he played games back because he is so insecure...He pretends he doesn't like me,..but he snoops through all my stuff...askes me questions about who I see, who I am with,...so I pretend I don't care anymore. I told him i loved him,..like a damn fool...and then I told him I changed my mind,...he was not who I thought he was, and that he changed. I want him back like the sweet man who was head over heels with me,..or i don't want him at all. I told him good bye because he was like a stranger to me unless he was the way he used to be. I haven't heard from him. He lives up the road. it's tough,..I hate love. I wish I never met him to fall in love. I should have stood my ground from the start when I told him no to a relationship.