Men: Is there really a proper way to use public restrooms? For example: having to keep an open urinal between you and the other men, not looking over at them etc.?
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Cyndi Ninja
ANSWERS: 8
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There is no 'rulebook' on conduct in the men's bathroom, but it follows some general principles. Guys don't like to show vulnerability in front of other guys and having to 'go' is a form of vulnerability. Because of this, we adopt sort of a 'willful blindness' to each other's presence. Just as you would pretend not to notice when someone you didn't know well made a rude noise at the dinner table, we pretend not to notice what the guy in the next stall or urinal is doing (Larry Craig and the Minneapolis PD excepted....;-D...). The rule is not inviolate. If two friends are go in at the same time and are having a conversation, they can keep the conversation going. But, just as you close the bathroom window curtains so your neighbors don't see you as you are bathing, guys put up 'mental curtains' so that we 'don't see' each other doing our business. I hope this helps. . . .
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If you must take a peak, go ahead. No Staring!
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URINALS are one part of life not experienced by women, so they should have their little questions. Basically it's just a necessary rigid interaction between function and nerve. Anything not the way it should be will be really sensitive and awkward. I was once unable to urinate because a man was waiting to use it in a small restroom where I forgot to lock the door. I later had a dream about a chinese man crying on my shoulder at the urinal and I was unable to relieve myself. Ultimately the proper way depends on who you ask, but the sensitivity is rigid from a vulnerable and semipublic position. Just imagine if the lady in the next toilet stall was knocking on the door and asking to trade toilets with you, or asking if you like what she wrote on the wall, or talking to you about defecation. There may be a lot of potential comedy over this.
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I prefer to use a stall and have some privacy when I pee.
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You know what it doesn't matter at all!
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Some guys get a little nervous, but in general guys are kind of used to (1) little to no privacy and (2) doing crude things. So pissing in front of others is not a big deal for many. I new a guy at school who often didn't bother using a toilet or urinal in the bathroom if he was talking to someone and/or the toilets and urinals were all being used. He'd just piss on the wall or floor in front of every one. Now going #2 is a different matter. The only way you can take a crap in front of other guys is if you are actually dong something crude. Crapping in a urinal, for example. Or on the floor or in a trash can.
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I normally use the actual toliet for some privacy.
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Just keep to your business and don't stare at anyone else; as eric said, "if you must take a peek do it but don't stare" I would add; do it very quickly and, only once. There are places that look like a watering trough for animals with water dripping into it. You just line up side by side and do your business. Everyone is an equal (no staring).
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