My fiance wants to have a threesome with another girl, but i don't want him to have sex with her; I'm afraid that i'll get upset. He told me he loves me and doesn't want to do anything to hurt me, but that he really wants to try it. Should i do it?
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That's easy: don't. Threesomes are serious business. You're clearly not comfortable with the idea, and if you think you'll get upset, chances are you will. Let him know your fears, and tell him you don't want a threesome. He should understand.
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Don't do it unless you're completely comfortable with the idea of having another person in your bedroom. It's not for everyone and it can do serious damage to a relationship if one or the other of you isn't fully aboard to the idea. Explain to your husband that you fear you'll get upset and for now don't want anyone else involved in your sexual relationship. Who knows, later on you could change your mind but if you're having any doubts what so ever, don't do it. It could end up doing way more harm than good.
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I am having the same problem, and he said its something he really wants and isnt willing to give up on even though i have expressed how I feel about it and my fears. He said we will wait and talk about it again in a few years to see if I feel more comfortable. but i am still hurt that he won't respect my answer the first time. i love him so much and we are great other than this, how do i get over it or how do we move past this?
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If you don't want him to have sex with her, then you guys shouldn't have a threesome. Of course he really wants to try it! Most guys really want a threesome. That doesn't mean that womean should go around letting their boyfriends have sex with other women and what not. If you go through with this, not only will you get upset, but it will break the two of you up. Only when everyone involved wants to have, and is comfortable with a threesome can it work out without negitive effects. He claims that he doesn't want to do anything to hurt you, but you know that if he does this, you will be hurt. Tell him that. If he can not respect you enough to honor that he is not worth it.
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if your uncomftorable with him doing it then hold your ground if he says he loves you then he wouldnt have any problem not doing it
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My fiance wants the same thing. At first I was totally against the idea and freaked out and thought that I wasn't good enough for him. Then I realized that it is pretty much every guys fantasy. I've found out that whether you let them or not, they still fantasize about it...most of the time actually. I came to terms with it and now really like the idea and want to do it. I told him that its ok as long as he doesn't spend more time with her. Just make it something you both want and then it should be fine, just think of it as a game, and you get really good sex out of it. Just tell him that you want to be the object of pleasure. If both of them are pleasing you, then you should feel better about it. That's how I see it, that I get double the pleasure. And then his fantasy will be completed and you won't have to do it again, unless you like it of course. Hope this helps.
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I completely understand what you are feeling. My fiance has gave me the same proposal, has preached to me about how he won't have the same emotions having sex with as he would with me, says it's something he wants to experiment with only me because he loves me etc. How do you feel about him enjoying having sex with another woman? I would not do it unless you feel comfortable doing it.
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I think you should do it. As a woman I realized that woman are naturally bi-sexual. I agreed to do it with my fiance when I realized that it is me having sex with a woman that I find attractive as much as it is him. I would suggest that you have sex with her the first time with him watching. That way it is about you and you can decide if you really like her. I realized my man really did love me when he told me about it. At first I was jelouse and hurt, but then I realized he is sharing his most intimate nature with me and that he wanted me to be part of something beautiful.
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My husband is the same way only he says he doesnt want to have sex with the other woman, just watch me with her. I have had girlfriends prior to marrying him, but dont feel comfortable with it. He has pushed me into mfm threesomes as well, and it left me feeling used and dirty. I do it for him, but when i recently expressed that I did not want to do it anymore he got upset. At the time he said fine we wont, but he still keeps talking about it and is even inviting a swinging couple to our annual summer party. If this is something YOU really want to try, then agree to TRY it. If you don't like it, then tell him and hopefully he will be satisfied with that. Don't do it just for him, it can lead to some very bad feelings. Regret and hurt for you and resentment for him. If you do it once, he may get mad if /when you dont want to do it again. Don't get me wrong, there are many couples that swing or have threesomes successfully, but be sure it is something that you want to do. I would hate for you to have regrets later.
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It sounds like you would not be okay with a threesome and if one person is not okay with it, it shouldn't happen. Don't do anything sexual that you're not comfortable with. A threesome can be a great thing, but it can be disastrous if you're not into it.
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