My son just came out to me as a heterosexual. What do I do? How should I react?
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Tell him it's good he came out of the closet be supportive for him :)
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The irony of this question is priceless. Thanks for making my day. Z
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This is different! It's usually they come out as Homosexual or Bisexual! :D I suppose it makes no difference what sexuality he prefers to live his life to. It's his choice and he's made the decision of his own free will. The best that can be done is to chat about it and make sure he has your full support. He'd appreciate that the most.
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i think your confused you mean he is homosexual right cause hetro is straight which you would automatically assume correct me if i am wrong
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Pretend that you think this is normal.
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Watch carefully for other signs of political incorrectness.
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OMG, I am so sorry to hear that. The fact that your son told you is a sign of his or her love and need for your support and understanding. Many parents feel bitter resentment at the fact of their child's hetrosexuality. This feeling is based on the assumption that being hetrosexual is a matter of choice and that this was a conscious decision. Hetrosexuals are found in all types of families with all types of backgrounds. No one knows as yet what "causes" any kind of sexuality, but it is widely accepted today that a child's sexual orientation is set at a very early age, if not at birth. It is now generally acknowledged by the psychiatric community that hetrosexuality is not, as was previously supposed, a disease which can be cured. LOL.
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oh no it's time to send him to a shrink and "fix" him....
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First, remain calm. Remember that this is still your child, and you love him. Secondly, know that there's nothing you could have done to prevent this. He's not hetero because you made him play football or refused to buy him the EZ Bake Oven he wanted so much. He was born straight, and that's ok because variety is important. Plus, it's more common than you may think. 90% of the people on the planet are straight, perhaps more. There will be hurdles to overcome, like when you meet his first girlfriend, but you will get used to his lifestyle and see beyond it. There's a support group for friends and family members of heterosexuals. It's called THE ENTIRE FREAKING HETERO-CENTRIC WORLD.
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put him in the bin
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Sit him down and ask him if he's really tried dating guys. And look for kernels of hope - eg, does he show ANY interest in interior decorating?
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Just be supportive and love your son just the same. ----------[EDIT]----------- If he said he is heterosexaul then that means he is straight.
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So what if he likes girls? I've got loads of straight relatives and I still love them and accept their way of life. You should be proud that you've raised your son to be an honest human being.
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Keep him away from the other children I hear it's contagious.
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Shouldn't you be happy that he is normal?
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Just remember to hate the sin and not the sinner. Heteros are gaining wider acceptance and some are even coming out of the porno shops and strip clubs. There's even talk of the APA considering the removal of heterosexuality from the DSM as a mental disorder.
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Accept him. Stay calm.
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He has a better life ahead of him that heterosexuals did in the past. After all, today heterosexuality is not considered a mental defect. The general theory is that sexual orientation is a "born" thing rather than a choice. Just be supportive and learn as much about heterosexuality as you can. Support him if the kids at school tease him and tell him that nothing is wrong with him. With a little searching you can find support groups for parents of heterosexual children. You should be honored that he trusted you enough to come out about his heterosexuality. :)
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...Treat him like you were treating him before?
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oh my goodness.....how are you doing? i know it's a difficult time for you all but you seem to be such a great parent (from other questions/comments i've read from you) so~just do what you always do with him and love and support him; be glad that he can talk to you :) fabulous question +++
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disown him!!
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You really do have a sharp wit! Bravo on making me think outside the box!
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I'm sure there is a religious organisation you could take him to ....they will soon have that sorted out...:)
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Have you told him that heterosexual sex can have horrendous consequences? Like... CHILDREN!!
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Just take it in your stride he is still the same little boy you have always loved. The only bad thing is that now one day you will be called GRANDMA
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You should stop calling him Nancy, and get on with life.
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I...I'm so glad I'm not the only one. I felt like such an alien for a long time. Please, just love him and treat him the same as you would if he didn't have this curse. Let him know there's someone who is just like him.
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There have been a few folk here that I have teased unmercifully. Am I sorry? Well, maybe a little. The question came to me over supper, and it seemed so normal and natural. Heterosexual people come out within 5 minutes of meeting you: * My husband/wife etc said..... * When we got married.... * I'm allowed out with the lads/girls tonight We gay folk either hide or risk non-acceptance. So it was time to illustrate this and see what happened. And you know what? Not one troll! Oh, I got a few negative marks - about 25 in all - can't see the point of that, but that is life. Thank you for enjoying it so much. Oh, if you are still unsure..... It was irony
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Look for a chapter of Parents and Friends of Straight People.
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I never knew there was such a thing. Thank you
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Disown that motherfucker, how dare he go against gawd and his holy commandments! Once he's outta the family take him out back and teach him a damn lesson! May I suggest using a Bible? Big enough to knock him out but won't leave marks! (Just to add, searching "big bible" in google images comes out with some rather...interesting views)
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At least he's not hetercephalous, then you wouldn't know which way he was headed. Or imagine the horrors of hetercarpyism.
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Do you mean homosexual, or do you mean heterosexual, either way, you need to accept and love your son, or else you'll lose him.
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The best way to do is to talk to your son, explain to him what homosexuality means. People become homosexuals because they yield to abnormal acts or lust. It is through some source that they have received a demonic spirit that drives them to their lust. Viewing evil videos or pornographic books is a way of opening the door for Satan to give one an evil, perverse spirit. Though people are not born as homosexuals, the Bible does say all human beings are born with a sin nature. If we yield to the evils of our flesh it will lead to our destruction not only in this life, but in the life to come.
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Stay calm. If church can't sort him out, then maybe an apperance on a daytime talk show will do the trick. Didn't Montel have boot camp for this sort of stuff?
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That's not the point. I've known parents who want their sons to grow up to be doctors, lawyers, engineers, but gay? I guess there's a first for everything...
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One of my coworkers came out to me as a heterosexual on a lunchtime shopping trip once. I could tell that she just couldn't hold it in any longer. It must have been hard for her to be living in San Francisco, having to pass under that rainbow flag just to walk in through the front door of the bar we work at, and to still only be attracted to men. I could tell she really got a big burden off her chest that day. I was just glad to be the one to help her lift that burden off.
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I think you should be loving and humane. Try electric shock treatment and if that doesnt work maybe a labotomy is the answer. Just dont do anything drastic or that will harm him.
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God made a WOMAN for adam, not a man. If the would were meant to be unpopulated, he would have given adam a man and none of us would be here. Ok, isn't it a bit hypocritical to be mad or upset or whatever with your CHILD for being heterosexual? You made him through the wonderful process of human reproduction and that does not involve two guys. What is this world coming to? Homosexuality is what you should be worried about
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The natural attraction to the OPPOSITE sex is very normal and should not be shunned by any means.
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ok, so what? Homosexuals are a minority, and heterosexuals are very common and in fact most all families have heterosexual children and parents are heterosexual themselves. Just because their straight doesn't mean anything is wrong with them. It's just who they are. Wouldn't u be aoffended if he loked at you as if you have three heads and eight eyes just because of your sexual orientation?Just accept him for who he is or get over it. Its not you sleeping with a woman now is it?So what does it matter to you?
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You crack me up freddy, seriously thats funny, but at the same time extremely horrific. Wow. Keysha, you are correct, congratulations. And as for you Artiszd,(as posted by the CDC........) Transmission Category Estimated # of AIDS Cases, Through 2005* Adult and Adolescent Male Adult and Adolescent Female Total Male-to-male sexual contact 452,111 - 452,111 Injection Drug Use 168,314 73,050 241,364 Male-to-male sexual contact and injection drug use 65,881 - 65,881 High-risk heterosexual contact** 61,438 102,171 163,609 Other*** 13,978 6,582 20,560 *Includes persons with a diagnosis of AIDS from the beginning of the epidemic through 2005. **Heterosexual contact with a person known to have, or to be at high risk for, HIV infection. *** Includes hemophilia, blood transfusion, perinatal, and risk not reported or not identified. http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/surveillance/basic.htm Check it out........ Tell me what you think. Seems like i was right but i was once called cixelsyd, whatever that means.
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Well that's pretty normal unless u want him to b gay or something... idk
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Wow, what a position to be in. Are you ready for such a thing? Maybe a support group or local church can help. There are things you'll need to be prepared for. You may see tapes of Baywatch lying around. This is normal. And being straight, your son is likely to be fashion-challenged and something of a slob. This can be corrected over time but expect some reluctance on your son's part. It's also well known that straight teens eat everything in sight, so expect your grocery bill to be somewhat higher. And there's a stong liklihood that he'll put more emphasis on sports (of all kinds) than you think necessary. This is okay, but spitting and scratching are to be discouraged. You can make it through this. Many straight young men go on to live fairly normal lives. Good luck.
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Welcome the fact he’s not homosexual and count your blessings
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if you love him. support his decision. he is not hurting anyone
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Do you mean homosexual? heterosexual means your straight. you come out as being gay, not straight.
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Always Love him no matter what. he might not always do the things you agree with but your love for him should never change
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take it in u dont want 2 loose him
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maybe you should just take it unless he is good lookin than he might have a chanca also dont you want grandchildren then you have a problem
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Well...It's a tough subject to deal with. I myself am a....heterosexual....my parents were a little shocked when I told them, but they got used to it. :) lol
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He's still the same, he's your son!
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I thought a hetrosexual was a straight person :S
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you know theirs a differance between homosexual and heterosexual make sure you know what he means by that...
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Does this bother you or something? His sexuality should not upset you at all. You should be supportive of him- he is your son after all...
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everything will be okay, just be supportive in the decisions he makes.. I know.. It will be hard. But you can not give upon him. he is your son. its ok if he...likes girls. It's not his fault. just be supportive, and treat him like you used to ..before he came out.
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You have a problem with this?
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Heterosexual means that he is straight. It means that he likes girls. I am not too sure how to answer that. I think you are confusing it with homosexual. You have nothing to worry about.
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I look at this question, and I am extremely confused... Aren't most people heterosexual? Why are many people making it out to be as if being heterosexual (defined as: het·er·o·sex·u·al·i·ty (ht-r-sksh-l-t) n. Erotic attraction, predisposition, or sexual behavior between persons of the opposite sex.) is abnormal. Please tell me what I am misunderstanding.
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I'm sorry - is this an American thing? Heterosexual is a straight person, so why all the both about this question? do you mean homosexual? I just don't understand why all the bother if he's straight? only in american huh?!
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I'm so sorry, Freddy! I can just imagine how terrible it would feel to have a son who puts his penis in women's... in... women's..... OH GOD I CAN'T DO IT, I JUST CAN'T SAY IT! What has this world come to? Don't worry, I'll start praying for you ASAP! Your in line after Jodie Foster and David Archuleta!
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Laugh it up, but I once saw a post on another site where a woman complained that her teenage son had a "secret girlfriend." How did she know this? Because she had found a muscleman magazine under her sons' bed, and she figured it must have been left there by a "secret girlfriend." Lady, I have good news and bad news ...
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let him feel the way he feels cause its not his fault
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act calm and ask him about things and just talk to him
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that is great
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take a deep breath and smile a penetrating smile
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BWAHAHAHA! This is the funniest post I've seen on the bag in AGES! Kudos, Man! Errr.....I mean.... My best wishes during this...difficult time.
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my uncles and and cusisn are all mostly gay and you know it was hard for me at first but one thing i relize is what they call unconditinal love!! no matter what and a mothers love is stronger then anything. yes it will take time but dont ever stop loving him for who he is.
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Prepare yourself. It's all down hill from here. Next thing you know he'll be bringing home grandkids. Goodluck...
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Kierkegaard once said that the most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly one you can never have. You're upset because the future you had planned out for your son is gone: the wife, the kids, the normal life. But you have to remember that your plan for your son was never going to be. He was always going to go his own way, make his own decisions. You have to relinquish any control you thought you had over this area of his life. This will mean treating him differently, not because he's gay but because you accept his personal freedom.
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beat him with a stick, if he likes it hes telling the truth
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Just so you know heterosexual means that he's straight...if you're talking about him coming out as gay, then the correct term is HOMOsexual (homo means the same like in the word homogenous)......also I would be supportive and understanding, being gay is just one part of who someone is, he's still the same person
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React normally and do nothing, heterosexuality is normal.
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I would not be sorry for you .. its not like he woke up and said "let me freak my mom out " he was born like that.. and you should love,care,and talk to him the same way you do now ..
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So he likes girls.... and this is bad?
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he came out as being straight??
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well you may not be to pleased with him right now but just tell him that you love him no matter what..the reason for my answer is bcuz it could just be a phase..
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heterosexual means straight...do you mean homosexual?
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let him know that you will always love him and accept him for who he is! I'm only 17 and have tones of gay friends. Being gay is more widely accepted in Society these days and also its his life. Anyway it might just be a phase, it is common for teenagers to explore their sexualities.
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thats disgusting! Whats wrong with good old fashioned, brokeback mountain style buttsecks?
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wat is a heterosexual
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that means he's straight you idiot whats the problem
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Perhaps there are groups like PFLAG that can help you come to terms with your straight son. I'm sorry that your expectations may not be met... don't think of what you have lost, think that at least you will gain a daughter and perhaps have grand children after this all works out for him.
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Perhaps you should view sexuality in a detached sense, leaving your personal feelings aside. Whether a person is heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or indeed asexual i think you have to respect every individuals choice as to whom they chose to love emotionally and physically. Being heterosexual does not make your son any less of the boy/man you raised you should still love him and respect him as (i assume) you always have and in return the bond between the two of you should grow stronger.
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omg... that was probably the funniest question ive seen on here
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don't you mean homosexual...?
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do you mean homosexual? if so, its ur son. you love him no matter what. well atleast u better... dont act different towards him, tell him it's okay because honestly. love is love.
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Excuse me, do you mean HOMOSEXUAL? Heterosexual means being attracted to the opposite sex. So you are saying that your son just came out to you that he likes girls. Heterosexual = straight homosexual = gay/lesbian bisexual = attracted to both females/males In regard to homosexuality, react as a MOTHER/FATHER. You should be happy for what makes your child most happy. It is natural, more common than people think, and it is not a disease. It is a preference and is no bigger deal than if someone likes spinach or not. If you react with anger or stress, your child will pick up on that and it will make it harder on him. Just deal with it in a mature and accepting way. Best regards.
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Just be glad you found out this way and didnt have to find out by walking in on him getting his rod polished by two smoking hot cheerleader sluts or watching the Super Bowl on mute in his room.
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I feel like there is a serious typo in this question. Either way parents need to show love, affection, and support to their children, regardless of sexual orientation
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Tie him to a chair and force him to watch a guy in a thong dance for him until he is homosexual. I feel this will solve your problems
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Honestly if that's what he likes,It's his life let him live it if it makes him happy,deffenatly dont over react that shows that you dont want it.just act like if he were to say im in love with a girl.simple and plain vieww
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wow this is serious before you now it he'll be chewing tobaco shooting tin cans and joining the republican party lol.(best question ever) have you tried watching musical theater together it might help lol.
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o.k. this is serious, call in the the fag squad, hours while asleep pipe Judy Garland and hello dolly soundtracks into his bedroom, leave Vogue and Harpers on his study desk. watch 'Gladiator' frequently . put 'l e cage aux folles ' on a continious loop in the dvd, tell him about the wonderful travel oppurtunities as a flight attendant. get him invites to Mardi gras parties. alas if none of this works I am sorry but he is straight and there is no cure,the social stigma of having a hetro son is I know social suicide, but he is your child , so I am sure you will love him still. on a serious note , some of these answers are just extraordinairy, irony is a vitamin supplement to certain ABers, so that is funny in its own way also.
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i think you should accept your child for who they are.
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Hey, at least he told you. I have yet to tell my parents that I'm bisexual and am afraid to show them my girlfriend. You shouldn't treat him any diffrent than you did before he told you. Hes your son and no matter what, you should allways love him.
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Ok first HETEROsexual means your son is straight. HOMOsexual means your son is gay. so if you meant heterosexual i dont see what the problem is. if you meant homosexual then just been tehre to support him. coming out to your parents can be ther hardest thing ever the fact he did that shows he can lean on you. no matter what his interest is you should be there for him!
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when you say hertero sexual, did you mean gay or straight? because hetero means straight, and you usually "come out" as gay not straight.
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Great that you have his trust. Did you love him before he told you? Just keep doing it. He's the same person that he was before he told you.
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It's probably just a phase he is going through.
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