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  • This is a serious and important issue. It's never easy to be a young mom; especially, if your baby is a surprise! The most important thing is to remember that your baby is a blessing from God and it's up to you to raise your child in a loving & stable environment. Regarding, an effective approach to telling your patents that you're pregnant, the best approach is to sit your parents down and make sure that you have their full & undivided attention. Explain to your parents that you're having your baby and that you need their emotional support more than anything right now. Bottom line: The most important thing to remember is that you are the best mom that you can be to your child. I hope this advice helps and good luck with your parents!
  • Thank God you are keeping your baby. The worst that your parents can do is to kick you out... and perhaps if you bring this up to them in the conversation that you have, they will realize that they are not only kicking you out, but their grandchild to boot. Doesn't matter what the relationship is with the father of this baby is.. hopefully he is still in the picture, but you have many options with government plans until you get on your own two feet and live your life with this wonderful gift from god. God bless you.
  • I am a mother of an 18 year old that just told me she is pregnant. I know she thinks we are overprotective also (the reason we are is because we don't want her to make the same mistakes we have). She basically just told me. I was shocked, surprised, angry, disappointed and sacred. I hugged her and told her we would deal with it. I am dealing with all of my feelings and searching for the right way to help her also. I think you should just tell you parents. If you have a closer relationship with your Mom, start with her. You may be surprised at her, and to top it off it will be a huge relief on you to not hide it and get your parents support and guidance. I wish you the best and pray you make the right decisions along the way, as I do for my daughter.
  • a few months back i was pregnant. im only 18 aswell, it is so much better to tell them sooner rather then as my mum found out due to my morning sickness! she was sad and worried and my dad was mad but they calmed down. but they managed to convince me into having an abortion. BIGGEST MISTAKE EVER. I could of had it done it and done it well, i am qualified level 3 in child care and have a great understanding in looking after children right from when they are born. but i got scared and didnt go through with it. the emotional trouble i have had, the deppression and everything, all i every think about is my baby i could of had. all i needed to do was be honest with my parents and tell them i wanted it and i needed thier support. what im trying to say is make sure you have made your mind up and then make it 100% clear to your parents straight away so they dont try to convince you to do otherwise. so just sit your parents down and tell them your pregnant and you have decided to keep it but you need their help. i hope everything goes ok for you x
  • This is certainly not a great way to start an introduction. Are you even married or with a long time s/o? Good luck. This does not sound like an adult way to handle this. No wonder they are overprotective. This is a life decision, not a whim that mommy or daddy should have to weigh in on.
  • You're 18, you really don't need to talk them just wait until you start showing and let them figure it out.
  • come right out and say it ...if ur 18 they shouldnt get mad
  • Tell them you were wrong and beg them to help you out. If you really don't want their help, then why do you even care about telling them? Carelessness must have got you into this situation you are in now so I'd just be reaaaaaaaaaaally sorry because inevitably they are going to be pissed. And if your parents are understanding, they will get you help and perhaps raise the baby and help you financially. But you should have thought about the responsibilities you may have to pick up when you decided to have sex. Don't expect your parents to take care of the baby; it's yours. Therefore your responsibility. And now you have to be responsible and get help if you don't feel mature enough or ready enough. In the end though, you're going to have to grow up a lot sooner than others. It might be a struggle, but it doesn't always end poorly. You never know, this child may be the best thing that will ever happen to you, whether it was a mistake or not. What I'm trying to say is.. it's not a matter how to tell them.. just do it as soon as possible; just say it. Best wishes.
  • Send them a baby shower invitation....that will surprise the heck out of them I'm sure.
  • Best time to have a serious talk is when there is no time to do it. People digest information way better in the morning. Plus, like my favorite writer E.M.Remarque used to say, "Truth sounds better in bright light, darkness deforms things. So, a last moment you meet your mom at the kitchen in the morning, is the best. Just before you leave, catch her there and say: "You've always been a coolest mom ever *[even if you think she is not, this compliment will set her to a positive mood]*. Now I need your help and really rely on you like never before in my life. You will have to help me to make it sound somewhat softer to tell daddy... tell daddy.. ahh... mom *and put your hand on your tummy*... mommy, I'm carrying YOUR GRANDCHILD. ))))))) Now I'm gonna go to my school, you go to your work and lets think about how do we announce it to daddy. Thanx, I knew you are the best! I love you." Then hug and kiss your stunned speachless mom, and run away as quick as possible. You have to emphasize "your grandchild", so she wouldn't think, that YOU ARE pregnant, it has to concern her and a new baby in connection with her, this way information will settle in her brain better. But try to be really quick, right before you leave and almost late for school, so she doesn't have time for discussion and arguments.
  • Have you considered how you will be able to afford a child without burdening someone else? Did you have plans for an education? Do you have a job? Will the child have a father involved in his/her life? Have you considered an abortion and, next time, BIRTH CONTROL???

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