I have a 13 year old daughter and a 15 year old son; should the dating rules be different for them? How about when my daughter is 15, should her rules be the same as my son's current rules?
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Hmm. If you were in Hicksville, Arkansas, wouldn't that be a breeding unit?
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No, I think your son's rules should be the same as the daughter's. I think boys should be taught responsibility and respect for women. Don't let him do things with other people's daughters that you would not want someone to do with yours.
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The rules should be the same for both your kids, im right on saying there only 15yrs and 13yrs dating should NOT be in there minds at such a young age, as you are there parent you should have control over this, what would happen if your daughter got pregnant or your sone got a girl pregnant could you live with your CHILD having a baby when she is a child her self and like wise for your son, i think not its a big responsibility brining up children as your well aware, let them be children and grow up in there teenage years dont ADVANCE them before there time. Children are not children any more they are being made out older than they actually are by there parents enjoy your kids without having grandchildren!
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IMO, the rules should apply to your daughters date.
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The second child often gets more freedom than the first who has to plough his own furrow. It would be a good ideal to give them both equal doses of common sense; but in the real world ...
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In theory the rules should apply equally to either based on their age. Having said that, the theory usually doesn't work out in practice. It depends a lot on the relative maturity possessed by each child. By the age of thirteen you should be able to sit down and talk openly about sex with both children. This is the forum for you to voice your views on the subject, to lay out your moral arguments and to point out the dangers of sex before they may be ready (teen pregnancy, STDs, damage to reputation, etc.) Actual rules would depend on how serious they take this conversation. An attitude of "Yeah, yeah, I've heard it all before." would necessitate more stringent rules than an attitude of sober thought and contribution to the discussion. Hope this helps and good luck.
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Both of them should get the same rules, because when my mom used the different rules with me and my 3 years older sister, and i felt so unfair and felt she favored my sister than me. and its like she didn't trust me than she did with my older sister, so I would never do this to my 2 kids.
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i think when your 15 you want more responsibilty because they are closer to 16 so i think you should give your son a bit more independance then your daughter. when your daughter turns 15 i think there should be different rules according to safety because there are higher dangers for girls than there are boys. but make sure the other rules are the same overwise your daughter might get jealous believe me i know
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Why would you even consider setting a "double standard"? Teach your children to repsect themselves, and those they choose to date. Do not allow your son to "choose" to have sex because that is what males do. On the other hand, don't promote virginity to your daughter if you are not going to do the same with your son. We are "equal", so do yourself a favor, treat all your children the same in regards to "rules".
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I think it should depend on the maturity level of the child. I dislike rules like "you can't date until you're 15" because it's so general. Some people are mature and responsible enough to handle dating before others. The best way to handle it is to start off slowly, like group dates, and then let them prove that they are mature enough to reach the next level, eventually ending with one on one dates. It may be that your 13 year old is mature enough to handle dating at the same time your 15 year old is.
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Well they obviously are, as you are talking about setting rules for your 15 Yo boy, Your daughter obviously wants to date at 13, which is the reason you posted the question. You must really be anal, a 15 year old boy never dated, talk about screwing them up. How old were you when you dated ?? 20.
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I think it depends on what your rules are for your 15year old. I have a 13 yr stepdaughter and I know she has had boyfriends but she has never even asked about dating and she still has a little girl mind but is slowly developing mentally. However her physical appearance can be mistaken for a 18 yr old so that can create a problem. I would not allow my 13yr girl to do the same things as I would my 15 yr son. But then again like I said I don't know what your rules are for your 15 yr old.
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you have to remember, girls usually go for older men, but not way older and guys usually the same or younger age. if your daughter is 13 she can date up to about 15 yr olds and visa versa. is that what you meant?
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