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by The Sega on January 31st, 2008

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Third Wheels. No one wants to be one, no one wants to have them around. The problem? I'm the third wheel. In my group of friends, I'm always the one that is forgotten about and shoved to the back. So, how do I stop this? How can stop being a third wheel?

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  • by DA on February 1st, 2008

    DA

    It sounds like these people don't appreciate you as much as you appreciate them. You could get one of them alone and tell them that it's bothering you.

    But I'd definitly recommend finding new friends, other people who have stuff in common with you. You might find that you can start a new social circle where you are more valued.

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  • by Krose55 on January 31st, 2008

    Krose55

    It's not true that everyone hates a third wheel, just not all the time. Try going out with friends without their partner around all the time too. Or if going out with a couple or group of couples invite a platonic friend with you, male or female, who isn't "coupled." But don't be down on yourself for being the third wheel, because of all my friends they're pretty much all coupled besides one guy, and he's a great person who everyone loves having around :)

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  • by Done. never again. on January 31st, 2008

    Done. never again.

    Well if your group of friends consists of 3 people, and you are the third wheel in their friendship, the solution would be to invite more people into your friend group, or start your own group of friends.

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  • by Penny The Wise on February 1st, 2008

    Penny The Wise

    You set the tone. Don't hang out with your friends when it will be them and their significant other. Or make it all just a group of people who aren't together. You can always decline an invitation or ask for more info as to who will be there. And have you tried talking to your friends? Maybe if they start doing their little "lovey-dovey" stuff, you could in a funny way say something like "Hey guys! I'm over here! But you probably couldn't see me through the back of each other's heads..." Hopefully that will give them a hint. If not, they're just too into their relationship and you need to find friends who are single.

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  • by Anonymous on February 1st, 2008

    Anonymous

    Here's the thing, I went through the exact same thing, and I lterally had no life outside school. You have got to insert yourself into conversations at the risk of sounding strange. You need to care less about what other people think about you and just do what you want and say what comes to mind. You need to speek up in situations concerning yourself, so that you can have what you want the most. You have to help yourself in helping yourself. It worked for me, my schedules are booked like weeks in advance, and I have plans with friends all the time, and these friends don't ditch me or hang out without me. Life is great when you speak up.

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  • by john pennington on February 1st, 2008

    john pennington

    Deflate your tire.

    Its time for a new alignment and balance in your life.

    Are you a follower?

    If so, you are going to have to do a 360 turnaround.

    Go to a website that teaches you how to be a leader. read the material and follow it to the end.

    If you have the basic qualities to lead, you can do this with sheer determination.

    Leave your group of friends and find new friends.

    "Wheels" have no part in friendly relationships.

    You see one Wheel and you have seen them all.

    Go for it...........

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  • by HungryGuy on February 1st, 2008

    HungryGuy

    Sega--Try to get in with a few "circles" of friends so that you're not dependent on just one group of friends... (that goes for you, too, proudtobedifferent :-)

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  • by proudtobedifferent on February 1st, 2008

    proudtobedifferent

    Don't break off man. I feel for you. For a week I broke off from being the third wheel and now no freinds, no life, no happiness. Please find a better solution. I am so lonely. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

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